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Maya 
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 Posted: 06 August 2006 at 7:07pm |
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LOL Lu - sell him? I'd GIVE mine away!
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Lulu
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Posted: 07 August 2006 at 11:35am |
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My DH and I thought we didn't want kids so he got a vasectomy, then five years later changed our minds, so we got a reversal, but we still weren't absolutely positive, just thought whatever happens happens. Boy how things change when you find out that you can't conceive naturally... that's when you know how much you want kids!
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Posted: 07 August 2006 at 4:30pm |
Tell you what i did have worries when pregnant about having a baby and being responsible for this little life and making decisions for them myself without input from my mum and so far it has all come naturally, i wouldnt give her up for the world.
At the end of the day this is only a decision that you and ur partner can make, not one person in this world can tell you what to do. I hope you get ur answer soon 
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james
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Posted: 07 August 2006 at 6:27pm |
lol i gotta make a porfit on my hard work 
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yalanna
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Posted: 08 August 2006 at 1:08pm |
What I have to wonder is how people with kids always seem to cope going down to one income... How do you do it ???? 
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mummy_becks
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Posted: 08 August 2006 at 1:43pm |
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You budget, and buy things in bulk and on sales only. With my first we brought things in the shopping from about week 25 and only so often. This pregnancy we have already started buying things - nappies (a few different sizes), wipes and cans of food so we have a good stock pile of stuff for when it arrives.
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I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived!
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yummymummy
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Posted: 08 August 2006 at 7:19pm |
I would also not recommend playing "russian roulette" if you are not sure what you want do yet. It can happen very quickly - we got pregnant on our first coupele of tries (poss even the first one!)
I too always thought that I'll never have kids as I love my lifestyle etc etc. Then I met my now hubby and I knew kids had to be part of the deal - he really wants to be a dad. I also realised a funny thing - I could not imagine kids but, when I imagined myself at 60, I was always a gradma!!!  It clicked that I had to do the kids thing first and then be a grandma.
I'm not sure if this is going anywhere so I'll stop - best of luck!
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Roksana
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Posted: 15 August 2006 at 2:24pm |
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Hmmmm...this is a tough one!
I wanted kids since I was 20 but just only met my boyfriend (now hubby) and since we were from Indian back ground kids before marriage is a no no. We finally got married after 5.5 years and hubby was not ready to be a dad, he wanted the freedom of going out and travel. We did that for 2.5 years and then decided that nah...we need to start. and here we are. I am mum to a very beautiful (ok I am biased) baby girl.
It is tough I tell you. We both work and I feel as if I am a bad mother for leaving her to come to work. She is also a handful at times and I get really tired and forget to have lunch etc.....BUT We love her so much that it hurts! When I am stressed at work and I drive home grumpy...I open the door and my daughter gives me this huge smile because she is happy to see me...I forget all my worries.
Yes I havent had any alone time with hubby, cant go to movies or dinners (we refuse to leave her alone....) but we wont have it any other way....cant even imagine how we managed all that time with out her.
Having said that....this is us. You and your hubby are different. But I have to say, no matter what you cope, financially, emotionally etc
Have a good chat, do some serious thinking.....yes you have time but the later you live it (like so many have said) the more risk you put on both yourself and bub.
Good Luck.
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Phat_Cat
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Posted: 20 August 2006 at 8:56pm |
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well here is my 10 cents worth LOL I also agree that you shouldnt play "russian roulette" unless you are totally comfortable with the idea of being pregnant, cause once it happens theres no going back (sorry im very anti-abortion). Only you & your hubby can decide. Dont let anyone pressure/influence you at the end of the day its you getting up in the middle of the night, you changing dirty nappies, you looking after them when they are sick, etc, etc no one else. Unfortunitly you can put them in a cupboard & forget about them (although i know of some mothers who are tempted ). Best of luck making your decision but take your time....
As for my personal situation Ive always wanted kids just had trouble finding the right guy!! Then I did & we were having a great relationship Kids & marriage were at least 5 years down the track for us, well that was until I accidently fell pregnant & then lost the baby, now things have changed we are married & TTC for 2 years so things can change lifes like that.
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