Two under 2!! Freaking out.

Im just about to become a mummy of 2 under 2 and my boy is only JUST 13 months lol, my bubs is due in just under 3 weeks, eeek

Im not too worried really...I am still able to give caden lots of attention, the only time I couldnt was when I had MS, and Caden was only 6 months old then, but we got through it

Im just going to make sure that Caden is always involved in what Im doing, so he never feels left out

You will be fine

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Im sure you will be fine! Your wee one will be walking etc by then so could even be quite helpful to go get you stuff that you need for baby etc.

My friend said when she had 3 under 1 - yes 3 UNDER 1 - that you just cope, you just do. Somehow you find it in you, some days you go without having a shower but my kids are always feed clean and happy - I think shes super Mum! Lol.

She had twins was on clomid, took quite a while, had the twins then found out she was pregnant - wondering how on earth that happened because she needed clomid to get pregnant the first time!

There is 362 days between the twins and the youngest lol.

So if it makes you feel ANY better there is always someone "worse" off than you lol.

Ok BREATHE, it is totally doable and not only that it is also totally awesome.
I have a 19 month age gap and I love it.

Firstly the first few months won't be hell on wheels like with the first cos you know so much more about babies now, yes they are all different and there is obviously some adjustment, but you won't freak out about every little noise, every colour of puke or poo, every snuffle, fart etc. You will be more relaxed and the baby will be more relaxed and also compared to toddlers, babies are easy.

What I have loved more than anything and was part of our reason for planning such a small gap was that two days after we got home from hospital it was like Kyle had always been here and Spencer didn't even realise that there had been a time when he hadn't been. Now they play together and I swear already plot against me. Spencer's first words in the morning are "where's bubba".

Hardest things I found were co-ordinating going out. Do I let Spencer walk and take the capsule in or use the double buggy or put Spencer in the umbrella stroller and Kyle in the front pack, but it all works out in the end and you learn how to do things, the same as you learn how to do things when you have one baby.

You will be fine - we had a 3,2 and 1 year old and it was hard but once you get used to it its all good. The first couple of months are hard but even with our older to where there is a 3 year age gap those first months were just as hard.   Now our 2 boys 3 & 2 are so close and are best mates theyre always off doin something together.

Just take it one day at a time but honestly after those first couple of monthsit will be great!!

cuppatea wrote: . Spencer's first words in the morning are "where's bubba".

Those are exactly Issy's first words followed by awwwwwwwwwwww (in that whiney girl tone) if the answer is that he's sleeping)

I'm right in the middle of the "why the hell did i do this?" first six weeks .. and its hard, and im constantly feeling useless because I don't have the time or the arms to get everything done and keep everyone happy!

I'm always feeling like Issy isnt getting her share as Im always feeding, changing or rocking (or watching Issy isnt going to bang the baby on the head with one of her toys as she wants him to play with her lol), however I try to spend some time each day with just her.

I just know (from experience of having one), that it will eventually get easier, and the other posts prove that

Ive found going to bed at night at the same time as the kids helpful, its hard to sleep during the day with a newborn and toddler as their schedules sometimes conflict. Just mysky your night time shows and watch them in the wee small hourd when your feeding

oh & congrats

My boy is 21 months and the little little guy is....... well due 5 days ago. Like so many of you I have often sat there and wondered the hows - and dare I say it whys, especially on the days when B is playing up, or not listening. I know that I have support here, and IRL, and that the first x months are going to be tough, but in the long run it's going to be really rewarding

You can do the toddler seat for Jaye that way you don't need to get a new buggy.

That is kinda cool about your hubby's hours. When Jess gets home he ends up only having an hour with the girls each week night before they go to bed At least your man will be on hand to help during the day (when he's not sleeping that is lol)

My Dh works shift so every other week he works 2-10pm and i've had to the evening stuff by myself.

I found when Kyle was really little I would just keep Spencer going to bed at 6.45ish as normal and then keep Kyle with me in lounge till we both went to bed, they normally like to cluster feed in the evening anyway. Once he was about 2 months I started getting him to bed around the same time and i would normally put Spencer down first (as he goes to sleep no trouble) and then put Kyle down so I could concentrate on him and any patting or shushing that was needed without a toddler hanging off my leg trying to help!

Now the nights are all sorted and I even bath them together which works out well too, I just take all Kyle's stuff in the bathroom and dry and dress him in there while Spencer has some extra bath time. Then I let Spencer run round the lounge in just a nappy whilst I feed Kyle, I put him to bed at about 6.30pm then put Spencer in his pjs and he goes off to bed.

Plus I find when DH is on afternoons it means he is here in the morning to help me, which is great for being able to get washed and dressed and get out the door to go coffee group or swimming or whatever else we are up to.

I had a front pack but I think a sling would actually have been better. I bought a double mountain buggy but it's kind of a pain in the arse and I've ended up buying a smaller double stroller instead, it's called a marco something or other, you can look it up at www.bubstuff.co.nz, it's very small and totally awesome but the weight only goes up to 15kg per seat.

I have tried putting Kyle in an umbrella stroller and having Spencer walk but he threw a fit cos he wanted to be in the stroller, made for a very embarrassing visit to babycity

Hey I don't have 2 under 2 yet but probably will, but thats not my point, I saw this on trademe the otherday a little pricey, but they are so cool looking. I don't really like the idea of toddler seats so this could be an alternative.

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