Baby Boy :)

I felt a little disappointed that our two were girls and not boys (girls scare the living sh*te out of me - still do!!), but it did go away, and now I wouldn't be without them They also had the kidney thing which went away and they have had no problems at all!

I think there is always a certain sense of loss at the baby that never was, the daughter that's now going to be your son or a son who is now a daughter I think its normal and doesn't make you a bad mom, and I'm sure the feeling wont last long when you realise you are going to have a wonderful son.

I shed a tear when i found out i was having a boy. Im a real girly girl and wanted a wee girl to dress in pink etc etc... I now wouldnt change it for the world. I love watching him play with his cars and i love how dad loves his wee man because they are so similar.

I was the same, I'd hoped for a girl to dress up all girly and was upset for a couple of days but then I imagined how cool a little tiny DH would be and thought about how much I love my nephews and how much fun my friends little boys are and I started to get over it. I think once I started imagining what he could be like and looking at boy stuff I got more excited. I do still love all the girly clothes etc but am perfectly happy now that we're having a boy and you will be too - it might just happen gradually though. Don't feel bad for being disappointed, plenty of people are.

I think just about everyone in our thread had a similar experience. I really didn't even care what I had, but when told it was a girl I had a couple of hours of disappointment. But I reckon I would have felt the same if I'd been told it was a boy. I think that it's that up to that point you have 2 potential ways it can go but then one of them is taken away from you, so I think that little sense of loss is normal.

I know how you are feeling - Everyone thought I was having a girl and I would have been stoked if we were! The week before the scan I suddenly was 100% positive I was having a boy - I am not sure if perhaps I was setting myself up to not to be disappointed. Sure enough we are having a boy!

I had a tear in my eye when I rung to tell my Mum. My Mum was very sweet and although I didn't show that I was disappointed, I know she could tell. She said that boys are wonderful - they look after their mummies very well and it is great to have an older brother to another sibling one day. She also said that we would be broke if we were having a girl as I would buy every little girl outfit in sight!

As everyone else has said - I now wouldn't want it another way! Lots of people have said - wouldn't it be nice to have a girl next time round so that you have one of each - the honest truth is that I don't mind one bit whether we have another boy or girl as I know you love them just as much either way.



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My DP and I were convinced from day 1 that we were having a boy. I just had that feeling. So much so that I was drawn to everything blue in the shops and I wasn't interested in thinking of girls names. We had 'his' name picked out and everything... Conor. My family were also certain it was going to be a boy. Then we went for the scan to find out and alas, he is actually a she! I just kind of stared at the screen for a bit. If it was actually a boy, I think I would have cried but our hearts sunk when we found out its a girl. Only took a few days and I was out buying all the gorgeous pink stuff I could find and dreaming up dolls houses we are guna build for her when she is older and got really excited about girls names. DP was dead set on wanting a boy but I think our wee girl (to be named Isla) is going to be a real daddy''s girl, he loves her so much already and she isn't even here yet! So, like everyone else has said, it might take a while to get used to it but when you start bonding with your bubba, you just wont imagine it any other way

Thank you everyone :) Your comments have helped alot, i feel alot better about the situation :D

when I found out bailey was a boy I wasn't too bothered really, Aidan however I so 'knew' it was a girl until 10pm the night before my scan and I said to hubby, its going to be a boy and fair enough! I was actually really upset. took me a while to get use to the idea of not getting a girl, I had to have another scan the week later and I asked them to recheck, yep still got sticky outie bits lol
It wasn't till my mum took me shopping and I saw all the cute boys clothes that I got over the fact that she was actually gonna be a he
I wouldn't change both the boys for the world now! they are my life and I love them

hugs i always wanted two boys so was very happy..but very very surprised he wasnt a girl as this preg is so different.. I had a moment of I'll never have a girl..but I'm not a girly girl anyway and my boy number 1 is just so awesome I'm proud to be having another.. but anyway it's normal :) and when you see him you will just forget you ever thought that