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LG
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Topic: told to wait 6mths before TTC after m/c? Posted: 27 August 2012 at 4:24pm |
Has anyone else been told this? I had a m/c 2 weeks ago, was 12w 3d but scan showed baby had died at 8.5wks. Was admitted to hosp during m/c (i had an incomplete m/c at home, lost too much blood and passed out), 2 different drs told me i need to wait 6 months before ttc again and at the time i wasnt thinking too straight so didnt ask any questions. But, on these forums lots of people get pg quite quickly after a m/c, is everyone told to wait and you just ignore it? Am not wanting to wait that long because im getting older and want to have more kids (now preferably ha ha). Thanks guys
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Posted: 27 August 2012 at 4:34pm |
Depends on your m/c.
I had a m/c at home without requiring any medical intervention and was told to wait one cycle before trying again.
The leaflet I got from my MW recommended waiting 6 months to heal physically and mentally. I'm not young either and won't be waiting that long.
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Posted: 27 August 2012 at 5:06pm |
I got told by the nurse at the hospital to wait for one cycle before trying again. My midwife said wait for 2 cycles, to give my hormones a chance to get back to normal again. I won't be waiting 6 months as I am in the same boat age wise. Maybe when you go for your check up ask your GP? I was told to go for a check up in 2 weeks time.
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Posted: 27 August 2012 at 7:38pm |
My doctor said to give it that amount of time to heal emotionally. We ignored it because it can take us a while to fall pregnant and we'd also been told the 3 months or so following a miscarriage are more fertile than usual.
I think its really up to you as long as you are physically ok and feel emotionally ready (if such a thing is possible!)
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Posted: 27 August 2012 at 9:32pm |
I agree with AzzaNZ. A pamphlet I received from a miscarriage support group said it takes 6 months to grieve and fully heal - if you are healthy about grieving properly.
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Posted: 28 August 2012 at 2:49pm |
I would double check that the reason is not a physical one, and then go from there. I have had 2 miscarriages, but both were early (prior to heartbeat). I got pregnant on my second cycle after the first miscarriage, but lost that one, and got pregnant again on my second cyle after the second miscarriage and got my lovely daughter. So I agree that you are more fertile after a miscarriage, but as you had to be admitted to hospital, I would just check first. Good luck!!!!!
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Posted: 29 August 2012 at 6:33pm |
I agree with KM, check with your doctor to see why they want you to wait and if it is just about a mental recovery and you are feeling ok then go for it. I miscarried and waited one cycle before we tried again....fell pregnant the next cycle and she is currently tucked up in her cot sound asleep
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Posted: 29 August 2012 at 7:32pm |
Awww you girls are giving me such hope that my dream can still come true one day soon!
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Posted: 29 August 2012 at 10:51pm |
Oh LG huge huge hugs
I had a miscarriage before Greer at just over 7 weeks & had a long cycle, we tried, got AF, tried again & got pregnant.
Can you ring your midwife & talk to her? Mine was fantastic after my miscarriage & so great supporting me through that first trimester. She will probably know more of the ins & outs of whats going on?
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Posted: 30 August 2012 at 9:16am |
I had a nasty mc in March this year at 11 weeks - I hamorraged badly, had 3 nights in hospital with iron infusion and 2 blood transfusions. I asked one of the Ob's I saw in hospital how long we should wait he said that the research shows that u are more likely to mc again if u get preg within a year of your mc,..but then said " if u were 25 I would tell u to wait a year, but because your 32 (so old, lol) I wouldnt wait that long),.... so no real clear advise at all,...The Dr that wrote the discharge letter said to wait 1 month - and I had a blood test at 1 month to make sure my hormone levels had returned to a non-pregnant level.
There was no way I was physically or emotionally ready to try again after one month,...I was too weak and exhausted to even look after my kids on my own without help each day for the first 3 weeks, and felt pretty good by 5 weeks. I was still emotional at times, and wasnt ready to be preg again until 3 months after the mc- We know we concieve very quickly so needed to be very sure I was ready,...sure enough I concieved in the first month of trying and am now almost 13 weeks preg!
I kind of wish I had waited longer, as I had forgotten just how exhausting the first trimester is,..I have now done the first trimester twice this year plus the weeks of exhaustion following the mc,...so I feel like Ive slept the year away!
This pregnancy has been emotionally very hard,...maybe the stress would have been less if we hard waited longer and the mc wasnt so fresh. I was absoultely pertified of going through all that severe blood loss again. My mw has been awesome tho- the same mw I had with DS, plus the mc pregnancy. Ive alreday had 5 scans and I had serial hcg levels at the beginning of the pregnancy,...we didnt tell people we were pregnant as early as we usually do this time around, so it was awesome to have her support and I could ring her wherever I was getting really worked up and it helped to have someone to talk to.
I hope some of that helps. Good luck for the future
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