How to get 8 mo to sleep without crying??

Huge hugs.... it's so tough when they've had reflux etc as you don't want them getting so upset and making it worse eh! I had the same issues with my boy and ended up having to do the sleep training/cc at about 9 months. It was definitely hard for the first few days, but so worthwhile....
have you read the sleep sense programme? it has ideas/tips in it. I have an ebook of it that someone shared with me. PM me your email address if you want it and I"ll email it through to you.
personally we had to resort to the cc/cio thing for our boy has we'd always sat and rocked him (upright leaning on us) due to his reflux so he was very reliant, adn then started waking all night needing the same process.... I had to send Daddy away for a couple of days as he did not like the crying... BUT he really liked how much better our boy slept whne he returned home.. and our boy was alot happier also with a more settled sleep .
All the best!

Pinky McKay's book 'Sleeping like a baby' has ideas on how to wean them off rocking/feeding to sleep that don't involve crying. The process is gradual so takes a while to carry out.

monster wrote: Pinky McKay's book 'Sleeping like a baby' has ideas on how to wean them off rocking/feeding to sleep that don't involve crying. The process is gradual so takes a while to carry out.

I think Pinky McKay's book "Sleeping like a baby" is great. Jack was fed to sleep and I used her 'baby steps' plan to wean him from it. There was a little bit of crying but it was more protesting and wasn't very bad, I was still holding and cuddling him at the time. I could have progressed on at the time and taught him how to self settle but decided just to get rid of the feeding first. That was a few months ago, now I have the energy to progress and we are currently moving towards self settling. Last week he actually slept through twice which is the first time ever - unfortunately I think teething is mucking us up a bit at the moment.

I personally don't like CC and CIO but loved this book. I think it may be a slower process but then I have heard that CC and CIO doesn't work for everyone. I first got the book from the library, then later bought it.

All the best, whichever method you choose.

It can be hard can't it!?!

My suggestion would be to use a gradual process. Work out what works best for you both but maybe you could try something like:
feeding him (or rocking him) until he is drowsy then putting him in the cot and shhh/patting/singing until he goes to sleep. If he cries (as oppsed to grizzles) then pick him up, rock till drowsy then put in the cot. It may take a few goes before it starts to get better.
Try that for a week or so then maybe just feed/rock for a little while then put him in the cot awake and rock/pat to sleep.
Over time gradually withdraw contact.

A couple of things that I have found easier with Jack is that I started with bedtime first and tried the new routine for a week and used the 'old' methods during the day. In the second week I introduced the new routine to daytime naps as well. I found that at night he was tireder, the room was dark so less distractions etc so change was alot easier to instigate. We are in our second week of settling in his cot and so far we have been doing pretty well. Also this time I told him when we started that he needed to go to sleep in his cot and that I would be right there with him. I know he is older than your son and I am not sure whether he understood me but I felt like I made him part of the change rather than pushing the change upon him.

Good luck