midwife

I have a lovely midwife..i really like her as a person..but i have rung her a few times and will always specify if I think I need her to ring me back.last time I rang her after hours (7pm) and asked her to call me back...that was a week ago and she hasn't...I've already spoken to her about this and she didn't perceive why i rang as important(she said she thought she would just talk to me about it next time she saw me but to me at the time t was important) so she didn't ring me back..in 23 weeks I have rang 3 times and txted twice with no reply..
she always waits till the next appointment which i can sortof understand as way in the beginning I did tell her I'd ring back if it was important...

but still...am I wrong in expecting a response ..even if it is a few days later....man i hope it changes when i see her more often..she is lovely in person listens very well answers all my questions wonderfully and is great..but even if she didn't think it was important why wouldn't she at least call me back..am i being overly sensitive? or is it normal to expect answers to my questions even if she thinks I'm crazy:) (it's my first pregnancy and she has over 30 years experience)

yep exactly what i think..and i am a worrier but it doesn't help my confidence to not have her call back..i had the option of changing to my friends midwife..she rings back and txts all the time..but she is having a baby now so yeah :( can't...but although she's a great person next time will be finding another one..

My midwife would always ring back, even when I said its not urgent she would return the call the same day, if it was urgent she would be paged and would ring within the hour.
Just because you are 23 weeks doesn't make anything less urgent and to just be waiting till the next appointment seems a bit slack to me.
Also you should be able to ask as many questions as you like and they can be as crazy as you like, I know I asked a few, and even though I might have got some funny looks she still answered them.

I always got a call back within 24 hours.

Sounds like my m/w! Wonder if we have the same one?! I would recommend changing but I doubt you would find another one at this stage (I considered it, but she was the 20th m/w I called, so figured it would be too hard).

Mine didn't even call me to see how I was doing after being admitted to hospital, nor did she know why I had the following week when I saw her, so yeah they can be pretty slack and most of the time I think they just take people for the money.

daikini..i tried that last time..i talked to her about not replying and i told her i would say if i needed her to call me..this last time last week i expressly said please call me back and nothing.. :( being my first baby i need extra help i think and she said 'feel free to ring me anytime' ..why should i have to ring her back all the time..she can ring me when it suits her i don't care if it's a day later or whatever:( it just sucks...I know one person who transfered from her for same reason(though didn't know that till 2 weeks ago) but just a shame for me to feel such a a pain when i think im just being normal:(

cuppatea- yeah she has answered my crazy questions in person..and bene so great..i knwo i said id ring back if its important..i will clarify this next week..but i said 'Hi..it's Kerri-Anne here...and then explained what i wanted..can you please ring me back when you can'..I mean I thought she would do it:( ' I need to grow some balls maybe:)

italiah..yeah i will talk to her about it at next appointment..i don't like ruffling feather but I just wanted to check i wasn't being unreasonable before I said something:(

Emz:( sad you are going through the same thing..my friend told me to change.(she did at 17 weeks) but i didn't think id be able to and I liek her as a person(and it took a while to get used to her as shes quite forward and although I'm outgoing I'm a bit shier about saying some things..like she just had a student there one day..no warning or anything and i was embarrassed asking things..
she rang when i had m/c but never rang to see how i was after it or anything but in the end we decided to go with her when i got pregnant again..:( cause of experience etc.. but she is going away early feb so might not have her anyway:(

rach-never met a backup:( i didnt even know these things till recently.. and i tried txting to see if she'd reply but nope..no call nothing.. (though i could have called her after that) this last time I was just so annoyed as i needed to know where to get medication from (even though its not urgent stuff:( )

sounds like im getting the raw end of the deal.. I will talk to her about it when i see her.. it doesn't help my confidence having these issues:(

sorry for the novel!

I'm thinking it might be best to see about changing also. You keep saying you like her as a person but that is a bit different to liking her as a midwife. Besides I'm really suprised she took you on knowing she was going away around the time your due.

OT - cuppatea, why wouldn't she do cordbanking for you??? Seems weird.

Kawww, it must be horrible... I would definately be changing while you still have plenty of tiem to develop a new relationship with another MW. 

I have briefly met my MW's partner MW and took an instant dislike toher, which is unusual as we only said hi.  I have told DH that if MW is not avail and she suggests the partner I'd prefer to just go with the hospital MW.

You should ask to meet the partner MW maybe she will be better and you can just swap to her.  Especially if there is the chance that yours will be away anyhow.

tiff she has her daughters wedding... 1st week in feb..she thinks im due feb 14th but i think 9th feb..

cuppatea...don't know how i'd go about changing..theres not many mw's available here from what i know..??:( she sounds awful:( verena....it took me 5 midwifes to get here and i was only 5 weeks:( so have no idea how to go about getting a new one.. :(

True it's different to liking her as a person than liking her as a midwife... :(

i will talk to her again..last time she apologised profusly for not ringing back and the time before this one i said it was fine not to ring me back...but this time i very very clearly said who i was and that i needed her to call me back..she's even annoying DH as she's making me more stressed...oh i hate conflict and I'd have to tell her I wanna change:( will talk to her on Tuesday and see what response I get..

I can't believe there are Midwifes out there that are soo lazy! Gees, this is your baby we are talking about, and not to ring you back! My midwife is great, if she isn't home I either leave a message or page her and she rings me straight back. I have her again for this pregnancy as well as with Lucy.

You should change midwifes! You have to be happy and all the best in finding a new one