Preparing for two under two...advice?

I don't think you'll be hammered at all! There are heaps of people who have a small age gap in children and want to have a small age gap.   I wanted to have kids close in age and well 2.5 years was what I managed to do.

With Sam, although he's quite a bit older than your daughter, I have just been talking about the baby to him, getting him to feel my tummy, showing him things that are for the baby and when the baby arrives I will try and get him to be my little 'helper' with nappies and things like that.

We are looking at the P&T Buggy and a doubles kit which means Sam can still sit in it if he needs to and we're going to be having more kids after this one so it should come in handy.   There are other options like a toddler seat that sits at the front of your buggy or a side by side double buggy for kids close in age.   

Not really sure about cots or highchairs as each child is different and while some would be out of a highchair at 14-15 months or so onwards, other children might still be happy to sit in one 2+, same with a cot.   Some kids stay in a cot for ages and others start climbing out at a young age and are ready for a big bed sooner.   And some babies are in bassinets for a while so you might not need an extra cot at all if the timing is right for them both to upgrade.

Yeah, I don't think you need to justify yourself at all! It's your family and your life and a small age gap can be a really good thing! Well I think so, and I guess you just go with it when #2 is born and your life sort of just adjusts to it.

mine will probably be right on two under two as they are due the same day though E came early..

We just tell him to be gentle with Mum's tummy and that there is a baby in there.. he goes...aww and pats it.. but that's about it... he already does 8 hours preschool so staying with that and he has a doll from the toy place(much to Grandparent's disgust) which he loves to play with and we just talk to him about being careful around babies etc..he sees them at school anyway..
i am determined even though E doesn't like bed so far to get him into his bed before bub comes and he has a table that we are getting him to eat at which will eventually become his food table..

so no to the cots for us and high chair.. my friend was selling a pram so in the end got one with toddler seat as even though he is sortof ok with pram now he is starting to dislike it so figured not much point wasting money buying new double type pram as this baby will be our last..

the only thing really concerning me is how much time Ethan will miss out on:(

ooo just wanted to say YAY for TTC!