BF’ing experts - help!

I BF til 3 months when I finally had enough of our problems (so can't really help with the mucking about as I got fed up with that) but Daniel was never one of those babies that started sleeping through young. He was waking that often as well and had silent reflux. I came to the realisation that he will sleep for longer at night when hes ready and over time the time between feeds did lengthen out. He never looked up at me when feeding either. I guess that's not all that helpful except to say that your little guy isn't unusual in what hes doing

Yeah we're still seeing 2.30am here, we are BF on demand mostly, I am making him wake & have feed now at 10.30pm. When he was Corban's age it didn't make a jot of difference, he'd still wake at around 2.30am just probably slightly later. Now if I feed him it will stretch him out to 6am.

The mucking around will be an age thing.

Feel his tummy, if it's full after 5 mins then he's probably had a good drink. Cooper only feeds for 5 mins as well & my boob gets drained.

I find with the reflux to sit him straight up & pop the dummy in while I burp him. Helps keep everything down.

You're doing well

I seem to remember my baby going through something similar at that age (she is now 6 months old). We think she had a bit of reflux cos she was definitely hungry (showing all the signs) but would start crying when I tried to feed her. In the end I tried to space out her feeds a bit more (I was feeding probably more often than I needed to, which doesn't apply to you) and also changed my feeding position - I was using a pillow and laying her down on it to feed, but I stopped using the pillow and fed her more upright, which I think helped to keep everything down. I am still dream feeding my baby (won't last for too much longer I think) but I have to wake her, otherwise she is too sleepy to eat. Now I think my baby will do both sides in just over 10 mins at a normal feed, so perhaps your baby is actually more efficient than you think?? Also I wonder if you should feed more often than 4 hourly? (I suppose if he won't feed you can't force him though....) Even though my baby is now 6 months old, most of the time she feeds around every 3 hours, so is there any possibility that by him feeding only every 4 hours that you are not making as much milk, and so he is getting it out more efficiently, and then he is still hungry in the night because he hasn't had enough during the day? I just think that I would never go for 4 hours without even having a snack, so why should my baby, IMO....
But also I know my baby went through a period of distracted feeding - really frustrating! So I guess you just have to keep up the feeding and eventually you will get past the problems. Don't give up cos I am glad I am still breastfeeding now!
My baby slept through from 10-ish until 7 when she was around 3 months I think, but she still woke up occasionally, and even now sometimes she wakes up, not necessarily because she is hungry. I hope that helps

H does this sometimes - for us its one of two things, either he has bad wind and needs lots of burping or my supply is low.

With the sleeping thing, according to my Plunket nurse babies have one long sleep a day; if you interrupt it they go back to feeding every 3-4 hours. So now he goes to bed around 7pm and had a dreamfeed at 10.30, but we don't wake him up. H won't go on the boob asleep though but will take a bottle so he gets either EMB or formula or a mixture of the two! Usually has between 120-200mls and sleeps to around 4am.

Good luck hun x

I have BF on demand since day 1.

At that age my DD had more feeds during the day. Have you tried to get him feeding more??

Also around that age is when they start getting distracted, I will attach a link about it, its a very helpful site and has alot of BFing answers too

Distracted Babies