Need a little advice

I would definitely talk to your GP and hopefully they will refer you to a specialist or take the necessary action to get you help getting pg. Have you been told before that you won't get help because of your condition or are you just thinking that might be an issue?

I wish you the best of luck anyway, the ladies on here are extremely helpful, so hopefully someone a bit more knowledgeable might be able to come in and put you in the right direction. It must be tough though, so good luck chick.

Thanks ladies,

Really helps having this support. We will go next week to the GP and see what help we can get.

It would just be nice to know what if anything is wrong, and hopefully it can be rectified. If not, then we will move on and adopt or look at other options. But for now we want to know we have done everything we can to help.

I havent been told that I wouldnt get help, and Ive been told that 'everything is in the right place' but neither of us have had anything tested in the way of fertility. I guess I was just expecting (worst case scenario) that they would say just be happy with what health I had, forget it and get on with life.

My disability entails the use of a wheelchair, but as Ive been a nanny for the past 5 years, Im pretty sure Ive got the capability to care for a newborn.

Thanks again, and I'll keep you all updated with our progress.

Incidentally, is there anything we should be trying that we are missing? And what do I need to remember to tell the GP? Anything in particular that will help us to get the point across to the GP?

PS. We are both pretty young, Im 21, and my partner is 20. We are mature for our age, and have both been childcare workers for years.

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Hi Bumblefoot,

I'll probably be reiterating others' opinions, but thought I would add my support anyway.

I would definately go see your doctor. I was in a similar situation a few days back - only my reluctance to see the doc was due to it only being 7 months since my miscarriage. However, I keep having weird pain that I thought I should really look in to.

My doctor was really fantastic and kind, and he has got a whole process of testing started. For me, I am hoping that it will put my mind at ease to know there is nothing wrong with us and it's just a case of waiting. Or, it will tell us what IS wrong so we can do something about it.

The one year mark is when it is recommended that you see a doctor to discuss fertility. I don't know for sure, but I would think if it were only a small chance of passing on the disability that it wouldn't really be taken into account. The first step is just doing tests, and there is not really anything unethical about doing those.

And if worse case scenario meant that you were going down the IVF road, well, that's when you'd want to think about it, but again if it's only a tiny chance I can't really see it being an issue. And, to be honest, that's exactly why they do certain tests during pregnancy, so that you can make other decisions along the way.

My doctor yesterday was really pleased that I have been using ovulation predictor kits (available cheap on TradeMe) and charting my temperatures for the last few months. It shows that I am probably ovulating, which is something that any fertility specialist is going to want to know. Plus, it feels like something I can proactively DO... which gives me a certain element of control.

So, if you are not charting at the moment, then I personally would recommend doing so.

Good luck with this process. Big hugs to you.

Thanks ladies!

Wow, this has all helped tremendously. Our GP is fantastic, not only does she charge a reasonable cost, but she keeps working behind the scenes to get what needs to be done, done. I love our doc, but its still a little nervewracking...

Will go next week, Im at Uni at the moment, so will have to find a n hour or so to go see her. Im on holiday at the moment until Monday, so making the most of it.

Yes I have been temping and charting, makes it a little difficult that I dont have a reliable temperature gauge. Since I was 16, I have had a weird 'glitch' in my internal thermometer, so I can be having a raging temp, and still only register 36.5 on the thermometer. Weird huh... Docs cant explain it, dont think they know where to begin!

Will keep you posted in the findings, and thatnk you once again for your support, really means a lot!

Hi Ladies,

Well I guess I had better give you bit of a better backround. Im nearly 21yrs, and wasnt meant to live. To put it plainly, during the 'invitro' 'making' process, my spinal cord split, and joined back up, leaving a hole like the eye of a needle. (among other things, Im the only kiwi with my type)

I was relatively healthy until I was around 12-13yrs, then I had scoliosis (curvature of the spine) issues, that had to be repaired, from then on , my spinal cord hasn't played ball at all. Ive had 5 surgeries in the past 5 years.

Now although this all sounds dramatic, virtually the only thing in the right anatomical place is my ovaries and womb! (and thankfully my 'looks' werent affected) So picture this, Im 4ft 7in, and I weigh 43kg..................And DP is 6ft 3in....

So I'll give you a moment to giggle, sure know my parents did, 'when lanky met shorty'. (dont worry, the jokes abound in our family...)

We take the jokes all in good steed, and why not, it IS funny. I am really short and DP is really tall. He's really helpful reaching things on supermarket shelves...!

I just thought I would give you an idea of what breed of wheelchair person I am. Because believe me, there are many. I have been a nanny for the past 5yrs, and loved every minute of it. Which is why I know we will be good parents. We are always having the nieces and nephews (and believe me, there are plenty) over to stay, and they leave so happy. And we are invariably tired but oh so happy too.

Now we just need to give mother nature a little nudge, and as promised are off to the doctors this week. Sorry for the rant, and will keep you posted.

Yeah, exactly Amber. There were plans for our wee Bumblefoot.

Good luck at the doctors... please keep us posted!!

Bumblefoot, if you're only 6 days out from testing maybe you should wait until then. You never know, this may have been the month that you have actually conceived in. I would hang off on going to see the GP until AF has come (or if you get a BFP ). You're only a week away from it anyhow.

Good luck either way

At least when you go to the doctors you could get referrals and everything and then if you need to use them they're there ... if not YAY!

OMG, having a DP that likes to bake would be the end of me, I wouldn't be able to resist (I love home baking!) You are really lucky, he sounds like a great guy

Oh yes, I am very lucky. He likes to cook too... He does a fantastic spaghetti bolognaise and an even better lemon chicken. He even on occasion makes his own potato chips (a bit like bluebird kettles) But usually I have to beg for him to make those!

At least I dont have to worry about putting on weight, I have trouble enough as it is keeping it on, and have ben the healthiest weight Ive ever been with his cooking! I felt really bad about my reaction to the banana cake, coz he made it with a hodge podge of ingredients, and just used what ever he could find in the kitchen. Wasnt like the recipe at all...Poor DH, he did do well... Told him it wasnt anything personal!

He puts up with a lot, and takes it all calmly, would have to with all my dramas. He is great with kids, so we cant wait for bubs to come along.

Oh, he does a fair bit of house work too... dishes, laundry, picking up the dog deposits in the back yard...

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Good luck Bumblefoot!

I hear you on the off-putting bananas! I usually quite like banana but early on in my pregnancy I couldn't go near it!

Fingers crossed for the BFP!