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TheKelly 
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Posted: 10 April 2010 at 10:25pm |
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Can you remember the exact moment of your kids coming into the world ?
I don't mean the labor prior, or what time it was , I mean can you remember the details of them very first coming out and meeting them for the first time , how you felt , how they looked what your're reaction was etc ...
Feel free to share :-)
With C they held her up and she looked around as if to say "what the hell am I doing here again ! " she did not look impressed, and then she started crying , this pitiful little bleet and I said "its ok my angel " and she stopped and looked right at me , then I held her and I just felt every single emotion under the sun , it was overwhelming .
With Tyler , his being OUT caught me by surprise , I just remember thinking "my baby ", and I grabbed him and pulled him up to my breast and just looked at him and thought "oh ! I do love you ! "
( i was scared I wouldn't love him as much as I had Caitlyn)
Please share your stories ! we hear so much about labors that the actual amazing moment is not told so much
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Babykatnz
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Posted: 10 April 2010 at 10:40pm |
With B there was nothing but panic... he didnt cry and I didnt even catch a glimpse of him before they whisked him off to NICU (he was born with a nil APGAR and needed resuscitating after a crash c-section)
With Jae... I cried, because she came out SCREAMING! I had worked myself up into a right state thinking it was all going to go pear-shaped all over again, even though it was an elective this time that all I could do was cry in sheer relief that she was healthy enough to scream her protest at being pulled out of her cosy warm hole! (seriously.. I have a photo of her screaming before they'd even finshed pulling her out!) Once I stopped crying all I could think was 'this is our baby'... we had waited so long for her, that was a huge moment for both of us. She must have known who I was too because she started sqyawking when they tried to move her away from me to give her dad a turn at cuddling her (they were holding her up by my head)
ETA the photos
Barely a minute old (cutting cord)
and my first cuddle in recovery (less than 1 hr old)
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Posted: 10 April 2010 at 10:50pm |
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Our Angel July 08  Gone but not forgotten
And to complete our family, our princess has arrived
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Posted: 11 April 2010 at 8:20am |
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with Ty my first word as i was in pain and high as a kite....."man he is ugly" as he was squished all up and was a 9p baby ....al he did was stear at me and poke his tonge in and out like a snake
Mia i loked down and said "oh man its another boy" MW laughed and said it was a girl...she come out with but facing me...then she just screamed for wat seemed like ages.....they put her on me she she just pulled the most hillourous faces.
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Posted: 11 April 2010 at 8:27am |
I felt a hot rush of devotion and awe when Jake was born. I'd started talking to him as soon as I his head appeared and they had to ask me to stop coz he was lifting his head up and looking for me and wasn't making a sound lol for some reason they wanted him to cry.
Anyway then they put Jake on my chest and I just started crying with relief that it was all over, that he was healthy and now he was mine to hold and love, then I was crying coz I had this beautiful baby who was totally dependant on me and I had to go back to the situation I was in and I didn't know if I was worthy of my babys total trust and love. I looked into his eyes and knew I'd do anything and everything to protect him from that moment on.
It was really intense!
With Tyler my first thought was that he was all eyeballs and quite gargoyle-ish ROFL then they put him on my chest and I looked down at him and it all just fell into place. At that moment my heart expanded to fit this little boy in too. It was this quiet adoration and commitment to loving and protecting him along with a feeling of confidence which I didn't have with Jake.
Can't wait to see how I'll feel with the next one 
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Posted: 11 April 2010 at 8:29am |
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I was standing up by the bed with Mum holding my hands and DH behind me rubbing my back. MW was telling me to get serious and then all of a sudden his head was out and she got caught by suprise cos little man just slid out. No stopping for shoulders just out he popped. DH had him and showed him to me and we had a moment but I was to scared to hold him standing up cos I was shaking and in shock cos he wasn't meant to be here yet (was a month early and already 7cms when I was told he was on his way and I hadn't even noticed).
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Posted: 11 April 2010 at 8:31am |
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With Ella I'd had an epidural which wasn't worn off properly but I felt her come out and heard her immediately start screaming.
I just felt this huge rush of love and emotion for this tiny little screaming creature and burst into tears too.
They handed her to me and she looked up at me with these huge wide eyes and all I could think was "you're mine, you're my daughter"
For ages afterwards I still got really emotional when I remembered that instant love and connection and I really looked forward to feeling it again when I had Ben.
When Benjy was born they held him up and he had the cord around his neck, he wasn't crying just looking around and I was really scared that something was wrong.
They put him on my chest and I just cuddled him for one of those minutes that seem like forever and then he did the breast crawl which completely blew my mind.
I didn't have the same emotional, crying reaction that I had with Ella but there was definitely a strong feeling of "you're my baby and no one is EVER going to love you as hard as I do"
I found it really hard to give him up to DH for a cuddle!
And now I'm crying again reading all these stories and reliving mine. Can't wait to do it again!!
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Posted: 11 April 2010 at 8:32am |
What a great thread Kelly! 
I can remember thinking 'oh there she is- I *know* you Clodagh!' She was new and strange and familiar all at once IYKWIM? She looked exactly like I thought she would and like I had known her forever. Awwwww *sob* lol
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Posted: 11 April 2010 at 9:00am |
Cooper came out screaming like I've never heard a baby scream before (difficult ventouse delivery) and I was so scared there was something wrong, then my MW and the paed took him straight over to the little table thing to do his checks. I remember thinking "give me my baby, I just want to hold my baby", when they gave him to me I was nervous of how to hold him but it was so natural. DH and I were both bawling. It was such a relief to finally meet him and have him in our arms. He was all ours to love and devote our lives to forever. Unfortunately it was kind of scarred by the fact he was screaming so intensly (which he continued for about a 2 hours after the birth until he was given pamol).
