Threatened miscarriage, what to expect?

So sorry u are going through this.
Having had a mc in March where I hemorraged very badly, I would say that u should stay close to home and rest. I know that waiting is hard tho and distraction is good.
My mc started when I woke up Sat am, and didnt pass everything til late the next evening- so really it wasnt that long but felt like forever. The bleeding stated very lightly, was heavier that night then 2 pm the next afternoon the blood starting gushing out while I was driving 20 mins to my inlaws- and this was after resting since the bleeding started the day before. I ran into the loo when i got there and it poured out for 1/2 an hr- I couldnt get off the loo- rang mw, grabbed heaps of towels and DH drove me to hospital where I countinued to bleed like that for 5 more hrs. Was horrendous and had to have 3 nights in hospital and blood transfusions and fluid drips etc etc. Nasty.

Most mc arent like that at all, but they can be life threatening,..so takecare and err on the side of caution.

Kalika,
I am so sorry you are going through this. I had a missed miscarriage just over 4 weeks ago. I started spotting and then bleeding at 11 weeks and went for a scan. We found out the baby had died at 9 weeks. Everything, including the baby was still intact. My midwife was fabulous and booked us in to the hospital the next day to talk through options. The options were wait and see if I would pass it naturally, have medical management (taking a pill to help induce and contract so everything can be passed) or a D&C. I chose medical management because I couldn't face waiting for everything to happen as they said it could have been weeks and weeks. I didn't want a D&C because there is a small risk that there could be damage to the uterus or cervix. It took me a good day to decide and it was the most horrible decision to have to make but I am happy with what I chose. I liked knowing when it was going to happen and I was in hospital for the day and well taken care of.

I had trouble passing the sac and placenta and ended up having a doctor help to coax it out. There was a lot of bleeding but I am still happy that it was the best decision for me.

I stayed off work from the time I found out the baby had died, until a week after the medical management. I am in a really public position and deal with people all day so I wasn't in the best frame of mind to do my job at all. I also wanted to give myself the chance to grieve and heal well. I was off for 2 weeks altogether and my boss and colleagues were so amazingly supportive.

I guess my only advice is to do what is right for you. You may be someone who needs to keep busy and then work might be good. However, do take the time to grieve and to get over everything physically as well. The pamphlet I was given said it takes a good 6 months to fully grieve and heal from a miscarriage, so please take care of yourself and be kind to yourself. Stuff everyone else I reckon!

It's such a terrible, traumatic time that you wouldn't wish on anyone. There are all these hopes and dreams that you can see come to life, only to have them snatched away again. I'm probably rambling! Still very raw for me, but I did find after a couple of weeks I was able to go back to work and I really feel that I've bounced back well because I gave myself the time.

I wish you all the best with everything and hope you have good support around you. I notice you are in Canterbury. I live in Christchurch, so if you ever want someone who understands, please PM me and I would only be too happy to meet up with you. Let us know how you get on.
Tania

Hi Kalika,
Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you. The waiting game is hard so I hope you get lots of relaxation and time out for you during this time - in such a way that keeps your mind off the 'what if's':)
I had a miscarriage with my first bubba - but it was a complete miscarriage and very obvious as it all happened in one day, the waiting must be hard - HUGS!
thinking of you :)
x

Thanks Angiebaby - the waiting is hard, but it is what it is, I can't do anything else

I'm ok Tania, pleased it is the weekend. Work has been good, I need kept busy and even though I've been light headed throughout and have felt a bit sick its been manageable. One of the hardest things though.. the weekend I found out I was UTD a colleague's wife gave birth, so its been baby talk non-stop.

Emotionally I'm ok, that may change on Monday tho when I go for my scan. Physically I am just tired, I have 3 horses and picked up 3 wheelbarrow loads of poo and afterwards my legs were shaking. Bleeding has subsided pretty much and I haven't had cramps since Tuesday.

Thank you...

Wish I could sleep! Hubby was out tonight at a function and I can't help but search online for answers. Tomorrow night will be the same. Torture..

Two of my friends do and my sister in law. They don't really understand though..

And I just get so sad.. like I don't know for certain that its over, will 2moro after the scan, but I'm 99% sure its over.

If I didn't have horses depending on me to look after them I may not have gotten out of bed yesterday

Edited by kalika - 12 November 2012 at 8:28pm

Well unfortunately the news was bad.. but what we were expecting so wasn't a surprise. The upside is my body is extremely efficient (I like to think its one of my talents lol) and I don't need medication or surgery and my hgc even dropped from 3500 last monday to 111 today.

Will take tomorrow and maybe Wednesday off work just because I have plenty of sick days owing and I can take some me time. Looking forward to having a wine this weekend though and getting back on my horse without worrying about consequences.

Thanks all for your support, advice and comments xx

Thanks Angie