i’m so mad-vent

i am so so so mad right now i'm actually almost crying i'm sorry to write this i no worse things can and have happened but i don't really have anyone to talk to. i went to dps house for a bbq today and his nana and grandad where there. she took him outside where i couldn't see him, when i went outside she was feeding noah ( whos only almost 6 months) garlic bread!!!!! i was fuming! he has only just started having rice ceral and has dairy allergies and who noes what else!. so i said no he cant have that as nice as i could and she started to sulk and tried to feed him butter potatoes! anyway i said to dp what had happened and he did nothing (they hate me already because i have my own opinions, so was trying not to come off as bad person) so i took him off her. and she spent the rest of the time saying to noah "you liked that a until your mother said no" and stuff like that. then when i left dp had a go at me about it saying it was nothing and i make to much of it.

sorry im just mad

I am so sorry you had such a bad time. That was terrible of her to feed your baby, IMO for a baby so young anyone should ask you before feeding your baby. It has only been in the last few months or so that I have let my Mum feed Jack without checking with me first (I went through a stage of restricting some things in Jack's diet). Other people don't know what your baby can or can't have. Oh I am getting mad for you!
And your DP needs a boot up the backside for not supporting you on it!

Edited by Linzy

Sorry to hear you had a bad time. But I have to ask....you mention you just said 'no he can't have that'. Did you explain to her why he can't have that ie his allergies? She may have been more understanding....?

kathyandbub, you did so well to contain your frustration...i'm thinking if it were me it would have been a different story, i would have let her have it! i think that you are totally valid to be annoyed at that....and as for writing you off for your decision to breastfeed....whos baby do they think he is!!???

x

Edited by emmakate

sometimes i have to wonder what actually goes on in there head lol. i know its not the end of the world and have calmed down today but i'm going to make it very clear to dp that know one except us feeds him and if any one else does then he doesnt go round and see them. a bit harsh i know but hes my boy and i dont want him to end up like them (big peolpe) or worse have a reaction to somthing that they feed him. and they dont have to feed him theres plenty of other stuff they can do with him.

I think he doesnt like to challange them. he never stands up for me which i think is half the reson they dont like me. we have had alot of fights over this because his loyalties should lie with me and his son. IMO.

i no 6 months is way to early! if i shouldnt be eating garlic because it might go through breast milk then bub should def not be givin garlic straight! and its not like hes not getting more then eough i weighed him the other day and he was 10.4 kgs so a very healthy boy.

oh well they are going away on a cruise for a month so at least i dont have to see them for a while haha

Edited by kathyandbub

Thats awful - especially how she went on about you afterwards saying "You liked it until Mum said no". How childish! I also can't believe that you told her about the allergy and she still didn't get it - grrr!   

My sister-in-law tried to give DS an eskimo lolly at 3 mths - she thought I was being a cow by not letting him have it! Plus she use to say to me she couldn't stand breastfeeding because it makes you stink of milk from it leaking! Just for the record I dont leak and I dont stink! But what annoys me is people trying to push formula onto mothers who choose to breastfeed. A bit of support wouldn't go astray! (I don't go to visit her anymore as she annoys me too much).

I also think the older generations don't understand as back then, they were encouraged to fed their babies pretty much anything. Plus formula was very popular, in some generations the preferred choice.

I really sympathise with you. It is a hard situation to be in, especially if DP is not behind you.   Have you sat down and spoken to him about it?

Tried to talk about it with him he said that its over with and why do i keep bringing it up. grrrrrrrrrrrrrr. He so deserves a smack! I just told him that he needs to think about where his priorites lie and if they not with me and bub then don't expect me to hang round. Though its proberly very hard for him as his grandparents are very minipulative to his whole family.

Though his mums parents are absolute sweeties! pity they are not the ones who live so close.

omg ! You are definelty a much more patient person than me , I would have been very p*ssed off if someone did that with my baby .
I agree with Linzy , i dont think you should feed a baby that age without getting an ok from the mum first .

...and your DP should be backing you up , make sure you let him know that .
GRRRR! im very angry for you !