what made you decide to have #2?

I'm sitting here with the worst AF cramps I've ever had, dosed up to the eye balls on Neurophen+ so I'm not exactly of sound mind LOL

I kinda, sort of, decided a couple of months ago that I didn't want to have another baby for a couple of years, at least! But since I made that "decision" I've been having second, thired, fourth, fifth etc thoughts! We went to the park today and it seemed to be "newborns big day out" they were everywhere, I swear it! So naturally, I got super clucky and I didn't think it was possible for grown men to "coo" so loudly!

Anyways - yadda yadda.....
What were your reasons for having #2? other than you wanted more than 1 child

i found out i was 17 weeks preggersd and thought "what the hell"

i don't think us people answering are really the ones with the best advice - no offence mum2emj!!

Two was always the plan here. and due to age the sooner we got going on the second the better. i dont really think there is another reason for having a second other than wanting more kids, just diff reasons as to when.

Just being clucky, feeling like I was in a good place emotionally (not too drained, tired, etc), and figuring that I can't predict what's going to happen this pregnancy or in 9mos' time either for that matter... and coming to the conclusion that I was probably as ready as I would ever be! We just TTC "casually" though, I think each time I have got clucky around when the older bubba was just past 6mos. (When Briona was 6mos was when I had a surprise early m/c and I got clucky just from the "what if" thoughts. Even though I was initially like, "but Briona's still a baby!", I couldn't shake the cluckiness for #3.)

i guess it was just *the urge* for me, following the natural progression after having #1. we did wait till after our wedding, so xanthe was 2 1/2 before we started trying. and knowing that we would be trying then gave me lots of time to get clucky and be happy about it.

maybe i just wanted a *planned* baby!!!

lizzle wrote: i found out i was 17 weeks preggersd and thought "what the hell" i don't think us people answering are really the ones with the best advice - no offence mum2emj!!

nah no offence- just thought i'd say that i didnt chose to have another, she was a suprise that took a long time to get used to and that things worked out perfect in the end i agree it comes down to each person, each family... and that we cant give her an answer, toni will have to decide on her own (with her hubby) but i think its ok to share how we all felt and why we had our second babies

all the best, toni xxoo

ah, this is one thing i do regret about being a single mum, i would love to have another baby,tomorrow if i could, but next time i want to be in a proper relationship (which i am now, but he wants to get married first)but yeah, it would have been nice to have had caitlyn while i was in a proper relationship, and then when the time was ready , try for number 2, instead of having to wait for the right guy to come along as well lol, as it is miss C will probably be 7 or 8 by the time her next sibling is born...hopefully thats still young enough to enjoy it ?

Thanks for your thoughts. It's interesting to see that most of the reasons were to have a playmate for #1, which is along the lines DH is thinking, and that whole "only children are spoilt" thing (which I don't agree with).

When we were planning to TTC #2 we said January 08, and there's still a few months to go so I can still change my mind a million times before then LOL

i wanted two children and i wanted them to be reasonably close in age. My sister has two and they are 5 years apart and can be a nightmare and I knew i didnt want my children to have that sort of relationship. After Kobe i thought maybe i dont actually want anymore because i had the whole, how can i love another as much as kobe, how will kobe feel guilt thing happening but Im so happy i did go for number 2 because they are becoming great playmates already.

caitlynsmygirl wrote: ah, this is one thing i do regret about being a single mum, i would love to have another baby,tomorrow if i could, but next time i want to be in a proper relationship (which i am now, but he wants to get married first)but yeah, it would have been nice to have had caitlyn while i was in a proper relationship, and then when the time was ready , try for number 2, instead of having to wait for the right guy to come along as well lol, as it is miss C will probably be 7 or 8 by the time her next sibling is born...hopefully thats still young enough to enjoy it ?

yep thats me right now