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RedHeadDuck
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Topic: Sleeping in bassinet Posted: 14 July 2010 at 1:33pm |
DS is 2 weeks now, I know I'm probably pushing it with the sleeping, but for some reason I can NOT get him to sleep in his bassinet during the night...
During the day I'll have the bassinet in the living room with me, and he will sleep in there fine.. I'm usually pottering around doing stuff, tv going, and of course its broad day light pretty much.
But night time we'll take the bassinet into our room, and if I try putting him down in it, he screams and screams and screams. I've tried letting him cry for 30seconds then trying to calm him down, but its not working he just gets waaay too upset. I've also tried sitting there patting him etc and it won't work... (I've read up a few suggestions on here but they mostly seem for older babies and won't work for him).
He has the same blankets, the room is about the same temperature as the living room, he'll be wearing the same amount of clothes .... I just can't figure out why he's so happy in there during the day, but not at night?! Only thing I can think of is cos its dark and quiet- instead of light and noisy?
Help  I just wanna be able to sleep at night without him on me, or in bed next to me!!!
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High9
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Posted: 14 July 2010 at 1:44pm |
I would say it's the light and noisy vs dark and quiet.
Lily was exactly the same and it got kinda stressful in the end I experimented by leaving her to sleep in our room during the day with just the curtains open so it was light but was quiet and she slept fine and at night had no problems either if that makes sense...
Also I would give it a little longer than 30secs too imo, I used to go in as soon as I heard her make any noise, including when I put her down and it took me a few weeks to realise sometimes she was just trying to get herself off to sleep. I go in when she starts to sound like she is actually crying or getting distressed.
Are you able to get him to sleep in the bassinet first then carefully transport the whole thing with him in it to your room?
Dp used to do this with Lily
ETA: Also it's such a huge change for them from being in your tummy to being on the outside that they find cuddling you rather comforting iygwim. But I didn't think it was a good idea to get her into the habit of sleeping on me although sometimes I just bought her into bed with me and she liked that then transported her when she was asleep.
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Posted: 14 July 2010 at 1:45pm |
He is probably used to the noise during the day and at night its really quiet. When they are in ya tummy its a noisy place so they are used to noise.
I would have a radio going in his room and see if that helps
ETA- Also, I would start putting him to sleep in his room with the curtains shut, so at night tis not so strange for him.
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Posted: 14 July 2010 at 1:54pm |
If i leave him for longer than about 30seconds he gets really wound up and seems to take a good 5min if not longer to settle him down  And at this age I don't really want to let him get that upset, IYKWIM? I'm not much into crying it out, and I figure at this age he won't exactly understand it... He seems to get to the really upset crying really fast... Gah!
I can put him in his bassinet and wheel him anywhere in the house (even bang into things etc) without waking him... Lol! I'm a bit rough pushing him round, he sleeps through pretty much anything
I might try putting him in our room during the day aswell.... Kinda annoying cos I WANT him to sleep through noise like he does, but now it means I can't get him to sleep when its quiet, frustrating!
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Posted: 14 July 2010 at 2:16pm |
Having him in your room and just getting on with your normal daily things is the best way. Still vacuum and talk like you would and all that and he will still be used to sleeping with noise
You want him used to just a normal amount of noise thats all. Keep a radio going everytime you put him down to sleep as well, thats always worked good for us, as they become familiar that, that means sleepy time.
I used to do that with my two and now I can so most things and not wake them.
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Posted: 14 July 2010 at 2:25pm |
Ah I see what you mean, if he is already crying and getting quite worked up then you definitely don't want him to get anymore upset!
And at that age I wouldn't recommend cio, they can get over tired so easily!
You could leave the door to your room open? Our bedrooms are down stairs here so she could hear everything from above.
It's good to get them used to noise  do you have a mobile or anything?
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Posted: 14 July 2010 at 4:04pm |
I agree with Sheza on the white noise thing. I keep the radio on static during the day which is a good sleep cue and helps to differentiate between night and day.
Otherwise have a look at the sleepstore as they may have other info (try both their website and their facebook page).
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Posted: 14 July 2010 at 4:26pm |
If you can put him down out in the living room and wheel him around, what about if you did that and then take him to the bedroom once he's asleep but like the others said, have some kind of music or white noise going in the background in the bedroom.
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Posted: 14 July 2010 at 4:52pm |
I had a mobile that played music & always put that on for him for sleep time. I couldn't' attach the whole thing to the bassinette but I could put the music bit on the. Gave him a sleep cue.
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Posted: 14 July 2010 at 5:30pm |
Jake was like this but to be honest I was ok with it so he just slept on me or beside me... He was about 4 weeks before he was sleeping regularily in his bassinet but not until after his 10-midnight feed.. from 4-6ish until 10 - midnightish he was nightmare and just wanted to feed and be cuddled.
Not much help really, just wanted you to know you are not alone!
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Posted: 14 July 2010 at 8:02pm |
My DS was the same, took a few weeks also, 2 things keep doing what you are, so he eventually gets used to it and music does wonders just for a bit of noise.
Or you could let him fall asleep in the lounge or wherever he does during the day and then wheel him in to the room later. Can understand you not really wanting to do that to get him used to night sleeping though.
Good Luck!!
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Posted: 14 July 2010 at 9:17pm |
I would suggest putting him down while your in the living room and then wheeling him into your room.
Thats what my DH used to do when we had our wee girl out in the lounge during the day, she would settle better at night with having noise etc in the back ground and then he would just push her up to the room when he came off to bed, It never woke her!
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Posted: 15 July 2010 at 10:33am |
yep i was going to say just put her down in the lounge too.
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Posted: 15 July 2010 at 1:52pm |
Hey MC - its a bit of a battle eh?!
DD is about same age as willem - so we're at the same stage as you really. We've found that warming up her bed at night with a wheat bag or hottie while she's out feeding is good, so it's not a cold shock when we put her back down.Also, if you change him during the night you could try doing that in the middle or before the feed so that he nearly drifts back off to sleep feeding before you pop him down.
She's now getting used to going back down in her own bed, and if she's taking longer to settle then DH and I have taken it in shifts to provide our own white noise (ie "shhhhhhhh") or she settles if I jiggle the bassinet which is right by the bed.
oh, and the other thing we do is avoid turning on big lights at night - we've just got some wee LED ones - $10 for 3 from the warehouse which have been good.
hope something helps!!!!
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Posted: 15 July 2010 at 1:57pm |
I found DD slept better at night once I got a night light too. If it's pitch dark in your room, you could try that?
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Posted: 16 July 2010 at 10:29pm |
Isla was like that as well for the first few weeks. Just wouldn't go to sleep if we put her in her basinette in our room. I too had the basinnette in the lounge during the day so we just ended up putting her down in the lounge then wheel her into our room once she went to sleep. Worked pretty well. She ended up having to go into her cot in her own room at 3 and 1/2wks tho cause she was too big for the basinette and she slept sooo much better! We attribute that to 'tough love' tho. Would put her to bed while she was awake and just let her cry for 5-10 mins (we wouldn't let her cry if she sounded distressed - only if she was kicking up a stink having to go to bed) then give her a quick cuddle and put her back down. She soon learnt that cot = sleeptime. From 7wks she was sleeping thru the night.
Maybe your bubba has wind and that is why he is screaming like that when you put him down?
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