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Tastic
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Topic: are you enjoying your pregnancy? Posted: 20 October 2009 at 9:10pm |
just curious as to weither you are actually enjoying your pregnancy/being pregnant?
for me its a yes and no
I love the fact Im pregnant and am going to have a daughter but
no because of all the stress this time around with having a previous premature baby, having to see a OB, having swabs all the time aswell as bloods, having SPD
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Posted: 20 October 2009 at 9:23pm |
I love being pregnant - this is our first child. I love that I'm now in the second trimester and have my energy back (although not pre-pregnancy levels). I love watching my tummy get bigger, and feeling how rounded it is. I love counting up the weeks and tracking baby's development e.g. it's x long or it's got fingernails now. I'm counting down waiting till I feel the first kicks. I love having scans and seeing how much it grows in such a short space of time and watching it have hiccups at 10 weeks. I love the attention and the congratulations, and hearing a friend describing me as "the mummy to be". I love the fact that my DH and I have this miracle growing.
This may be my only pregnancy so I'm determined not to wish the time away as I'll never get it back. The things that I don't like so much is having to watch what I eat so much, and having to inject everyday, but I figure those are small prices to pay.
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Posted: 20 October 2009 at 9:25pm |
I loved being pregnant up until the last week. Now I'm torn between wanting the baby out and trying to figure out how I'm going to cope with a newborn again
Last pregnancy I loved every second of it.
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Posted: 20 October 2009 at 9:29pm |
Im not, nor will I ever be pregnant again because I absolutely hated it. I was sick from go to woah, as well has having things like high bp, ante natal depression blah blah blah. HATED it. I always tell poeple that I felt that way in case someone out there is hating it and feels guilty for not feeling ethreal and stuff
I agree that your stress must be huge with your past problems, so i am prayinfg for a happy and healthy time for yu Trish, cos you deserve it! xxx
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Posted: 20 October 2009 at 9:40pm |
I loved the fact that I was pregnant - but totally wished the time away, I suppose I didn't really *enjoy* it. I did have a textbook pregnancy, but I couldn't stand people telling me what I shouldn't be eating, that I shouldn't be doing anything too strenuous and everyone thinking they had free reign to give my tummy a rub
I too wish everything goes well for you Tastic - I'm sure it will! And wow, you're 24weeks already!
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Posted: 20 October 2009 at 10:11pm |
hate being pregnant, hated it last time too. first baby i was kinda fasinated by everything but hated the actual pregnant thing and i had a super easy problem free pregnancy. i just dont like no being my self. i am a really full on full of life person so being either, tired, nauseaus, achey, funny shaped and awkward etc.. just destroyed me. i dont like sharing my body at all. lol. i hate anything that impedes my ability to go about like a bat out of hell. lol. i dont hate it real bad just realy dont enjoy it. i do love my baby ever so much though so its totally worth it, thus why im doing it again
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Posted: 20 October 2009 at 11:06pm |
I am a yes and no person as well!
Yes, I enjoy it because it's my first baby and I love all the amazing stuff that is happening and can't wait to meet this little girl that is half me and half my DP. I also love watching my belly grow, having ms go away, how my dp loves my growing/expanding body, love thinking about my baby and how shes x big this week and is having y developments!! Oh and I like going to look at baby stuff, so small and cute!
However I'm not enjoying people telling me what I should and shouldn't be doing, I'm not enjoying people telling me what I should and shouldn't be eating, telling me their stories and saying it'll happen to me, or I must be crazy (coz I'm 19), etc. I hate how it has given me gallstones/made them worse as the attacks are so painful and not very nice!! And I am missing so much food!! And I hate feeling "fragile" or like I'm not doing enough for my baby.
But I still can't wait to meet this little girl and I know she'll totally be worth it! It's strange to feel this in-love with someone I haven't even met properly!! I feel like I could burst!
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Posted: 20 October 2009 at 11:15pm |
For me pregnancy hasn't been a time of joy, it has been one of confusion, feeling trapped and regret. This is an unplanned and in my part an unwanted pregnancy. I'm not the maternal sort and I never wanted kids, for my DP this pregnancy is a dream come true (he's always wanted kids) he did a lot of talking and talked me out of having an abortion, he keeps telling me that in a couple years time when we look back it will be the most rewarding experience of our lives (I just hope he's right). I honestly thought by now, I would have got my head around the situation and accepted things, but the truth is I haven't and as time has progressed I'm feeling more and more stressed knowing there's no way out, and the demands and expectations of motherhood are just around the corner, I'm really struggling to cope. My MW, DP and GP have talked me into seeing a councillor to try and help me put things in perspective, I don't really know if it's going to help, but I guess it isn't going to do any harm either.
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Posted: 20 October 2009 at 11:19pm |
thanks everyone!
its amazing how many people do and donot like being pregnancy!
Nicole - I hated how once your pregnant people feel they have a right to tell you there 'story' and how most are bad
Im not an expert infact no way near it, even with this being my 4th pregnancy (lost one at 20 weeks) I feel like a beginner with every pregnancy becuase no two pregnancy's are the same and man have I learnt that one!
Zasha I hope that seeing someone will help you hun. I also hope once you see your gorgeous baby you will be happy with the decision to keep your baby
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Posted: 20 October 2009 at 11:31pm |
Thanks Tastic I completely agree!! I even get the postbirth stories and people saying you can't have any pain relief etc leaves you a little confused and unsure what to believe!
Zasha mine was unplanned too, as I'm 19 I understand the feeling trapped, confused and regret, although I have "come round" to the idea of being a mum and am rather excited about it, I still freak out a lot and having major crying moments about it, infact just a couple of days ago. I wonder how I will cope and provide for my baby when I don't have an education/job, don't have my own home, and neither does my DP. I feel like I am missing out on things other people my age are doing and feel scared about now being stuck with my DP forever (I'm 19 and it's not how I saw my life heading!).
