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Emmecat View Drop Down
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LMAO MMM- we had similar rules, although we didn't grow up on a farm we grew up in what was a small quiet town with no busy roads nearby. Our effluent pond rule was the river, and the bull paddock rule applied to any paddock that contained livestock. Also we weren't meant to play in the quarry and especially not slide down the mountains of quarried rock (but we did).  Other than that yep, Mum used to give us afternoon tea and say be home for  dinner (or lunch at the weekend) and we just kind of knew when it started to get a bit darker in the arvo we best go home lol.

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Oh and I now tell my stepkids (and Clodagh when she's old enough) to treat all fences as if they were electric.  Having had horses for a large part of my life you quickly learn that rule lol. My DSS learnt the hard way and ignored my advice, gave him a hell of a shock (literally). It was kind of funny in a way IYKWIM...we've all been there! But yeah I know some parents who would be paranoid about letting their kid experience such a thing (we def didn't 'let' him...he wandered off and ignored our advice).  The thing is, he's NEVER touched a fence wire again, and his respect for the farm land has increased 100%!

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I haven't read all the posts.... but just wanted to add something because as I was reading this I kept thinking of my SIL who is about to lose her kids to CYFS if she doesnt buck up her ideas... and it doesnt look like she is...

Her kids must be as free range as they come. They are ages 2 through to 14 and they are left to themselves while she stays in bed most days. the 6 and 7 year old have to catch the bus to school and sometimes the 12 year old busses around looking after the 2 year old. It's just nuts...

I am definitly for letting kids have the freedom to be independant, but under a watchful eye. I let my kids learn for themselves why not to do things... let them make their mistakes, and let them be kids. I am not paranoid about them getting messy or never having a lollie...

In the right hands, parents who embrace free range parenting are probably on to a good thing, but I can just imagine my SIL learning about it and going sweet see I'm a good mum, I'm a free range mum... It seems just from what I am looking at that parents who choose to be 'free range' and can work with it well might find it great, but others may pick up on it and think it is a warrant to be lazy...
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Emmecat - glad to give you laugh, I know that you could you use a few sometimes. I forgot about the electric fence - ouch one blast and never again. Am scared of all wite fences.

xXELAXx - I see why you are worried that sounds there are some real nasty issues there and probably mental health ones. I'd call that neglected parenting. I hope it does get sorted.
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in my opinion free range parenting is knowing your child's abilities and limits and allowing them to do what they are capable of. It's also letting your child fail and build resilience. It is teaching your child.

Neglectful parenting is just that - they don't learn lessons, they try to survive.
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i'm in the "free range within reason" camp... in that i pretty much give DS free range (in our yard at least - he's not even 2 yet) but am always there watching him and if he needs me he comes and gets me.

i honestly feel like its the best way for him to learn how to do things and develop - some parents i've seen won't even let their child play on the playground without assisting their every move which i think is a little overprotective. funnily enough, their kids seem to have more accidents (falling off things etc) than mine does, but each to their own i guess.
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Mum to Cian (Aug 08), Josh (Jun 10)


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