Have you told people your trying?

We are contemplating "trying again" for a baby. Been on the back burner for a few years now. Don't think we will tell, hopefully people will leave us be with the "when are you gonna have a sibling for K?" as we are planning a wedding so that'll keep em at bay.

We have been trying to conceive for years, everyone always assumed I could easily have a child because I already have a teenager. We never told anyone we were trying to conceive, and thus came the constant comments of "when are you guys having a baby?". I think it is so rude, and insensitive, to comment on other peoples fertility without knowing anything about their situation. It's something I would never do. We are having IVF early next year and most of our friends and family know now, bet alot of them feel stink about their constant hassling now. Sorry to sound bitter but it has been really hurtful!

I've told a few close friends but that's it. We aren't married so that helps stop the kids qn

I have told my very best friend which is amazing, she has 2 kids and is great to talk to about everything!!! I have also told my sister.. not so much of a good idea, she thinks that tracking my cycle, temping and OPKs is going over the top. she has a son who was an accident but has just started TTC again herself with her new partner. she even told me that only people going for IVF use OPKs..... she has NO idea!!! and my partners parents know, mainly because MIL knits baby clothes and is sewing nappies and things for us. There are a couple of other close friends that know but no one has asked us about it except my sister once, and my best friend get voluntary updates from me every few days anyway.

I have told a few close friends... I told them when I was preg last time and it was great to have the support. That also meant (as Spitfire said) that they now know we are TTC.... But they are good and didn't ask questions. I am lucky enought to be UTD again and I have told the same people again as they were such a great support last time.
I have NOT told my family as they would continually ask for updates and my stepmum would tell everyone within reach we were preg as soon as we tell her! So they will find out after my 12week scan!

Everyone knows that we are trying, we have had 3 miscarriages and have been very open so they are all aware of the issues, and because of that I don't get the question much anyomre, as they all know how long we have been trying. The support for us has outweighed everything else. The last postive test we kept to ourselves and it made it so much harder for both of us when things didn't go well

We get asked the question all the time, I find it really irritating. Funnily enough its always from people that arn't that close to us, our family and friends seem to understand it will happen in our own time. In saying that though I have told 3 close friends - but that is it. And I only told them because I am bridesmaid for 1 in Feb so wanted to give her the heads up in case I am UTD, and I couldn't tell her and not my other 2 friends!!!

We started trying this month - and this has been an interesting gonnundrum (is that a word?!)

My best friend is now pregnant and much to my surprise didnt tell me until she was 13 weeks.. but ive found out did tell her sister/mother and her husbands family too as soon as they knew. I actually took it quite personally as I thought we would share that especially as she has been trying for almost two years. My other best friend also tried for quite a while and told us a week after she found out (8weeks) as she was so excited it finally happened.

I know I dont plan on telling my parents until 12 weeks (not the best relationship) - and probably wont tell my partners mother either.. and certainly wont tell anyone at work until probably the 13/14 week mark.

Ive decided to tell one close friend who is more like an aunty to me and i hardly ever see and the friend who told us at 8weeks - more because I do want somone i can share the journey with.

Its hard to deflect the questions thats for sure, and i usually say 'sometime next year' which was the truth up until a month ago.

I've told really random people. I work in the baby industry and its just one of those things that come up so I tell staff at the stores I visit that we will try next year. I guess its people I don't see all the time so will prob forget or not really care either way - I feel like I can talk about it and be excited without any pressure. In saying that my parents know we're not using contraception (although am still preventing with timing for a couple of months so I fit my wedding dress) And are pretty good about it, mum keeps saying wait a year get some more work done on your house. And I told my close aunt and my nana - but they are both as batty as a fruit cake so have prob forgotten. I think thats the only people I will tell - maybe my 2 good girlfriends who live in Dubai. I think I'm only afraid of telling people and it not happening for ages. But I'm also pretty straight up, i don't think ill mind saying we are trying and its not happening if thats the case. But I'm thinking positively all the time. To be honest I didnt know it was such a sensitive issue for people until I started hanging out on here. All the people that know also know we will adopt from Tunisia (FH is half Tunisian) if it doesn't work out and although I want our own baby id be happy with that too.