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Bubie 
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Posted: 31 July 2011 at 7:57pm |
Hi Everyone
Just wanting some advice, im 7 weeks pregnant atm with number 2, untill i reached 12 weeks pregnant with DS 1 me and DP didnt have sex because i was so worried it was going to cause a misscarage, now im wanting your advice if you have been there and done that before 12 weeks and if anythng happned ? Because i think im a little mean making DP wait that long   ?
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Kellz
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Posted: 31 July 2011 at 8:14pm |
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We never even thought to wait- have had sex right through each pregnancy with no problems. I know some women are advised by their Dr not to have sex but thats usually if they are having bleeding in pregnancy.
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AandCsmum
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Posted: 31 July 2011 at 8:20pm |
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Have you got a history of miscarriage? Maybe ask your midwife? With Mr C I'm sure we did it often cause we knew it would drop off later.
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A = 01.02.04 & C = 16.01.09 & G = 30.03.12
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Jaune
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Posted: 31 July 2011 at 8:20pm |
Same here...had sex all the way through the pregnancy without any problems. Although was much more difficult (and very unsexy) towards the end!
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Posted: 31 July 2011 at 8:32pm |
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Geez....... I feel real bad for my DF lol...... we had sex maybe 6 times while I was pregnant. I just lost all interest. And then it was 6 months after I had DD before we had sex again! haha. My mojo just went awol. We are going to start TTC Jan next year but DF is dreading the no sex again hehehehe.
Anyway, that was a little bit off from the original question - but I think you should be fine, some people like to wait till second trimester 'just incase' but pretty sure it is OK
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Posted: 31 July 2011 at 8:33pm |
We havnt had any bleeding or anything so fingers crossed
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Posted: 31 July 2011 at 8:51pm |
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I don't think there's any research that says that sex can cause a miscarriage, unless there has been prior bleeding.
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Posted: 01 August 2011 at 7:50am |
You can not stop a m/c if its going to happen it will.
If you are not having bleeding then there is no reason to not carry on with everything as usual.
I had bleeding with all 4 of my pregnancies so at these times we did not have sex...last thing on my mind then anyway.
We had a normal sex life life through out all pregnancies, personally I don't get the no sex while pg...even if you have to fake it, lol....after delivery well that's a different story 
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mummytobesep08
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Posted: 01 August 2011 at 10:12am |
you should be right! we waited til after the date we had had a previous miscarriage. even though we had had M/Cs before we weren't advised not to have sex
as long as you are healthy, had no warning signs that things are wrong, you should be right
DH in theory wanted to wait til 12 weeks b/c of the m/c thing but he, ah forgot all about that once we got started lol.
but hey, there's nothing wrong with wanting to wait and plenty of other options to keep DH happy (I'm sure you know what I mean!)
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TheKelly
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Posted: 01 August 2011 at 11:30pm |
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every time we had sex before 12 weeks,but its perfectly normal to be concerned.
Wont show DH this thread,hell,i've made him wait a lot longer than 5 or so weeks post baby.....
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Posted: 02 August 2011 at 4:16pm |
So didn't feel like it this first trimester, too tired and nauseous, but read like others that if not bleeding and have no other issues, no prob. My query is, since someone else has started up this topic (I was too chicken)  , has anyone else got a heightened libido because of pregnancy? Have had this with both pregnancies now, weird, but not unpleasant especially for DH, who doesn't know what's struck him. lol.
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Kellz
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Posted: 02 August 2011 at 5:15pm |
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Lol, I was just going to post that Im the complete opposite from NZlisajo. Havent got the greatest interest in sex really, but wow when Im pregnant my libido increases hugely! Happened both pregnancies- I think for me it has to do with me feeling more comfortable with my body shape when pregnant!
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Posted: 02 August 2011 at 5:51pm |
milliemama,with my girls I was completely off sex,but when I was pregnant with my boy I was pretty randy 
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Posted: 02 August 2011 at 9:47pm |
lol, I'm glad to see I'm not the only one, not something you can bring up in normal conversation over a carrot cake and latte!! This has happened a lot sooner this time round, maybe boy this time??
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Posted: 03 August 2011 at 9:02am |
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i had two boys and I was the same as lisajo..jazzy you dont get it?:) I just think some people really feel like it and some dont.. we didn't much during either one due to me worrying about mc...i know there's not much chance but i wasn't risking it(esp after 2)
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AngieBaby
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Posted: 03 August 2011 at 9:32am |
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This is a good article written by a doctor - from one of our past issues check it out :)
http://www.ohbaby.co.nz/family/relationships/let%E2%80%99s-talk-about-sex,-baby
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ENJOY :)
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Posted: 03 August 2011 at 12:34pm |
So funny how many views this thread has had Must remember to put "sex" in the title next time I have a question
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Posted: 03 August 2011 at 3:40pm |
Hehe must be the title of the thread huh!
I confronted DH about our sex life the other night. Ever since he can see my belly growing and is feeling kicks etc he's not been interested in anything (other than Mrs Palmer from what he tells me  ) because it feels wrong, he knows its his baby etc, and I'm still me but he doesn't see the 'sexy wife' but a 'cuddly mum' that he wants to snuggle and be cute with...
Managed to get almost guilty sex out of him, and to be honest I now feel the same! (without the mrs palmer of course!) I guess because we'd not tried I thought I still wanted it.. but not now.
And I'm having a boy Kelly - but not super randy, If only we were having 2 kids then I could poss see if I'd be randy with a girl on board
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