How to get partner involved in TTC?

jump him when he/you get home from work.
just literally walk in the door and guide him to whatever location youwish to BD in...if he protests then drop his pants where he is and pursuade him there and then

maybe cook a nice dinner or go out for tea, see a movie then home for BD. like make a date of it.

do it in the morning on those days

I told my DH what days we were ready for action and we did it. I'm not sure why your partner is acting that way? Maybe he doesn't realise there is only a small window for ovulation?

LuckyRed wrote: Maybe he doesn't realise there is only a small window for ovulation?

I think this was true for a while, though I've told him that there's a window and that really it's better if the sperm is there waiting, and the egg doesn't live very long etc.
If he'd look at a calendar I'd put notes on that. Maybe if I texted him or something...

Ah, that does kind of suck - hard for him if he has trouble performing under pressure Could that be part of the reason he's not keen to get too involved; lots of men seem to get a bit embarrassed about the idea of that?

Totally get what you mean. I tried the sneaky approach for a long time because I wanted to keep the pressure off but then we'd sometimes miss the window. One day he just said to tell him so now I just give him the window and away we go. Sometimes it doesn't always work out because he's tired or working long hours but at least he knows and he tries.

All the best - hope it works out soon.

I hear you Bky - you are definitely not alone with this one I was having similar problems and my cycles are not all that regular so are still a bit longer than they should be so it wasn't as though the pressure was on that much either. I think it was just the pressure to perform within a certain time period that put my DH off and we had only just started to try so he thought it was all a bit OTT too quickly IFYKWIM. I am rubbish at initiating things too (always have been), so that was the other side of it too - in his mind he was thinking I was just using him. In the beginning I was keeping him informed about my cycles etc but now I refuse to let him know what's going on - he has lost that right and I basically let him come to me and occasionally I will get things going. My next plan is to start wearing sexy clothing around the time that we need to BD to encourage him along a little bit and he will think it's all his idea (gosh, this all sounds really calculated!!) but I guess, when it comes down to it - the guy really needs to be able to perform so anything to get his mind off baby-making will work a treat I reckon.

It can all get a bit tricky really can't it. I sort of wish now that I had just thrown away the pill years ago and let nature take its course without the pressure of 'trying'.

I hope your man comes to the party and you get your BFP soon :)

TripleJ wrote: I sort of wish now that I had just thrown away the pill years ago and let nature take its course without the pressure of 'trying'.

You are singing my song!!! DF works nights (he owns a bar) so we're already on opposite body clocks, but he's also so tired all the time (2011 was a killer) and now he's sick. I tried letting him know when was a good time (that put him off), last week I tried "while we're a way lets doing lots of making out" (didn't work), and jumping him usually gets me a "I don't want to". Who in the world said men want it all the time, girls don't - they are so naive! He says he wants kids, soon, yet doesn't seem to want to do anything about it. In the meantime, I'm continually taking folic acid and dealing with my she-itey skin, and getting increasingly frustrated (at the lack of BFP and physically!!).

Sorry, that was a rant and not at all helpful - sorry!!

Sounds as though we are in the same boat PL!! I hear ya on the sh*t skin and supplements for africa too.

TripleJ - do you have any secrets? I use clarins products, I've cut back (though not out) the chocolate and other "bad food", I've tried tea tree oil on spots, crystacide, some zinc-type cream my SIL2B gave me that's a free sample from giving birth (sudocreme?), and its just gross. Its really upsetting, especially when my MIL says oh are you stressed, your skin is really bad and I can't say, no, I'm no longer taking any contraceptive so that we can have a baby. Its so depressing. and I'm taking evening primrose oil but I got told I shouldn't take that if I'm trying to get pregnant cause it will bring on a miscarriage, so I tend to stop taking it in the latter half of the month if I think its possible I'm UTD (not very often).

I have told DF that if he's not interested then I'll go back on the pill, especially since we're sposed to be getting married, but he says what would be the point in that if we're trying to have a baby (ummmm....)