I can't wait to do it all over again though
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Posted: 11 April 2010 at 9:11am |
oh wow ladies, those stories are so beautiful made me cry
cant wait to meet mine
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Posted: 11 April 2010 at 9:41am |
I just remember thinking 'oh my god, thank god that is all over!'  I was induced at night and had mild contractions all through the night, then 13 hours of labour and about 2 hours of pushing until she finally came out with forceps.
But I also remember this overwhelming feeling of love and emotions all at once. Including shock.
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Posted: 11 April 2010 at 9:54am |
I remember a sense of relief then a sudden OMG!!! as he was lifted up onto my chest. I felt a lot of shock and I kept looking at him almost to just check if he was actually real.
I remember he was having some trouble breathing, not enough to warrant intervention but enough that he cried a lot (apparently to try to clear his airways) and I remember holding him so tight like I was scared he'd disappear and being worried for him, like I've never been worried before.
I remember feeling so full of love as well, bursting with it. I swear it could have been night time with the worst storm of the century outside and I still would have felt like there was an amazing "angelic" light blaring through the windows and that it was the most beautiful day in the world.
As an aside, I'd like to add that I'm also surprised that the initial burst of love that I felt that day hasn't faded as I kind of expected it to, but it has in fact grown stronger every day. Just when I think there's no more room left for anymore love, it just keeps coming.
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Posted: 11 April 2010 at 10:19am |
This is a good idea!!
With Lily I was so tired and hungry at the end I just wanted her out, so when she was finally out it was like "Oh!". Everything sorted felt like it'd come to a stand still and didn't feel quite real until she started crying and it was like "She's here and she's alive!! Woohoo" and the mw passed her to me and I looked at her and at dp and it was just instant love, I couldn't get over how tiny she was either! (I hadn't had much to do with babies and kept thinking a newborn would be rather massive!) And she had her eyes wide open and was looking at dp and I as if to say "Hello, I'm here now!"
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Posted: 11 April 2010 at 11:10am |
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gorgeous stories ! its making me want that moment all over again too !
meant to say , if you have any pics of that first meeting that you want to share,please do !
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Posted: 11 April 2010 at 11:23am |
Awww  I remember the moment I first saw Chelsea's face, they passed her up thru my legs (I was standing leaning against the bed) and DH was there and we saw her little face and just looked at each other and said in surprise "wow, she's beautiful!" hehe, was weird coz obviously we knew we were having a baby, and knew that she was a girl, but hadn't been able to picture what she'd look like. Was a surreal feeling...
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Posted: 11 April 2010 at 11:44am |
I remember feeling that horrid twisting feeling as her body shifted around with her head on the outside... 
then there was this odd empty feeling when she was up on my chest. I didn't get a rush of love, no mushy feelings at all! Just checked that she was still a girl, and was sooo relieved that it was all over!
I remember most that when DH got to hold her all wrapped up while I was pushing out the placenta, he was just looking down at her, and then said so softly, "you are just so freaking cute". Made me melt!!! I knew then we would be ok, and DD just fit into our lives.
It actually took a few months for my big "rush of love" to hit, sure, she was my baby and I loved her, but she was just a baby until then. Sound awful much?
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Posted: 11 April 2010 at 1:02pm |
I was relieved he was out - but then he got taken away for resuscitation and I didnt get my first cuddle for over 5 mins it was really scary not being able to be happy when I didn't know if he was OK.
But when I finally did get a hold of my little man, it was instant overwhelming love and still is
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Posted: 11 April 2010 at 1:46pm |
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i remember it so clearly for both.
Henry : it was a thought of panic and where did all these people come from (he was one month early and apparently when i started pushing they called in the dr and extra nurses). He was taken away from me straight away. when i finally got him and looked at him i knew this was the end of living for myself.
Kiara : first thought was 'woah you were in a hurry' and then held her into my chest. Then midwife said is it a boy or girl? we looked and i bawled my eyes out because she was a precious wee girl.
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Posted: 11 April 2010 at 3:13pm |
I'm no good at puting feelings into words but here goes:
Lilly was a long difficult labour when the dr finally got her out he put her on my stomach my first though and 'god your huge', someone then came and took her away as she wasn't breathing. I had no rush of feelings, but panic that she wasn't crying and kept saying over and over 'why isn't she crying' and my mum telling me that 'shes trying' Got a little hold and all I want to do was look at her and have that rush of feels that everyone talks about but dh kept asking me to look at the camera and then she was whisked away to neonatal. Got first hold and breastfeed 9hrs after delivery and finally felt like this is MY baby (she was only 6lb14oz but had a very swollen head)
Willow was emergency csection i felt the moment she was pulled out and was so happy and over joyed when she start crying a few moments afterwards. Was a bit shocked when they told us it was a girl as even though we didn't find out what we were having either time we were both sure it was a boy. It wasn't till I got home three days later and started feeling better (pain wise) that the feelings of love came.
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Posted: 11 April 2010 at 3:49pm |
 Jaxnz1 wrote:
I just remember thinking 'oh my god, thank god that is all over!' |
Snap! That was my first thought. I had been pushing for a couple of hours, I was exhausted from it and was thankful that part was over!!
I think I was in too much shock to think all the sappy thoughts until I had had a chance to get my bearings again.
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