settling to sleep after 1 year old

So i am wondering, those mums who have older kids but BFed them/rocked them to sleep, how did you "wean" them of that?
I BF Elizabeth to sleep for each nap and her night sleep and if she doesnt fall asleep on the breast (which she does 90%) i will rock her till she is, and i do love it, its for such a short time really that they are this little, i know its not for most though! i admit sometimes i do feel abit jealous of those mums who can put their babies to bed and they SS, that would be nice some nights for sure!
But i am wondering what sort of age is a good age to do it if you do BF them to sleep now (I will probably do it till the end of winter when she will be nearly 2 corrected age - preemie) and how is a good way to go about it (I cant do CIO or VR, tried and failed those miserably!). I want it to be a "happy" transition - oops i sound like a tree hugger i know!

I still feed DD to sleep and as long as I'm putting her to bed we'll continue.

When I'm out and DH puts her to bed he cuddles her or offers her water and she does go off to sleep.

For me there is no other way that works as effectively or gently as feed to sleep, at this rate she'll stop when she weans herself.

I agree C&J and arent planning to stop now at all, like you I think it is the best way for E to get to sleep as well and i love it too. I am just thinking of when the time comes to wean (which i expect will be after winter but am open to when she self weans) and wanting tips from ppl so i can prepare for it and have an idea what to expect! If I'm out DH bottlefeeds her EBM off to sleep so we havent tried her settling for him in a different way.

There is a NCSS for toddlers and pre-schoolers in that it talks about things you can do with older toddlers / pre-schoolers.

Their level of understanding is far greater and also their ability to communicate

We started out by rocking DS to sleep when he was first weaned and then moved on to reading lots of books and then singing to him until he dropped off to sleep, while snuggled up together in bed.

Now we do a set number of stories, I warn him when I'm going to read the last one so that he knows there is no more. After that I turn off the lights and shut the door and lie down beside him till he goes to sleep. If he is overtired I sing a couple of songs to him but more often then not he will just go to sleep at that point.

I breastfed my son to sleep until he was 16months old when he self weaned from it. now at 2years i still lay with him while he drifts off

My DS always needed a bottle to go to sleep and rocking in the rocking chair. When he was about 9 months old I started increasing the time between the bottle and going into bed. Like I would let him drink the bottle and get sleepy, but not go to sleep. Id give him a cuddle and rock for a little bit but not till he was asleep. Then I would put him down in bed and leave him to fall asleep, and go back in and check on him every 5 mins or so. I think you probably need to teach her that she is able to fall asleep without you. So if you still want to bf her and rock her thats cool but maybe put time between those things and when she gets put in bed so she has to fall asleep in the bed. To get my DS to self settle I never used VR or CIO. I just made sure that I put him in bed awake and then if he cried, I went back to cuddle till he stopped or gave more milk, then put him back in bed awake but sleepy again, to fall asleep on his own. It took a commitment of a few weeks or more of long bedtimes at night but he learnt in the end and eventually would just roll over and go to sleep by himself. I think it's a matter of showing him they can fall asleep without the milk. Just gradually withdraw yourself from the actual falling asleep part. I hope that makes sense

It is dire here, he wakes ALL NIGHT. I don't do CIO and he now falls asleep on his own in his cot with me sitting next to it but will still wake constantly all night long till we end up taking him into our bed. He goes back to sleep as soon as I pick him up usually or as soon as he has a boob in his gob.... I think I need to stop feeding him during the night and try and get him to go back to sleep in his cot like at the beginning of the night, but, I'm a sook and know he'll cry so keep putting it off.

Thanks for that, I think that will have to be the next step. His nap and overnight are the only times he feeds now and I'd really like to stop altogether. Obviously, I'd love to have him sleep better as well!

caliandjack wrote: Stopping the night feeds wont necessarily improve his sleep.

Don't say that

caliandjack wrote: I've ended up co-sleeping with DD for the second half of the night she doesn't all that much maybe once and goes back to sleep she mostly wants company.

DS is the same, he just doesn't like being on his own!