Feeling so Down in the dumps

Im feeling so awful. Not with ms, but with my emotions/hormones, Ive been so down in the dumps and getting angry at everything, poor DF is copping it bad and sometimes I dont even want him touching me, and when he tries to hug me in bed and night I just lash out and get angry, poor guy!!! And tonight I just lost it and cried my eyes out for an hour, I was sobbing and babbling stuff. I asked for my mum so she came down to our flat(its attached to their house) and she had a chat with me and said I should call my MW and tell her and she might be able to help me cope with my emotions and stuff.

Its so horrible cos sometimes Im not even excited that Im having a baby, my anger/sadness or whatever has just taken over and I feel helpless  Im so scared I might have depression, Ive read about Pre-Natal depression and now Im worried I might have that!! Im so confused and I hate feeling like this.

Im sure its just my hormones all up the shoot, but its making me feel so awful

Edited by Sheza

Yeah, I think I'll give her a call on Monday. Maybe I need to get some more vitamins into me and stuff, I guess with having the ms and feeling so tired it all add's to the stress and stuff. I just feel like such a bitch ALL the time, and I dont like it  Ive talked to DF tonight though and just said to him that I need more help around the house and I need him to try and understand what Im going through, I dont think he realised just how awful I feel until I broke down tonight.

It probably has a heap to do with hormones. Also during the first trimester you'll find that you're hugely exhausted. This should ease off after about 12 weeks when the placenta takes over the major nurturing role. In the meantime you may swing up one week, down the next, etc. How's your eating? Milk and banana smoothies will help boost your energy levels if you're up to that kind of thing.

Yep I think thats right, hehe. I think that at my 12 weeks scan which DF will be at it will seem more real to him because he will see baby moving and stuff. I get frustrated with him because he goes on about how he's tired from a hard days work, but what he doesnt realise is that I feel like that ALL day everyday without doing a thing  and he made a comment the other night and I just thought "Dont say anything, bite ur tounge" cos otherwise Id have gone mental at him! Ahhhh men huh, they are so clueless sometimes. My mum said tonight that dad would say he understood how she felt but he didnt really, she said men dont have clue they dont know what its like to be pregnant or what its like to bleed each month etc lol

busymum wrote: cuppatea wrote: Yeah sheza I think it is hard for them to understand because you don't have a bump yet and its strange to them that you can be so ill and exhausted when they can't see anything happening (if that makes sense) For men it doesn't seem to be real for them until they feel the baby move, or in the case of my DH the baby is born!!! Yep that's absolutely right. In my first trimester with Hannah (#1) I came home from full-time work, started cooking dinner, and then had to lie on the couch and tell DH to take over. He didn't have a clue what to do, all I said was, he'll have to figure it out cause I feel really sick all of a sudden and just HAVE to lie down! - it's funny now!

Hehe yeah. Im like that, I come home and just flop on the couch and DF just has to get his own dinner cos half the time I cant stomach anything other than a bit of fruit or something.

cuppatea wrote: We went to England when I was 6 weeks and man did I get annoyed with what everyone thought I should do about the ms. Eat an apple, eat a biscuit, have some ginger beer............frig off and leave me alone I just want to curl up and die!!!!

 

LOL, yep u summed that up perfect!! "Frig of and leave me alone and I want to curl up and die" is about bang on!! So many ppl keep saying do this do that blah blah and its like GRRRRR I HAVE tried lots of things and it doesnt work!

ms sucks

just wanted to give you big hugs

I kinda know what you are going through, i am really hormonal at the moment and man god help anyone who looks at me wrong, cos i will either get angry at them or burst into tears.

We are all here for you babe

Thinking of you

*Big Hugs*

I got down/miserable at about 16 weeks. I was still having MS and felt lousy. My MW gave me info for me to contact maternal mental health. I ended up ringing them, and once they had discussed my case and contacted me back, I had had a complete turn around, and elected not to see them

I have survived 2 previous bouts of depression, and knew for a fact that I was/am always going to be at higher risk of post-natal depression, but didn't expeect the emotions that I had during pregnancy - and I was worse 3rd trimester than the other 2 combined! (they were just 'moments' nothing major and I put it down to fear/excitement and hormones in general)

Hang in there. We're here for you to vent to, or just share what you are going thru

Thanks everyone  I feel better today after my big cry last night. DF said he didnt realise thats how I was feeling and he has said he will do his best to help out more and stuff. I will still mention it to my mw, there may be some herbal supplement I can have that will help balance out my moods.

 

Hey Sheza,
I can totally relate to this - I hate to say it but for me it didn't really get much better. It peaked at about 13 weeks and then subsided for a few months but now it's back with a vengeance.

The best thing is to go with it. Explain to your DF that sometimes you will be upset/upset with him and it is hormonal and he will need to step back and understand that and not take it personally. Be kind to yourself. It's ok to cry and it's ok to sleep lots and rest lots. You need it.

That being said it wouldn't hurt to monitor it to make sure it isn't becoming something worse. I find that I can be absolutely heartbreakingly sad but the most that a cycle lasts is a few days. If it is ongoing then I would definitely seek professional advice.



Be kind to yourself and remember there's no rule that says that you should be happy all the time because you're pregnant.