Frustrated

This is for all the ladies who have been trying for what seems like an eternity. I need to vent.

We have been 'seeing what happens' for a year and charting/trying for another year. NOTHING is happening.
I have low progesterone issues, I have been bracing myself for miscarriages but absolutely nothing is happening (to my knowledge). I am completely dormant and my mind feels like it needs to flip some tables!
And of course everyone around me is accidentally getting pregnant...

Were you a positive and happy-go-lucky person before all this baby trying business which turned you into a green eyed monster?

Love from,
Mrs. trying to stay positive

We've been trying for 5 years and found out last year our only way is IVF.

The last year has been the worst ever - struggling SO much with it all and my bestie is pregnant (after trying for 2 months so lucky) and the green eyed monster is well and truly out there! I'm finding it hard because in the 5 years we've been TTC that awful horrible monster of a person has only started to come out in the last few months and it's heartbreaking! I don't want to be "that person"!

Hi beansprout - rather than waiting 6 months, then having to consider medical options, have you considered going down the alternative health route?

Accupuncture can be really helpful, espcially when you have someone who specialises in fertility, (but you do need to go regularly), also going to a natural health practitioner and checking out any deficiences you may have (they will send you for blood tests) is a concrete step you can take. They will ususally prescribe about 3 months of pre-conception dietary recommendations and supplements, plus work on any other issues.

I think it's best to see an expert before taking anything, as one supplement that will work for one person, may exacerbate issues for another.

After (amazingly) easily getting pregnant using a donor, I had two miscarriages at 12 weeks (within a 5 month period), the doctors would not investigate till I'd had 3. Grrrr standard practise. So I took matters into my own hands and went to Loula George at Motherwell in Mt Eden, Auckland. She sent me off for a stack of blood tests and it came back that I have hugely elevated levels of thyroid antibodies (but a general thyroid blood test wont show them up, so she had to specifically ask for that test). We are now detoxing my body and I'm on a number of supplements to build up my thyroid and other related organs, so hopefully this treatment (which she has successfully used with a lot of other women with the same issue), will result in us getting a baby to keep too!

I hear you on the jealousy! As well as my best friend conceiving her 2nd child in the same week as we conceived the first baby, my brother and his wife conceived their first the week after (the first grandchild in our family), so both of those babies were born in March (the week before and the week after ours was due). Then with my second pregnancy another good friend conceived 2 weeks before me, so her baby is due in just over a month. Constant reminders of what we have missed out on :-(

Hope we all get our much awaited babies soon!

Aw Babycrazy - I read your story about your brother recently and I am so sorry.

I'm the oldest, and I will be the third to have a child - and that is assuming we get utd soon, and that my single sister, and youngest sister don't fall pregnant first.

As for envy - I was actually wondering something today - when women who have heart breaking tales of loss and infertility, share that they are envious of pregnant friends, they seem to always seem to be blasted (I learned my lesson when I mentioned infertility awareness on my facebook, even though I am secret squirrel and didn't mention that I am affected by recurrent loss)
I can understand that jealousy isn't pleasant, and I realise that it may make mothers feel uncomfortable - but I do not comment when people complain on facebook about their pregnancy or child, even though I find that makes me feel uncomfortable.

Lots of love to all of you lovely ladies for sharing your experiences.

I think one of the most frustrating things is being told to relax... I am incognito about my IF like @mintyfresh except I told my mum and sister who keep telling me to forget about it and relax.
I try to explain that forgetting about it is near impossible when I have to chart and take cream and put all the extra effort in because I have issues!

And totally, @babycrazy, the 'I'm going to flip a table if x gets pregnant before me' is something I wouldn't have thought was within me! The green eye'd monster is such an ugly side effect.

I'm really feeling for my partner who I'm trying hard not to bring down; thank god he is such a positive man!

@Pepibebe Thanks for all the helpful info, we are planning on visiting the naturopath soon. I am going to my chiropractor and interestingly enough I have had problem areas in my L3 which affect the sex organs! I found that extremely interesting so yes getting acupuncture is definitely on my list of things to try

I get my cream from here:
http://nz.store.wellsprings-health.com/

They are all about menopause on the site but I just use it in the luteal phase to help fertility. It's my first month using it so I'm hopeful!

Hi all pretty ladies,
Well I just looked to see when I last signed in and it was Dec 11 2011.
Well I would love to chat to more that are going through what I am. So undecided on what to do.
I have had 2 IVF cycles and both turned to BNF's
So do I try again or do I look down donor egg.I have public funding for either choices and I feel I want to start again soon as I have rested for over year and nothing has happened naturally either :(

4x4 sorry to hear how hard its been for you. Are you under public funding or private for IVF? Am only just embarking on that side of the journey myself so not sure what advice to give...did they have a reason for it not working or is just dumb luck?