Don’t hog the confession thread

With your veiled but un named posts about how rude I am.

Have the balls to say it to my face!!!! Here is a thread all of its own, and when I come back later this arvo, I expect to see it full!

It's 43 now!

I confess I had to go into the confessions thread to get why you'd started this. The PMing.....duh

I'm inclined to agree with FT so this isn't the thread for me, basically I agree as for the 2 years before I had C, I didn't have a lunch break cause I was running A between caregiver & kindy cause stupid caregiver didn't have a car! So yep being at home for me is far easier on me than the constant running around, plus workload I HAD to get done.

I have no probs whatsoever with you Annie, I think you're fantastic!

I do find it difficult when others (anybody, certainly not just you) say being a SAHM is easy and so on because I then start wondering what I'm doing to make things so hard if its not supposed to be coz I don't always find easy (make sense?). I'm constantly second-guessing myself as a mum and the first two years parenting Jake were hideous for me. I did have alot of other stuff going on but I feel like I've somehow failed my kids because it hasn't been a breeze.

I yell and cry, I don't get the housework done to my satisfaction alot of the time, I get frustrated by the sometimes constant interruptions, I get confused by all the different advice, the lack of language skills drives me nuts on occasion, having to get down and play 2yo games bores me senseless some days, I worry constantly that I'm not providing enough love, stimulation, patience and learning, and probably once a fortnight I wish I could be transported to an alternate universe where the house was immaculate, I had a 5 star chef, the kids appeared clean and quiet when I wanted to see them then were whisked away when they played up (and I had Heidi Klums body ).

I love being a SAHM and I adore my kids but parenting for me is NOT just easy and reading that it apparently should be is quite gutting when I'm struggling to figure this whole parenting thing out. In saying that I can see that it'll be easier when they get abit older and also easier the more I have coz I'll have abit more experience behind me IYKWIM

I don't think your opinion was wrong, but I do think you were very harsh in the way you communicated it. You and newlywed are at very different stages in your SAHM "career" and perhaps is why you can't understand each others feelings on the matter. Unfortunately you were on completely oposing sides of the fence and were never going to agree but I do think that both of you came across as fairly rude in some of your posts.

Anyway, nothing at all against you personally and I've no "side" to take but I can see why some people may have taken some of what you wrote personally.

I've been a SAHM with my first baby, then a working mum with one preschooler, and now I am a SAHM to a schoolboy and baby/toddler and I cant really pick which of the latter 2 is the hardest...

I have skim read a lot of to-ing and fro-ing with the posts aimed at each other and I dont see what the arguing is about... We are all entitled to our own opinions, its a shame we cant all voice them in a way that wont be seen as 'attacking' but thats the downside to having such an open forum such as this... noone knows what tone it was 'said' in, so it is percieved exactly as we read it...

All that aside... its a shame that the original idea of the thread has gotten off track again, so well done Fattartsrock for taking the initiative to remove the debate from what was supposed to be a tongue in cheek thread

no idea what the PMs are about though... guess I'm not part of that clique But I DO know Kelly... so does that mean I'm part of HER clique??

rude rude rude rude!!!! oh and fat too!!!

tart!!!!!!

Ha ha 176 views and only 12 posts.   

me too...

Meh... i think everyones entitled to their own opinions and its all got a bit out of hand,

heres mine- being a SAHM may be alot harder for one person than the other due to alot of reasons , support from partner (emotional and physcial) , the childs behaviour (some children are alot easier than others) , age of children  (newborns are not easy, i dont care what people say ), size of house (i know this sounds silly but i got sooooo much more stressed when i was at home all day with Amelia in a very small confined one bedroom house, its alot easier having more room and in a proper house ), help of family and friends , and alot of other reasons . Just because one person may have it quite easy does not mean everyone has it exactly the same , every family is different and until you have lived in that families shoes then i dont think anyone really knows if its easy or not .

Meh .. im used to people making veiled attacks about me in the vent thread, cryptic thread and any other thread they can think of ... you just get used to it Annie

I haven't been into the thread in question much, but It still utterly astounds me that people get so het up about someones elses opinion ... if staying at home is as hard as they make out to be, there shouldn't be loads of people on this forum discussing the topic, they should be slaving away doing mothering stuff.