Things you do to help you relax

Hi girls, it seems the longer we TTC, the more I stress so I thought I'd ask you all what you like to do to relax. I just started yoga today, and I hope to to it 3 times a week if I can find the time. I'm hoping this will help.

I'm definitely not a calm person and I often find myself so wound up my hands shake. At the moment, this seems to be happening on average about 3 times a week (we're having a bad year). I also vent a lot of anger on my poor DH.

Can anyone give me some relaxation tips and perhaps some recommendations on books? I know none of this is creating a good environment for a baby.

Yoga sounds like a good idea,I'm same as you Treen, stressing heaps and because I know it's not going to be very helpful with TTC that makes me worry even more! I was thinking of looking at yoga or meditation too just to calm me down!
Watching a movie/vid is one thing that helps me de-stress though when i have time, just takes my mind of my work for a while as life gets pretty hectic running my business!
looking forward to hearing more ways to relax too...

Hi Treen,

The TTC journey is really stressful at times and sometimes it just gets so overwhelming.

I decided that I was sick and tired of constantly wondering, waiting, wishing so I entered some events like a 10k run, the stroke and stride at mission Bay and other things like that. Keeps me focused on something else.

Exercise is definitely one of the best forms of stress relief. Walking, jogging, swimming, yoga, all sorts.
It really helps and you are doing something good for your body too so that is all good.

But hey if exercise is just not your thing then a nice massage is really good.

I often (if the finances allow!) go and get a relaxing massage. I always feel so much better afterwards.

I think treating yourself to something once a month or more or whatever, is really important.

DH and I have been TTC #1 for 19 months now and each time AF arrives I go right I am going to enjoy a glass of wine, or get that massage or I go for a run or buy a nice moisturiser or something like that.

I often think that we spend so much time getting stressed about conceving a bub and then as soon as one comes along it will get even more stressful so some time out is really important.

I really hope you feel better soon and even better get that BFP!! Just don't forget your needs at this time and keep positive.

All the best hun

Damn straight BooBoo!

I had a big bad time last month but better this month, no doubt it will hit me again soon .. ..what a roller coaster it is.

Thank goodness for OhBaby so we can vent out all our frustruations and thoughts...

Just wanted to throw a few of these out there to everyone who is just feeling crappola at the moment.    



Edited by Flipsta

Oh Treen, I'm sorry you're finding it hard with the long TTC.

I have started organsing girl pamper nights with my friends.

I also work our dogs in obedience and agility...that is always good for taking your mind off TTC. Can't think about baby making when you're working dogs...just doesn't work.

I also do crosswords, word fill-ins, so my mind if FORCED to think about what I'm doing and forgets about TTC for a moment.

DP and I have also talked about ftaking dance classes. A good way to occupy yourself, exercise and do something with DP. The bond created in dancing will hopefully bring DP and I closer.

Oh and treat yourself to massages!!!

There are a few ideas. Hope it helps.

Nat, that sort of thing definitely works. I used to have a stressful job and would think about it all of the time and get worked up about it. Then I taught myself that when I start to think about something negative I immediately think about something positive to cancel it out. I started doing that , it took awhile to "retune" my brain but since then it is automatic. I no longer worry about anything for any longer than a couple of seconds. There is a difference between worrying about something, vs thinking about something in order to reach a solution. My motto is if you can't influence the result it is a waste of time worrying about it.

Talking it through can be helpful as well, as long as the person you are talking to isn't trying to solve the problem for you... it is good just to vent at times and try to let it go.

Failing that booze is always good