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Topic: Scared? Posted: 06 January 2009 at 5:12pm |
Sorry not pregnant, Just wondering if theres any ladies out there that are getting anxious or even a little scared about the big day?
It was easy for me beacuse I had a planned c-section with the girls so I knew weeks in advance when they would be here. I imagine the not knowing when would be a little scary. Also I don't think it really hit me that they would actually be coming out untill the day they arrived! Its weird I was so wrapped up in being pregnant and what stage of pregnancy I was at that it never really truly sunk in that I was about to meet my first babies until the day it was happening.
Just wondering all you new mommas to be, what are your thoughts are on the big approaching day
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Posted: 06 January 2009 at 5:27pm |
hmmm YES! worried about the pain and the huge change it will be to our life more than anything. i'm a pretty positive person but am not looking forward to pushing something that HUGE out of there! i've been looking up photos on the internet and they just gross me out big time! and i'm too much of a woose to watch the videos! haha
although, i have to admit it doesn't quite feel real yet. once my belly starts growing, then i'll start worrying how i'm going to get it out of there! i just hope i can find a midwife that loves drugging me up to the max with pain relief - no natural/drug-free birth for me thanks!
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Posted: 06 January 2009 at 5:29pm |
I just wish this baby would get the hell outta me!!!!!
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Posted: 06 January 2009 at 5:29pm |
Haha yea I'm with you! I have to admit I was stoked when I found out it was twins because I knew I could request a planned c-section lol!
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Posted: 06 January 2009 at 5:48pm |
Im on number two and still scared!
I do have the option of having an elective c .. and although I remember how much labour REALLY hurts, I dont want to go through another c section if I can avoid it.
But . still scared (just in total denial at this point lol)
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Posted: 06 January 2009 at 6:03pm |
I'm so so so excited!! Obviously it has to come out eventually, but I haven't thought about it too much yet
Oh Cuppatea - hope not too much longer for you!!
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Posted: 06 January 2009 at 6:06pm |
Scared ? damn straight Im scared!
Even tho I was "lucky" and had a straight forward labour with no complications, inverted commas are because at the time I didn't feel lucky, I still know how blimming painful it was.
Last time the choice to have pain relief was taken out of my hands and I had none, this time despite how scared I am, my plan is to not have any , which DF doesnt understand .
I guess you could say , Im scared ,but excited, cos ive seen before what my body can do ,and I know that at the end of it , I get a little bubba !
I did get scared tho, looking at some graphic childbirth pictures , it never ceases to amaze me ,how , erm, big it gets down there , there were pics of c sections too, and that scared the bejaysus out of me .
I shall keep this book and show C these pictures the instant she tells me she has a boyfriend ....
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Posted: 06 January 2009 at 6:11pm |
I have to admit the idea of an emergency c-section would scare me but having it planned was fantastic the whole thing was so quick and easy  Would totally recommend it to anyone. Recovery was much better than I expected I never used the morphine drip they give you afterwards and was walking around the next day
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Posted: 06 January 2009 at 6:15pm |
Not scared yet. Actually kinda excited about the whole process but then I haven't read a whole lot on it yet, nor have I seen any pictures or videos of labour so perhaps I'm still a little naive about the whole thing  Maybe it's best to stay that way!!
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Posted: 06 January 2009 at 6:24pm |
I've decided i'm not going to have a C section or a vaginal birth. Not sure how i'm going to get her out but she aint coming out of there!!
Amy, don't look up pics or video online lol. You'll see enough when you start classes.
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Posted: 06 January 2009 at 6:27pm |
Just skip the classes too ..
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Posted: 06 January 2009 at 6:27pm |
I was excited and impatient...up until I went into labour and I realised there was more to it than the baby just coming out .
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Posted: 06 January 2009 at 6:43pm |
I had an elective c/s last time cos he was breech so this is all a bit new to me as well, trying for a vaginal this time. I didn't mind the c/s and recovery wasn't as bad as i thought it would be but it's not something I would choose to do and I did have the choice to have another c/s if I wanted. Just hoping it doesn't end in emergency c/s but if it does at least I know what to expect and it won't come as a big shock.
I was worried about labour earlier on in this pregnancy but now I am so over being fat and uncomfy and having false labour every night that I figure one day of bad pain is better than this continuing for any longer.
Dana I was always hoping they would invent some kind of star trek way of beaming the baby out completely pain free but alas that hasn't happened yet.
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Posted: 06 January 2009 at 6:55pm |
really Cuppatea??? so I can hope that by the time Im full term I wont be scared too? that would be nice
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Posted: 06 January 2009 at 7:06pm |
Im having an elective C/Section this time, cos I had a horrible labour last time(48 hours) and an emergency c section, so I have to have an elective this time as its so close to my last....and Im doing this again???
Im a bit scared I guess, the c section was a bit scary...buts thats cos of all the dramam that was going on with my labour.
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Posted: 06 January 2009 at 7:14pm |
Sheza I think you will find an elective a lot different to an emergency. Mine was all very calm and we got to write a mini birth plan as well. DH was offered to cut the cord (they cut it but then re cut it when they are being cleaned up) Dh then had first cuddles and brought him over to me and I got kangaroo cuddles whilst being stitched up. And like Lisa I didn't need to use the morphine pump etc and healed really well. Is much easier to have surgery if you haven't been in labour for days already.
Yeah Kelly I think once over due you just don't care you want the little bugger out no matter what, or at least I do and so do the other over due ladies in the Jan thread.
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Posted: 06 January 2009 at 7:14pm |
I was a little scared but overly confident with DD1. Then I had an emergency c/s (due to haemorrage) and that really flipped me. With DD2 I was completely freaked out and wasn't even wanting the baby to be born at all - until I hit 38 weeks (phew, just in time!). I didn't know if I would have a successful VBAC or another emergency c/s with her, so that was the scariest. With DD3 my confidence came back and I was "only" nervous. I'm not really thinking about it yet with this one but I guess I'm getting more confident each time now. Still, I don't like pain very much LOL
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Posted: 06 January 2009 at 7:16pm |
By 42 weeks .. I was ready for them to pull her out of my nose if thats what it took
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Posted: 06 January 2009 at 7:26pm |
I'm more scared this time than I was the first time. I did get a bit anxious last time but this time I actually know how painful it is. If you'd asked me a month ago I would have probably said stuff it, I'll try epidural this time lol, but I got over that quickly and now although I am scared I'm not scared about the pain I can handle that as I did last time.
What I'm really scared about is that the birth will be faster than last time (I went from 4cm to fully dilated in 90mins and I was in shock after the delivery). I'm scared we won't make it to hospital this time and there will be complications due to my bleeding disorder, or that I'll have to have my baby in the car in the middle of the motorway. DH however told me when I expressed my fears that he knows what he's doing this time so doesn't mind delivering our baby if need be.
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