Cold feet?

Don't take this the wrong way Dal....but maybe you're not really "ready" yet? There is no real rush for you is there? So don't feel pressured into TTC because everyone else thinks it's the "right" time - just because you're married, you've got your house etc it doesn't mean you HAVE to have children now.

In saying that, I think everyone feels scared/worried when it comes time to making the decision to TTC your first child (and probably each one afterwards!!), just because it's a momentous life-changing decision.

I don't know that this has been much help, except for me rambling on as usual....but either way and good luck whichever way you choose to go!!

Lol, Dal... this question again

Seriously though, I'm in a similar place (except I've not come off the pill yet). There is no real reason NOT to TTC right now, but there is no real reason TO TTC right now either. Some days I think I'm ready and some days I think no way! I think for us it will come down to what would be the difference between this year and next, you know?
In the end, for me, the money and the weight will work either way, and DH and I are rock solid... but that just means the barriers are gone, it doesn't mean it has to be now. Age isn't pressuring me (or you) just yet.
So over christmas some time, I think DH and I will be pondering what would be doing with/without kids in the next year or two. Hopefully one of those options will sound more appealing to us than the other! This time overseas has kindof awoken a bit of an adventurous side to me that wasn't there before, and at the moment I'm leaning towards spending the next few months doing a few things with DH that we wouldn't be able once we have little kids.
If its just a matter of being nervous, I think that would always be there - next year or the year after too. So for me its more about what would be different - what would I/we do if we waited?
Gosh, sorry, I don't know if that was any use to you! But at least you know you aren't alone.
I've told DH that even when we do decide to TTC, I reserve the right to have a complete freak out when we get a BFP

I agree with Stacey.  It's perfectly normal to get cold feet because it is a huge life changing decision (although my cold feet came after my BFPs both times - silly me).

You also never know how long TTC will take.  You'll kick yourself if you put it off only to find that it's takes ages and intervention to actually concieve (sorry, don't mean to freak you out even more).

One saying is true whether you actively TTC'd or whether your BFP was a surprise and that's "You will never regret the children you have, only the ones you didn't"

 

edited: man, my spelling sucks atm!

Edited by MrsMojo

Go jump that husband of yours tonight

Hahahahaahah Stace!

Dont mean to sound rude lovie but Im glad you feel my stress! In a good way - makes me feel more normal!

I guess its all part and parcel of the whole TTC process!

ETA - Peachy when did Lauren get to be 1?! That has gone FAR to quickly!!


Edited by BooBoo

Dal it is a big decision! i agree with the other girls, so normal to feel this way! we werent TTC when I got a BFP, had planned to try a few months later, so it was a lovely surprise when we did find out and you have 9 months to plan, prepare and grow to love that baby inside you!

You guys are such angels thanks

ETA - We must have posted at exactly the same time! LOL - that is so funny about you already being up the duff! How crazy is that!

Edited by BooBoo

Good luck Dal, you know you want to

LOL Dal I'm with you on the cold feet!

I'm not sure if it was you or someone else who posted on the TTC thread about always wanting to plan everything, and finding the whole TTC something you can't plan.

I'm only 1 bcp pkt away from being where you are.

My train of thought is I don't want to get bfp straight away but I don't want it to take too long either, and until I try I've no idea whats going to happen. Its a bit frustrating.

Sometimes a whoopsie daisy would be much easier.

yep BooBoo thats a sign, its horrible when AF shows. Good luck