But if you ever want anyone to talk to then feel free to PM me - even if it's just to vent!
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Posted: 21 October 2009 at 8:03am |
I don't like it. We planned it, we want it and we are excited about the baby but I am not enjoying it. You feel tired and miserable most of the time and there is always some niggle little issue making you uncomfortable. Maybe I like beign comfortable too much. For me the miracle of life and carrying a baby is not strong enough to make me 'enjoy' the aches and discomforts. It isn't bad all the time but enjoy isn't a word I would use to describe it.
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Posted: 21 October 2009 at 8:17am |
I'm a yes and no person. I love the fact that we are pregnant after fighting for it for ages so for that I'm extremely grateful. I'm also pleased I seem to be getting some energy back.
However I am over almost 10 weeks of constant seediness and I'm not looking forward to waking up and sitting up to roll over in bed or having a foot lodged in my ribcage.
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Posted: 21 October 2009 at 8:43am |
We planned this baby but I tell ya what I may have enjoyed a whole couple of days of this pregnancy so far, I have had barely a break from MS the whole time, I have had every other pregnancy symptom that you could possibly get and some days I am so sore I can barely walk. This is all made a lot worse by the fact that the other girl at work who has been pregnant has had the dream pregnancy with not a single issue! DP is already talking about the next baby and I just really don't know if I could go through with all of this again. I am really really counting down the days until bubs gets here just so the sickness and stuff stops, (even if it is replaced by sleep deprivation and everything else)
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Posted: 21 October 2009 at 8:57am |
fattartsrock wrote:
Im not, nor will I ever be pregnant again because I absolutely hated it. I was sick from go to woah, as well has having things like high bp, ante natal depression blah blah blah. HATED it. I always tell poeple that I felt that way in case someone out there is hating it and feels guilty for not feeling ethreal and stuff
I agree that your stress must be huge with your past problems, so i am prayinfg for a happy and healthy time for yu Trish, cos you deserve it! xxx |
exactly the same for me..i hate it except the kicking bit but its really stressful for me and yeah in short no.
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Posted: 21 October 2009 at 9:17am |
So far this pregnancy has been the easiest of the 3 so I'm stoked I'm getting at least 1 good one  Still had the odd day of aches and pains but nothing too bad.
The only thing I've really noticed is that I'm hibernating a lot more than usual and can't be bothered dealing with people other than my immediate family which makes it hard when we've got a flatmate. I feel really bad about that cos she hasn't done anything wrong! Its only because I'm too tired to try and hold a proper conversation and deal with the kids and house at the same time.
None of our kids were planned and its caused plenty of bumps along the way for both of us but neither of us would change them
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Posted: 21 October 2009 at 9:35am |
Nope, I hate being pregnant, its hard work - being sick over this past winter hasn't helped and I feel like Ive been invaded. I was considering being a surrogate for DD's godparents but after this pregnancy, there is no way I want to get pregnant again. I just can't stand it. I feel terrible saying it but its true.
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Posted: 21 October 2009 at 11:08am |
I'm loving it. Its such an amazingly special time. And I'm also careful that I don't want to wish it away, because although its not all roses and sunshine, it is something I'll only experience once (with this baby anyway) so I intend to enjoy it. It was rough feeling so awful at the beginning, but it was also nice in a way because it made it a bit more real when the baby was so small there was no other signs to indicate that it was even there.
To be fair, I know I could have had it worse, my biggest issue has been the exhaustion of working full time, plus running a farm outside of work time plus renovating our house but I think that would have worn me out any time! But even the aches and pains and the reflux and waking up in the night etc, I just view them as reminders that I'm pregnant, and use the awake time in the night to have a we chat to my bump seeing as I never have time for it in the day.
So my answer is yes, I  this pregnancy. It helps that DH is totally into it too, I'm sure.
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Posted: 21 October 2009 at 11:13am |
I am a yes and no person, compared with my first pregnancy this one has been hard. Tired all the time, hungry all the time -then there is the sore back, hips and pretty much whole body, the cramps and reflux.
Then I look at my belly moving and feel her moving inside me and realise this is the most amazing thing I am going through and it will all be worth it in the end.
I think the pregnant woman is gorgeous and it is amazing what our bodies can go through!
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Posted: 21 October 2009 at 11:38am |
I'm loving it! yeah i have had a really bad run of morning sickness and i get chronic backpain, can't sleep more than 2 hours at a time, am RH- so always on the look out for spotting, hate people telling me what i can and cant eat, but i wouldnt change a moment of it! i think ive always been maternal so thats a bonus. but im only 20 years old (turn 21 in november this year), this was unplanned (i was on the pill) and DP and i had only been going out a month and a half when i got preggers (found out at 3 months)... but he is loving every moment of it too, is looking after me and knows not to tell me what to eat or what to do. but i get foot rubs and back rubs which i love. we are both so excited! its a first grandchild on both sides so mine and DPs parents are excited too. we are looking for a house at the moment which we hope to be in before our little boy gets here. i would happily be pregnant again in a heatbeat. my brother is gay and has been going out with this guy for ages and has even asked that if it got to "that stage" with the guy he is currently with or another guy further down the path, would i be a surrogate for him and his partner and i could think of nothing else i would love to do for them more than give them a baby they can raise as their own. all the MS, muscle and joint pains, constipation, dizziness and every thing else could not keep me from doing that for them.
would definitely not change a thing.
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Posted: 21 October 2009 at 11:47am |
I just realised re-reading my post, It is rather negative, I just want to add that I am however glad to be pregnant knowing that I will get a baby at the end of it, And there are definitely good points it just sucks they are marred by all the bad ones.
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