Bridesmaid a month after due date??

My bestie is getting married Dec 7th and I just found out I'm due Oct 22nd with my first. What are your thoughts as to how this is going to work if Im a bridesmaid? I don't know how tied up with baby I'll be, and what I'll look like, and how I'll feel etc. I'm just wondering if I should keep committed to being a bridesmaid or should I be pulling out? I want my bestie to have the most wonderful wedding and I don't want to be a hinderance or anything. I just don't know what to expect of myself . . .

Edited by waikatochic - 22 February 2013 at 6:19pm

That is a really tough one. You may have a really easy baby who just sleeps through the whole thing - but you may not.

Yes definitely be totally honest with her, and the sooner the better - you never know, she might have a view about it.

If it was me I wouldn't want to commit to something like that - on the day it is pretty time consuming to be a bridesmaid and it could be stressful if you're just lurching from baby to bridesmaid duties and back and forth (and bridesmaid dress is unlikely to be breastfeeding friendly!!) so you might end up just not enjoying the day at all.

I think your friend would probably say it is more important that you are there (and happy) than play a particular role. Perhaps you could offer to do something else like a reading in the ceremony, or give a speech, or something like that, that it wouldn't be a big deal to pull out of nearer the time if you need to.

Personally I always enjoy weddings more if NOT in the bridal party - you can just relax and enjoy yourself :)

Good luck and congratulations on your pregnancy!

I was bridesmaid two weeks after giving birth to number two, also had my two year old as flower girl. If you do decide to go ahead with it, make sure you get someone to help out. I had my husband look after and control the two year old, and got my mum to come along solely as nanny for the new baby. She'd hold him until he needed to be fed. I even managed to do my speech with a baby asleep on my lap! :-) It is do-able! As for body shape, try and find a lace up dress, and you might need to alter it a few days before, a zip in the side is also great if you plan to breast feed. Anymore pointers feel free to ask :-)

Our boy is almost 9 months and our wedding is coming up in 2 weeks. If one of my bridesmaids were due just prior I think I would leave the decision up to them, but I would be happy for them to bow out, there is enough for new parents to worry about in the lead up to the birth as it is.
It can be such a demanding time, even with a content baby.. to get feeding established, sleeping sorted. Then sometimes other things crop up colic, unsettled days.
High heels were deffinatly out for me for the fist two months due to the type of birth I had(walking was sore enough) however most people don't take quite so long to heal up. I also put on 22kgs, then lost 12kgs in the 3 weeks following the birth. A month after giving birth I was a size 12 in dresses (originally an 8) and went from a cup size 12b to a 14c. I would suggest a dress that has room to grow but can be easily taken in, and has lots of fold and flows loosly around the abdo and hips, but can be easily taken in. Hope this was helpful.
I think it would be possible, but you'd need to plan how to work around it if bubs won't settle, and talk to the bride about these plans, and see what her reaction is, if shes the ultimate bridezilla type then you may want to pass the boquet on to someone who can devote their full time and attention. Because your number one priority is the baby, and you shouldn't feel bad about that.

I had about 10kgs extra after both my kids! When I was a bridesmaid at 6 weeks afetr my second child, I went up from a size 8 (with a 6 waist probably) to a size 10 and had to have a flattering stretchy style to fit my new waist in it! hope that helps.
I know people in their early 20's who have bounced straight back into shape, but for me it took over a year with the first child and has never happened after my second.