Planning..

Hi Aussie,

Welcome to the Oh baby Forums you will find many wondeful, helpfull people on here who will offer a tone of non-judgemental advise.

Congrats on making some very big decisions! Moving countries, moving in and starting a family togeather.
With so much happening sometimes we all of a sudden take a breath and think woah.
Becoming a parent concently challenges our wee brains and you will have many little "freak outs" along the way!
For us, we decided to start our family beause we knew we were ready and I'm pleased we were in a postion to do that. Many factors play a part.
You seem to be very forward thinking and know what you need to do to be at your healthest for baby.
Sometimes as nature has it we don't get preg straight away the first month but if this doesnt happen for you use this as a great way to track your cycles there are some great threads on here with lot's of ladies doing this who will help. So much to lern and very interesting.
In terms of saving money....it's great you are thinking about this I'm not really sure how much? But it's great you are planning.
Anywhoooo really just wanted to say hi it can be a scary thing this planning to have a baby but you have come to the right place chose a thread and jump on in

Hi TopKat,

Thank you so much for replying!! I have to admit I wondered if I would get any replies! It sure is a scary thing!!! but so very exciting. Admittedly we aren't ready 'right now', hence the plan for mid next year, and are enjoying settling in together, living together and just enjoying each others companies. We are also getting financials sorted and want to have time to have some squirreled away and not living week to week, I guess that's what I mean when I say saving some money, not a whole lot but enough to fall back on should anything unexpected arise.

It was so nice of you to say hi! I have to also admit that I'm very new to Auckland so some girly talk is very nice!

I'm looking forward to contributing a little bit more! :)

AussieAussie x

Hi Aussie

I agree with Chickoin - My DH & I conintually put TTC further down the road, we wanted to pay this off, do that, do some travel etc etc. There was always an excuse or what we felt were good reasons to put TTC off. I guess having all our siblings having had an opsie to start off and having to stick their hands out for help made us determined to not be like them.

I think in the end I put my foot down & got my IUD taken out - booked the app a couple of weeks in advance so we had time to get used to the idea.

And yes it took us 6mths to concieve - which has put us ahead just that little bit more. While TTC we went to Canada for 3 weeks, got married and really enjoyed our time away (we were similar with we started our relationship Me in Auckland, DH in Rotorua - we believe its made us stronger for it though!)

You will know when you are ready, or pretty much there, it is a HUGE step to knowingly have unprotected sex - took us a few weeks to get used to the idea! But once you relax and get used to it - its all rather easy and fun

Good on you for thinking ahead though - you could get your rheubela immunity checked at the Dr early next year, and 3mths before you start TTC start taking Iodine & Folic Acid

Good Luck!

Aussie- I thinkthere's some evidence to suggest that you'll be at your most fertile coming off the Pill, but one thing that really helped me (psychologically) was coming off the pill earlier (I went off mid last year, and we started TTC this April), as it meant I knew my cycles were pretty regular (and if they hadn't been, I had time up my sleeve to deal with it). I know others who have thrown the pills away and then spent several months getting their cycles sorted out, so I would recommend going with your plan of mid-2011.

Good luck- I remember making the decision to start trying in the future, and that was almost as exciting as the decision to officially start Trying! (all the excitement, much less stress).