Is my job not as hard?

I sooo hear ya Kandice.

I can leave Dh with the kids while I pop out for a little bit & so often I come home & the house is in a state!! He can quite often just leave the kids to their own devices (i.e. he'll put a movie on for them to watch, but they get into mischief instead) while he goes off into the office. I mean, how hard is it to look after them for an hr or so while I'm out?? Instead he thinks he can leave them to it & hide out in the office & play on the PC, oblivious to the mess they're making in the kitchen/lounge/bathroom etc.

If he is in the mood for playing with them/looking after them, nothing else will get done. So obviously he is not capable of looking after the kids AND doing the housework.

But he never complains to me about the house if it's messy. I guess if he was too, he'd know he'd get an earful from me, being that I'm pg & it's harder for me to do things so if he thinks it needs to be done I'd be telling HIM to do it!

Maybe being both your first child he hasn't worked out how busy & tiring it is JUST looking after the baby. Besides the fact that you're not sleeping through the night, (that's a killer itself!) it's a full-time job just looking after baby.

So I say like some others have said - let him look after her (when she's awake too) & let him see how busy it is.

I think we all go through this in the early stages as we're sleep deprived/hormonal & things get to us a lot more. So hopefully it'll come right soon for you hun!!