Life after Miscarriage

Hi girls,

Just wondering if anyone has any info to share on this. I had a miscarriage on 6 Feb at 7 weeks. The MW I saw said that I should get AF back as per normal. I should’ve got it around 18 Feb but so far no sign of it. Just wondering if anyone out there wants to share any info about when their periods started again after suffering a miscarriage. It should be here now but instead I am having some period like pains but that’s it. But I am guessing it's probably perfectly normal for it to take a little while for things to settle down again???

Sorry to hear about your loss.
I got mine back about 6 weeks later.

Sorry to hear about your MC
I had one in june of last year and it took 4 months to get my period back then i got pregnant the month after that.

Hi Sally Belly,
I'm really sorry to hear of your miscarriage, I hope you are feeling ok. I am sure any of the ladies here would say the same, but feel free to private message me if you would like to talk or vent. Sometimes it’s nice to have people who’ve experienced similar loss to talk to.

I got my AF only two weeks after my MC, and this was out of cycle with when I would normally get it. It then returned to a 30 day cycle straight away, but it has changed considerably. It used to be long and heavy, but now only lasts two days with only light bleeding.

Your midwife was probably trying to reassure you, but as you can see above, AF returning varies from woman to woman. I have friends whose AF didn't return for months, and others who came back just like normal. I would probably allow at least a full month for your body to settle down. The recommendation is also that you have at least one full cycle before trying to conceive again, but again I know people who didn't wait and had healthy pregnancies right off the bat.

It's a stressful and challenging time, and no doubt you're frustrated with your body, but try not to worry too much about AF for the next wee while. She'll be back before you know it! In the meantime, give yourself some pampering and love.

All the best,
Laurie

Hi Sallybelly,
Sending you some cyber hugs - sorry to hear about your loss

I started losing our angel baby on 31 Dec '05 and had a d and c on 2 Jan '06. My next AF arrived on 31 Jan '06 which was 3 days longer than a normal 26-day cycle for me.

Depending on how high your hCG (pregnancy) levels have gotten during the pregnancy, it can sometimes take up to a couple of weeks for your levels to get back to <5. Your normal cycle can't resume until this happens so it is possible for it to take longer than a normal cycle for AF to return.

If I can offer you one piece of advice, it's to allow yourself to grieve. I tried to convince myself that it was silly to grieve over a tiny bubble that never became a baby, and that I was being melodramatic but at the end of the day it IS a baby, and it IS your baby - if I had accepted that sooner it might have saved me alot of grief down the track when things finally caught up with me.

As an aside, the AF I had on 31 Jan was the only one I had before conceiving the gremlins, and anxious as I was about miscarrying again, they are here in living color, our gift from our wee star up in the sky.

hey sally belly I had a miscarraige last wed at 7 weeks also, I was told that you are really fertile after you miscarry as well, and I also will be waiting with baited breath for cycles to come back into line, It was such an empty feeling for my I have two other children so I really had to get on with it and did not dwell on it too much, also I am a firm believer that things happen for a reason and if there was something wrong with this bubba it was my bodies natural reaction to terminate it, I hope that does not sound to harsh but it was my way of dealing with it, big hugs

Great to read this thread. I went for a scan on Monday as I had started some bleeding in the weekend and found that wee bean hadn't grown past 6 weeks (8 weeks past LMP)- I was supposed to be 11 weeks past LMP at the time. On Tuesday the OB gave me the drugs to start things going, so just waiting really. I am doing OK, I have two kids already and was "surprised" to have a miscarriage too, but obviously it wasn't meant to be and we will try for our third in a few months after we have recovered.

Take Care everyone. Mwah! Mwah!

Hugs Josephine...