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    Posted: 11 May 2012 at 11:35am
Hi all, I know this is a really contraversial topic but I don't want to start a debate, just want to know from anyone who's done it successfully:

I have a 7 month old who wakes every 3 hours to be fed. I am convinced she doesn't need that much food and would like to drop 1 feed. She normally wakes at 11pm, 2am and 5.30 ish. I'd like to drop just one feed for now and work on the other feeds later. Is it possible to do it this way or do you have to go the whole hog for it to work? I am thinking to try dream feed at 10.30 then not feed her before 3.30 and see if she will get in to that pattern. Is dream feeding more disruptive to her sleep, should I just feed her when she wakes at 11pm as normal? any advice appreciated.

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Hi,
Cant help on the dropping a feed side of things but I did do CC with my DD at age 1 - to get her to settle at night. She had already dropped the night feed but was a terror to get to settle at night.

How much per feed is she having?? Is she BF or Bottle fed? Solids??

Sorry I cant give any proper advise but didnt want to read and run....
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My daughter was 12 months old before she started sleeping more than 4 hours at a stretch. She still wakes for water/comfort after 6 hours sleep then she goes back to sleep till morning.

I didn't use CC/CIO with her as I didn't like the effect it had on her during the day.

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We completely night weaned DS at 12 months old- he was back to feeding up to every 1-3 hrs after being sick a few months before that.
We did not use CIO or CC at all, and I still bf right before bed til he was 2. We involved DH more in the evening routinue, starting with him being in the room reading DS a story while I fed him to sleep,....progressing to him being awake while I fed him, then me passing him sleepy, but still awake to DH who would settle him to sleep without me. After that DH then was the one who got up to settle DS int he ight and not me- I fed him only once the first night, then not at all after that. It was tonnes easier than we expected.


Tho from expeience with my 2, night weaning doesnt seem to reduce the number of wakeups at all!
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I night weaned DS2 at about 7 months. As above poster i got DH to do the night wake ups and resettling. DS2 did cry a bit with the change of settling, but was being comforted by his loving dad. I had my earplugs and a sleeping pill.

I think it took about a week of crying and and then by 2-3 weeks he stopped waking in the night at all. Then he turned into SUPER night sleeper and slept through the night every single night until 15 months old. Bliss.

The crying was hard but so damn worth it, i just could not get over the change in him. He was so much more settled during the day as he was getting a full nights sleep, as was i. Happy mama was back woohoo!

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My DD slept through the night from about 3.5 months old (by that I mean approx 10pm till 5 or 6am) and I didn't use CC/CIO at all. For her it was more about getting enough into her during the day to encourage her to sleep (the goal was just to stop the wakeups every 1.5hrs rather than sleep through the night). I started encouraging more feeding during the day, so a regular feed then a play followed by a top up (another 10 mins or as long as she wanted on the breast). Then offering just water every second wakeup at night. I still got up to her but offered water and put her dummy back in and shushed her/patted her tummy/stood next to the cot for as long as it took.
I did do a feed at 10pm but not a dream feed as such as I only had to walk into the room and DD would fully wake up. I think from memory she was in bed at 6.30pm/7pm and then I would get her up for a proper feed at 9.30/10pm but no play time and as quiet and dark as possible. After that I would offer water for the first wakeup and go through the process I outlined above. Then if she went back to sleep I would offer a feed at the next wakeup and then water at the one after that. The wakeups got gradually futher apart over a 2 week period till she wasn't waking till 5 or 6am. Then after about a month I worked on bringing the late feed back to 9pm (just so I could go to bed a bit earlier - I was back at work so I needed to be in bed by 10!).

Hope some of that helps. Good luck.
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote JoJames Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 12 May 2012 at 2:17pm
I think it doesn't hurt to try it out, with DS1 he was such a sucker and a feeder that I did try control crying, more in that if he cried I wouldn't go to him for 5 minutes to give him the chance to settle himself, you soon learn which crys will mean escalation and which mean they are settling.
And I found that a dream feed for him was pointless and didn't help at all. (ds2 it worked great)
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I have never dream fed, to frightened to wake her!
But to stop the other feeds, if E woke around that age DH went in to settle her and I would just do 1 settle and feed. We did that for a short time, then DH did all the settles, worked well.
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With DS when I decided the three hourly thing was really past it, I did as someone else did - feed him at 11pm or so, then when he woke at 2am DH would resettle him or we would use white noise. I would then feed him next time he woke, even if it was only 30 minutes later. But with knowing he wasn't going to be fed every time he woke, he did soon stretch the sleep period out to a respectable length. He would have been about 8 months when I did this.

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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote MammieB Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 17 May 2012 at 7:28pm
I dream fed untill about 9 months - setting my alarm for 11pm and then feeding, a few nights I slept through the alarm and baby didn't wake until 6 so figured that she didn't need dream feed anymore.

As for controlled crying - we did it and it worked for us - even until the age of 2 when she went into her big bed, think we started quite early (like 6 months) as my plunket nurse was really helpful and supportive with this - she is a happy healthy little "monster" and no harm done, if anything she self soothes herself very quickly even if she gets hurt or upset.



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CC was a godsend for us - we started at 6 months when she started on solids. Bed at 7, then I did a dream feed around 10, then she'd usually wake up for another brief feed in the wee hours. After a couple of months, she'd clearly lost interest in the dream feed, so I dropped it and she started sleeping through till 6/7 - made me wonder if I should have dropped it earlier!
I found that it became pretty clear if she'd woken hungry or just needed resettling. Took a couple of weeks to get used to the signs, but we got there.
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