Having more children

I am dying to have another baby but my partner has said no (for now) because of our financial situation. It was originally a no all together but I've have talked him round and we have decided on trying again in 2011.

Maybe talk about setting a possible goal. We checked out the sorted online calculator to figure out how long it would take us to pay off our current debts and to save some cash. I found looking at it like that really helped Jess come around. Men like to see facts and figures. When they hear the word baby their minds reel at the thought of all the money they may have to spend.

When you think about it though how much would one more child really cost. I'm assuming with 3 kids you already own a people mover. Not to mention plenty of 2nd hand clothes from your first 3 kids. When we found out we were having twins we couldn't believe how much stuff we got for free. Our cots, feeding chairs, highchairs & carseats all came from my sisters who had used them for their kids. and we haven't brought our girls one single toy as they have all been hand me downs from my sisters kids as well.

If you haven't kept old baby stuff you can always buy on Trademe. Really all a baby needs is a roof over their heads, food in their mouths, clothes on their backs and loads of love which is always free. Anything else is a bonus.

anything could happen in the next 2 years.

my husband and I have both agreed we want 2 we have also both agreed to wait till our 2nd is at least 12 months old before discussing if we want a 3rd or not

Haha , im so organised , i've already planned when we're going to start trying for number 3 , (in may 2011, that way we'll have a feb baby ...im not going to risk another june baby , june is busy enough for us as it is )

DH is very determined that thats it, and I am mostly fine with it, I always saw myself with three kids, but....I do think i'll feel a little bit of sadness when that one is past the newborn stage .
I guess I'll just focus on the kids I HAVE , rather than the ones I don't

This is probably not very helpful, but a family I nannied for had 4 kids. #4 was an "accident" - dad was led to believe it was an accident, mum knew exactly what she was doing!

My man only wanted two kids (he included the one I already had when he met me in this equation) we never really talked about having a baby, it just happened. (Emiloly not good with birth control it turns out) He was thrilled when he found out I was pregnant. I thought he was going to flip out since we hadn't even discussed having a child together. Then we found out it was twins! WOW three kids! So now we are entitled to tax credits. (maybe a pushing point for those men who don't think they can 'afford' another baby) We get $130 a week tax credits with three children.

My man did discus having a Vasectomy but I told him that I didn't want him to do that because even though we both agree we don't want any more children you never know how you might feel a few years from now. I am going to get an IUD fitted to ensure no more babies for us, at least for the next few years!

I just want to say that I know someone who is trying to get pregnant with out her man knowing and I really hate what she is doing. In fact it has been really hard on her because she has been trying since before I got pregnant and still no baby. How do you bring up the question of fertility when your partner didn't even know that you were trying?