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    Posted: 28 October 2011 at 12:02pm
So a question for those who bf.

I bf my daughter and had no issues or problems. I really enjoyed it and found it a great way to bond with her etc . I bf her until 10 months.

This time with my son im really not enjoying it. He is 3 1/2 months now and i havent really had any issues at all. So i really dont have a reason to why im not enjoying it im just not. I was wanting to bf him until 18 months or so and see how i feel after that but now im not too bothered. Although i am very pro bfing and dont want to give up at the same time. Its all very confusing thoughts going on in my head

For those who didnt enjoy bfing as much was there a time it got better and you did enjoy it? I know DS is still young so one day it might all change and ill feel alot better about it
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I started enjoying it once they start smiling and giggling while on the boob, before that its almost like a little suction cup and both my girls used to stare off into space and not look at me.
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I felt this exact same way about my kids, I didn't enjoy BFing, not really sure why. So I acknowledged this and kept at it because as much as I didn't particularly want to BF, I didn't want to be faffing around with bottles and sterilising things more. I just set a time ( a year old) that I was going to try to get to and just stuck at it. DS1 was supplemented at 4mo with a bottle at night, and I bf him until 9mo, when I got pregnant and he would fuss and I just couldn't be bothered anymore,and the other one I did until about a year old when he reached that annoying suck on suck off stage so I weaned then.
So no real advice, but know that you aren't unusual and that ultimately, you are giving your child the best nutrition and thats probably the main thing.
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I have been reading a book or mag while bfing for dayfeeds for a few months now. I sit sideways on a bed with a pillow under DS2 so i have at least one hand free to turn pages lol.

It might not be pc, but it has been great for my sanity to have a little bit of time to read without DS1 bugging me...

Sure DS2 is cute, so i often just watch him, but often the chance to read is too good. All in the balance I reckon.
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Why is it un-pc to read a book while feeding?? I missed that memo, I was hanging out for uninterrupted time to read Sadly, I never really managed to get the hang of doing both at once, but if you can, more credit to you

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When you are feeding, do you often feel 'yuck'? I am pro-breastfeeding, and am still feeding my DS2 who is 11 months, but i get what is called 'D-Mer' (linky), which is basically when you don't get the love hormone from breastfeeding, but you get negative feelings instead due to the wrong hormones being released.

I found things improved for me a lot when I was rested, eating and drinking well, and when my son reached about 6 months old it dramatically improved and now i am enjoying feeding him.
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I find bfing kinda boring a lot of the time. Bug is very focused when she eats so most of the time theres no eye contact or interaction. When she does it's lovely but for the most part she just stares at my boob. If it weren't for books or wifi on my phone I'd go a bit mental.

SMS I wonder if it has something to do with not being able to completly relax into it this time round? I know if I had a 2yr old running round every time I sat down to BF I'd be wondering what the older one was up to.
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_SMS_ I still don't really enjoy BF lol and I'm feeding 2!! I had heaps of issues but it's not cos of those so much, just that I don't really enjoy it overly. I just try to think of the good I'm doing for my kids adn use the time to rest (in theory) . If you can read while BF then yay go for it! Or you could watch telly or anything to make it a bit more pleasant. If you really hate it though then maybe don't do it...... it's a hard call but it does get easier and a bit less boring.

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5 months was the point it got "easy" for me and i could relax and enjoy it... hang on in there! I would watch telly until she would BF in only 5 mins then no use turning it on!
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I love breastfeeding, and am still feeding my little one, but I found it a bit of a chore at times having an older child and felt a bit guilty she didint get that special time with me. It got easier once the big girl got the hang of it,and it didnt take up as much of my time to feed her little sis.
I want to encourage you to hang in there, maybe reasses it at 6 months and see how you feel then

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SMS I had the exact same thing loved B/fing my daughter but feeding my son was just plain weird. It does go once they're more interactive. I ended up feeding him for a lot longer than her too!

I used to read a book while feeding him as well so maybe it was me being detached from him, yet now I feel closer to him that I do her cause he's more cuddly lol
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I found breastfeeding my little one hardest between 3 and 6 months. I think tiredness had a lot to do with me not enjoying it. I was also envious of the freedom which my friends who weren't breastfeeding enjoyed.
Things got a lot better after 6 months when the number of feeds reduced and I started getting more sleep. I'm now really glad I hung in there and treasure the bond we have because of bfing.
I agree that you can maybe find some things to do while feeding to occupy you - a great book, watch and episode of your fave tv show, catch up with friends on facebook - what ever it takes....
Best of luck!
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I never read that memo about book reading either. DD would take ages so after the novelty wore off I always made sure I had a good book. I used to have a basket with all the things I needed at hand, book, remote, tissues, phone, snacks, water, crafts, notebook and pen. But I think maybe that's not the problem you have.

Don't pressure yourself too much, and maybe give it some time. Over the years I have had times where it felt like a chore, I have felt really pi**ed off, just a human dummy, but did find that this quote helped. Stuck it to my fridge so I wouldn't forget.

"You are not a pacifier; you are a Mum.
You are the sun, the moon, the earth,
You are liquid love; you are warmth, you are security,
You are comfort in the very deepest aspect of the meaning of comfort...

BUT you are NOT a pacifier!

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