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Posted: 24 November 2011 at 1:24pm |
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I'm sure the forum used to be a lot busier - where is everyone?
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Posted: 24 November 2011 at 1:38pm |
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I'm sure it's mostly been the last year that things have really taken a dip. It used to be crazy busy now it seems we're lucky to get one new thread going a day. It's sad to see things so quiet.
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Posted: 24 November 2011 at 1:41pm |
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It is sad. I miss all the chatter even if I do read more than I post!
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Posted: 24 November 2011 at 1:43pm |
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Same here! Come back ladies!
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Posted: 24 November 2011 at 1:55pm |
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Yeah I really miss it too! I do think it got to a point where people didn't feel like they could state an opinion without it turning into a big argument, so I think a lot of people just don't bother.
I really enjoyed it when people would state (and explain) their opinion even if it when against the grain of everyone else as it always helped me to understand their point of view. It didn't necessarily change my mind, but aided my understanding.
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Posted: 24 November 2011 at 2:16pm |
I think OB has been boring for awhile now & that maybe because a lot of the topics don't interest me or I can't be bothered getting into an argument over having an opinion.
The only forum I am interested in is the weigh loss one so I hang out there mainly but do check general to see if anything interesting is going on.
I like the budgeting one also but don't think enough people hang out there to keep it going.
Oh & I love to talk about Xmas but not many others seem to & with a month to go I don't know why 
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Posted: 24 November 2011 at 2:27pm |
It's really up to you guys to make the forums interesting....put your thinking caps on and start chatting!
Be prepared to meet with differing opinions - while we remind members to mind their manners, it's no guarantee that they will 
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Posted: 24 November 2011 at 2:31pm |
It's funny I have never really seen a thread on OB that I've thought, wow that's out of line! I have been on a couple of bigger American parenting sites in the past and the rare drama we have on OB is NOTHING compared to those on other sites
Frankly I love a good heated debate every so often. Since when was having different opinions a bad thing? I agree that you hardly ever see a good debate on here anymore. Perhaps that is part of it. Have we all just become too PC and concerned about offending others just by having an opinion? Have we gotten to the point where we are all out of interesting things to say and so have all buggered off lol.
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Posted: 24 November 2011 at 2:34pm |
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I still love chatting in the multiple Mums thread through & obviously I love getting advice and support in the infertility section.
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Posted: 24 November 2011 at 2:35pm |
 mummydee wrote:
Yeah I really miss it too! I do think it got to a point where people didn't feel like they could state an opinion without it turning into a big argument, so I think a lot of people just don't bother. |
around the time I joined there were a few threads that turned into a major b***h fest and a few of those posters ganged up with each other to do the B***hing and then everyone ganged up on them and called them meanies.
after that I havent really seen them around much.
I think if I had kids, or was pregnant I would have more to contribute than what I feel I do/can.
and the few times i've ventured into the other sections out o the waiting to TTC thread i've gotten snarky replies to my posts (obviously because I dont have a ticker mentioning pregnancy/kids) and its almost enought to stop me lurking around and posting my input.
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Posted: 24 November 2011 at 2:37pm |
I'm still around, I lurk a lot cause I can't be bothered typing  I do like admin says "stick around to offer advice" well I hope the advice I've learnt over the last three years is of value
Should we start a debate on politics, now were is that little emoticon that is rotflmao lol
Mind you in saying that OB is quiet, I've noticed FB is getting quiet as well. So maybe it's just a trend the whole way around????
TBH as well...I've got boring so can't think of anything to talk about, others are probably the same???
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Posted: 24 November 2011 at 2:41pm |
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Bahahaha I think I've gotten boring too Kels because the other day I was actually sitting here thinking to myself whats an interesting topic I could start just to get people going but I couldn't think of a damn thing! and lord knows we don't need another immunisation debate or breast vs bottle debate lol. I've had enough of those for life!
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Posted: 24 November 2011 at 2:43pm |
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I think the topics are still interesting (and I really don't mind people arguing... I think I told someone only yesterday that they were irresponsible). It feels like there are less topics being started and less people around.
Why dont we each go start a topic on the general board and get some talking going.
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Posted: 24 November 2011 at 2:45pm |
I can commit to that Will get my thinking cap on and will start something before bedtime 
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Posted: 24 November 2011 at 2:46pm |
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It's really quiet. Which is not bad as it has curbed my internet usage alot! That and I don't go on another forum which is crazy and people get their backs up about everything. I do so enjoy reading those threads however.
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Posted: 24 November 2011 at 2:46pm |
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But I don't know what to talk about lol....peeved at DH's
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Posted: 24 November 2011 at 3:12pm |
I love a good debate!
I think one of the reasons it's a bit harder to have a nice contentious debate in OhBaby is you get pretty attached to the people in your Due In/Born In threads and so if you have a different opinion, you try not to get on the wrong side of them as it is very easy to misinterpret intent and voice of a post and you don't want to stop being internet buds or have tension in your group because of the two of you. Argh. And so the thread inevitably dies.
Lol, I think one of the best debates we have had on here was an 11? pager on the Miss World Beauty Pageant of all things. Perhaps that went well because it wasn't so personal - everybody was far enough removed from the scenario that they could have an opinion without it being construed as a personal attack. Whereas debates on benefits and homebirths hit a bit too close to home as we are all invested in them one way or another.
Maybe. JMHO (It's not an attack! It's not an attack!  )
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Posted: 24 November 2011 at 3:33pm |
Delli wrote:
I love a good debate!
I think one of the reasons it's a bit harder to have a nice contentious debate in OhBaby is you get pretty attached to the people in your Due In/Born In threads and so if you have a different opinion, you try not to get on the wrong side of them as it is very easy to misinterpret intent and voice of a post and you don't want to stop being internet buds or have tension in your group because of the two of you. Argh. And so the thread inevitably dies.
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I totally agree there.
I think one of the problems is when someone asks for options & then gets upset when they get ones they don't want & then they take it as an attack & get their peeps to defend them...its like seriously you asked & you are getting opinions but you don't want any that are not fluffy ones...then general is not the place to ask for opinions.
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Posted: 24 November 2011 at 3:47pm |
I hate that its quiet in here because I like popping in while I'm at work and can't be bothered doing anything productive 
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Posted: 24 November 2011 at 3:47pm |
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Perhaps another reason (just speculating here) is that people like to come to OhBaby and state their opinion on a topic and have that be that - their opinion is enough. If they wanted to post in a place where their opinion was challenged they would post on the TradeMe Message boards (Lol) or somewhere like that.
So, if someone comes along and says "Oh, why do you think that?", they are a bit put off and think they are being attacked for having an opinion, whereas the asker might be genuinely interested in the reasons behind the opinion.
Or if another poster questions the validity of the reasons behind the opinion, the opinionator resents having to defend their opinion because they think just the opinion should be enough and that OhBaby is not a place where opinions should be challenged - Ohbaby is a place for support and encouragement for people during all stages of babydom, not a place for debate and controversy.
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Why is it so quiet in here?
