What to do..re: wedding?

Hailey is getting Christened next weekend. DF's Aunty and cousin are coming over from Australia for it. DF doesn't know they are coming yet, we thought it would be a fantastic surprise for him.

But.. DF and I have talked about getting married when his aunty is here. She had plans on coming later in the year or early next. It would be awesome to do it while she is here, but I don't feel right planning it without his knowledge. I'm not sure what to do. Any ideas?

We're just wanting a registry office wedding. I've got the forms and have spoken to the registry office person and they have space on 22/7 which would be the best day to do it. But need to book in soon or the space will likely be taken. Argh!!

You are the best judge of whether DF wants to be involved in it. Does he love surprises?

My DH didn't have much to do with planning the wedding - although he did like to know what was going on. He would have hated showing up on the day and having it all a surprise.

But there are a lot of guys out there who would love to just show up!

How long is she here for? How long does it take to lodge the form? I thought it was a couple of days or is it different with a registry office wedding?

Are you able to book it then cancel if need be? Or does that forfeit the money (which is only a couple of hundred dollars if memory serves me right)

Maybe mention to him that you think you should get married at Haileys christening and see what he says? If his only protest is because he wants his Aunty there then when she is here say well how about we go get married?

I'm undecided if DP would want to know? I think I would book it and see what the terms are for cancelling or if you can afford to not show up and lose the money if he said no

Aunty is here for 9 days. Arriving late Friday night and leaving midday the following Sunday. So I could book (and pay) and cancel if he decides he doesn't want to. It costs $170something so not a major amount of money. Legally there needs to be 3 days between lodging the form and the actual ceremony but to get a time that is convenient to fit around work we need to book asap.

We have already decided against getting married at our church as it costs $300 just for the church hire. Then more for using the kitchen, flowers, sound person and so on. And we'd still need to pay $130ish for the marriage license.

She won't be coming back later in the year. It is unlikely we will see her until we next go to Aussie which is getting more expensive as our family expands.

Maybe if the amount of money you'd lose if you decide to cancel is decent, you could just hold onto it and pay for her flights over later on?
That way you'll have more time to plan etc if you're not sure what his reaction will be?

james wrote: why dont you jus say wana get married on that date dont tell him the aunty will be there say you just want it to be you and him nice and romactic then spring the aunty on him when you get there

yip I agree with this I think its better he knows he is getting married than just turning up at his wedding.

Aunty is here. Wedding is booked for Thursday DF is happy. Only problem is his father and stepmother were 'very disappointed and upset' that they can't be there. So want us to see if we can change the date THIS is the kinda crap I wanted to avoid by doing it this way.

How exciting! All the best for your wedding!

Try not to let anyone ruin your day. It is how you and your DF want it and thats all that matters

That's wonderful, all the best for the big day!!

oooooh YAY!!!! How exciting, hope you have a beautiful day xx