TLC for Mummy & Daddy

I love the fact that DP often goes to bed early while I stay up for C's dreamfeed, and then gets C up while I sleep in. That works pretty well from my point of view, even if DP seems to think I should get up with him and C as well.

DP and i often watch stand up comedians (dvds) together or play games like Tekkan or smackdown vs. raw on the ps3.... can fight each other, take out your stress on computer characters and you are spending time with each other.

you guys know that circle game, where if you look at the circle someone makes with their thumb and forefinger and its below your waist they get to punch you in the arm? well we play a slightly more sane version of that lol. i flipped him the bird the other night as a joke, and it escalated from there, so now we do the circle game, but flip each other the bird instead (its always funny and never meant as rude) by doing stuff, like pointing at something or rubbing your eye with our middle finger. lol hopped out of the hot shower earlier, and DP had drawn a giant middle finger with the words "Got Ya" underneath it before i had showered, so it came up with the steam. was funny as coz i hopped out of the shower and saw that, but he was out at soccer practice i guess its our way of saying "im still thinking about you" without needing to drop everything iygwim... (it is alot funnier than it sounds lol)

ummm saturday mornings i get up normal time with DS and he has a sleep in before he plays soccer... and sundays he gets up with DS and i get a sleep in.

we go bowling every 2nd wednesday night with a group of friends (we take DS too, and he sleeps through anything lol) and we go to a quiz night every other wednesday night.

sundays are family days.... so we dont do housework (except for a load of washing in the background or the dishes at night) and we just play with DS. normally involves both of us rolling around on the floor with him or taking turns making faces.

Wednesday is my day out with the car, i have coffee group and do the groceries (find it quite mind-numbingly soothing to just stroll the aisles) and normally go to a shop or 2 beofre coffee group... today it was knit world.

when DP comes home from work, he always changes DSs nappy for me, and if he is home he feeds him too.

and DPs time out is futsal monday night (after DS is asleep so i get chill out time with a cuppa and some tv) tuesday night - soccer training. wednesday night is our couples night out (even with DS) thursday night is soccer training and indoor soccer, friday night we stay at home and our close friend comes round for a few drinks and to watch the wrestling with us, saturday he plays outdoor soccer and me and DS go watch if its not too cold, yeah and sunday is family day.



hope all that makes sense lol. but we have a great routine and we both get heaps of me-time (even if mine is after DS is asleep and im still on standby - but he sleeps through so dont really need to worry) then 2 nights and a whole day together (wednesday night, saturday night and sunday) which is working out great for us



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Edited by MyLilSquishy

Good point Chickielou. I never use that word with DH... I always use "look after" as well whereas "babysit" with family etc. Squishy - that sounds a lot of fun lol... I think we used to do more of that. Got pretty serious since the baby's arrived but we still occasionally have playfights - not nearly as much as we used to but I love it when we do. Or tease each other.. I really really like your routine. Nathan has a routine but DH and I don't (he is not a routine person) but I think it would make things so much easier if we did.

Edited by newlywed

HUNTD - we have decided DS is a part of it now coz he quite often flips me off while im feeding him his bottle at 15 weeks its adorable hehe.



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Edited by MyLilSquishy

DH works away a lot so I go out by myself for the day when he's home during the weekend, & with friends to fundraising things, quiz night etc. So we spend more time apart doing our own thing (i'm not calling work his "thing", they do bloke stuff & eat out in their spare time while they're away) so we spend less time together but we're happier to see each other when we do. Having something to talk about other than the kids or work helps, like individuals, not just parents.

These are our TLC things:

1. I have a horse riding lesson every Saturday morning while DH looks after J and then all going well I ride my own horse in the afternoon.

2. DH goes trail bike riding every Sunday.

3. DH cooks me dinner and cleans up afterwards on Saturday night.

4. Mum stays every Friday night while we have 'date night', which may just be the two of us going out for dinner or maybe with friends.

5. DH, J and I wake at 6am every week day morning and have breakfast in bed together before DH goes to work at 7am - I cook porridge and a cup of tea and we chill together.

6. We always have a cooked breakfast together on the weekend.

I think the biggest TLC thing for us is having our own hobbies and our own time to do them.

We take turns cooking dinner, that way the other one can either sit on the computer/read or just hang out in the kitchen while they are cooking. We then clean up the kitchen together, put the kids to bed, get the hidden chocolate out and there are certain programmes we always watch together (survivor, Hells and lately Glee).. and we aren't allowed to go on our laptops while they are on.

We watch league together, last year we went to all the home games together while the grandparents had the kids. That was fun.. haven't done it this year.. and we really miss that time together.

I get Saturdays as my sleep in day and he has Sundays.

We take turns getting up for #3 if he wakes up which is good because then at least one of us is getting a full nights sleep.

Nights out are very rare in this house.. so if there is an invite that comes our way, we grab at the chance to get out without the kids...

When he gets home from work, I let him see the kids first, and once the excitement of him being home has died down, then we sit on the couch and have a catchup.

Sundays he makes us pancakes and bacon for breakfast.. which is our fave.

For us it's just the little things, we don't have to try very hard.. I guess it's because we are such good mates... and we just know...