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MissAngel
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Topic: Anti natal class woes Posted: 25 March 2008 at 11:05am |
Okay, maybe its me but - I really dont wanna go to classes anymore :( I get panicky about going before hand and i'm not learning anything! I know i dont HAVE to go, but i have to justify it with the other half cuz he thinks we should. I'm learning more here with you lovely lot and other things on the internet. I havent even really spoken to anyone else cuz they all rush to get in their little groups with people they already know (hard being a new person to the town)
What do you guys think?
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Posted: 25 March 2008 at 11:10am |
It is your choice in the end, but it seems like your DP will be able to put his mind to rest if he knows you are going. Maybe people will start noticing you are new after a while, or you could make yourself known ... but totally up to you. I haven't gone to classes yet so I don't really know what it's like.
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Posted: 25 March 2008 at 11:26am |
Our AN class never clicked during the classes but now we're all great mates. If you're going to form a coffee group after then I'd stick it out until you've been to a few of those as you may find things change dramatically.
If you're hating it and not learning anything then you shouldn't force yourself to go. I found the later classes on baby care useful though (not the birthing ones as I had a C sect)
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Posted: 25 March 2008 at 11:26am |
I went ... but I didnt learn anything that I hadnt already been told on here so I dont see why you "have" to go if you dont want to.
Also ... some of the stuff they tell you is complete sh*te anyway ... and (depending on the teacher) the information tends to be biased towards there moral beliefs.
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Posted: 25 March 2008 at 11:27am |
True - Ignore it if they tell you epidurals are the devil and for 'weak' women. I'd choose an epi over vocalisation any day as pain relief.
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Posted: 25 March 2008 at 11:39am |
I also don't think you learn much but sometimes its good for a laugh on the way home. My AN group hardly spoke to each other either but now have coffee group regularly.
A good friend of mine arned me it was like this as during class everyone is pregnant, tired, nervous, stressed etc os can't be bothered or to scared to talk. After they have relaxed slightly and you have more of a shared thing e.g birth etc and something to talk about.
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Posted: 25 March 2008 at 11:46am |
I now think thats it actually more important to find out as much as you can about actually looking after a baby, rather than just focusing on being preg, and giving birth like they do in antenatal classes. The baby is gonna come out one way or another, but its much more of a shock the system having this little baby to look after!
I have found it really important to have contact with other new mums, so maybe ph plunket or similar and find out about coffee groups etc that u could join once you have bubs,..otherwise sticking with AN class may be the best way of meeting other Mums with new bubs.
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Posted: 25 March 2008 at 11:55am |
I didn't learn anything at mine, there were some good things about it and I did make a really good friend from it and also have a coffee group so that's great, but the other thing that was really good was what DH got from it. I could not get him to read anything about childbirth he just kept saying "you can tell me" erm not when i'm in labour I can't. I think he got way more out of it than I did, he knew what to expect (although I ended up have c/s which wasn't really covered) he also reminded me of things on the first day when I was having a little trouble getting Spencer to latch.
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Posted: 25 March 2008 at 12:00pm |
I didn't learn much at mine either, and at first I thought it sucked cos everyone was older than me. I thought I wouldn't get on with them. But I made myself chat to whoever I was sitting next to each time and it got easier. And once bubs were born, everything totally changed! We have coffee group each week and it is so good, I love just chatting and hanging out. And it's good cos all the bubs are about the same age.
So if I was you, I'd stick it out for the coffee group at the end.
And also ditto what cuppatea said about DH - although I knew most of the stuff, DH didn't and it was a better way for him to learn rather than through reading books etc. And also he could talk with the other guys.
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Posted: 25 March 2008 at 12:15pm |
i felt like you..but made myself go..didnt learn too much either:( but Dh really did and it was worth it for that.
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Posted: 25 March 2008 at 12:39pm |
Yea its kinda strange really. I'm not worried about a coffee group - I've never had that many friends anyway. I think im finding it really boring cuz it's ALL in regards to vag births, and I wont be having one. I saw on the schedule that the LAST one is about baby care.. Guess I will just have to get on with it lol.
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Posted: 25 March 2008 at 12:47pm |
Gosh that must be boring for you then MissAngel, no wonder you don't wanna go - I don't blame you! We skipped one week of our AN classes cos I was reaaaallly tired and DH and I felt like we hadn't spent any proper time together in ages. And the topic was one DH knew lots about. So we had a 'date night' at home instead. So don't feel like you have to go to every single night... maybe just go to every second one or something, and the last one
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Posted: 25 March 2008 at 12:50pm |
We hated our's too so stopped going. But we were both in agreement that it wasn't worthwhile.
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Posted: 25 March 2008 at 1:39pm |
I didn't enjoy mine either, and I resented them telling us that pain relief was the devil and the epidurals were dangerous. I was heaps younger than anyone else in my class, and have only seen them once since Maya was born, at a first birthday party for the babies.
I agree with kellz, the mothercraft side of things is IMO way more important, they should focus more on that, but ours only did 1 hour of post-birth parenting stuff.
If you don't like it, flag it I say! The only thing I got from mine was a sore butt from sitting for so long!
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Posted: 25 March 2008 at 1:57pm |
I thought our group was very clicky too. But now o to the coffee group and they are a lovely bunch. Its nice to see Daniel with other little bubs.
I found our class had parts of interest and bits that were very common sense!!
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Posted: 25 March 2008 at 2:41pm |
Ive only had one AN class so far, second one is tonight and DF and I really liked it. I found it good for him to hear all this stuff from someone else, he really listened to what the lady had to say.
But if you dont feel comfortable going then you dont have to, but its sounds like your partner really wants to go and in the long run it would benefit the both of you if he learns some stuff aswell ya know? Men need the extra boot up the bum  (well my df does anyway lol he never listens to me!)
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Posted: 25 March 2008 at 2:50pm |
lol he's one of these guys that knows more about stuff than anyone else :P In fact we were talking about what happens if i go into labour early, and he's got it all sorted! Who to call, what to do, how to keep me calm etc lol.. I laughed so hard I almost pee'd :P
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Posted: 25 March 2008 at 4:11pm |
ohh - exciting! I have just booked my classes at Chch womens beginning on 24 July.... I really am glad I can go to them so DH actually can hear from someone else what I will be putting myself through!!!
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