Birth Trama PTSD

Hi Eassa

I had PTSD and have since come across a couple of other mums who have had the same.

PM me if you want - I know it is hard, I was really lucky to have a wonderful doctor (who happens to be a mum of 3) and got me sorted right away.

I found a couple of websites in america but not much here most of the help is related to PND, but in saying that the support groups for PND would be worthwhile talking to as well, as sometimes all you need is a hug or someone to listen.

I would strongly recommend seeing a counsellor. You may even want to meet a couple of different ones to find someone who is right for you. Your feelings are not going to go away on their own and from my own personal experience only get bigger with out professional help. You want to be excited about TTC not terrified. You need to be kind to yourself, put yourself first and take care of your emotional self. There is no perfect time to conceive it happens when it happens. When you do you become pregnant, you will want to experience all the joy, excitement and anticipation you felt with your first. Therefore it is important to work through any past tramas, anxieties and depressions before conceiving. Otherwise you may find your pregnancy would be one of worry, fear, anxiety, depression etc.

My son is 1 in two weeks and when I was pregnant I thought i would be trying to conceive again after his first birthday. With counselling I have been able to accept that I need to take care of myself before trying for another baby. My hubby really wants another baby but he accepts that it may take me along time, if ever, for me to want to try another baby. He would rather have a happy healthy wife than the big family we had planned for. Sometimes we need to grieve for the life we imagen we would have before we can appreciate the life we do have.

I really hope this helps you and doesn't sound like I am a know it all. Happy to talk more if you like.

PTSD is SO real ! birth and the birthing experience are such big meaningful milestones in a woman's life and leave such an imprint... I appreciated seeing an tapping/ EFT practitioner- I found it better than counselling as you don't have to talk & relive everything unless you want to, and its just quicker.... It helped to take away the emotional charge. Check around as some counsellors are probably trained in this these days too...

Gosh and after your miscarriages, you poor things x

Glad it all worked out in the end but one thing I do know about PTSD is that it gets worse the longer you leave it to get help. So get help as soon as possible from a therapist. I recommend "Mothers Helpers" for PND.

Take care...