Scared mummy to be...

Bless gracebaby ... I felt the same way and I didnt go through rounds of IVF (I was one of the lucky ones who fell pregnant the second after deciding we wanted a bub).

And ... I soo wanted to tell the world but managed to hold out until week 12 (although we did tell our parents straight away).

I know its hard ... but try not to worry ... and you are COMPLETELY normal ... we all felt exactly the same way

Ah, I hate to tell you, but I think it is the curse of the IVF survivor to feel this way, and passing the 12 week mark doesn't make you feel any better. I think I will be like a cat on a hot tin roof until he/she is born. The little troll had 3 good bleeds in those first 12 weeks, and the pain! I think with your body settling down from IVF, there is a LOT more pain than a 'normal' pregnancy would have.

The thing I kept telling myself was that it is far worse for the baby for me to work myself up, than any perceived source for anxiety. I know it is hard, I know very, very well, but do try to take things one day at a time, get lots of rest, try not to worry (do something to calm you and help you bond with baby - read it stories. I read No.9 a story every night before bed, and at times if I feel I'm getting a bit over-anxious) too much, and just take the precautions the clinic has told you to take. Only 2 weeks thereabouts until your first scan, and once you have seen the heartbeat on that scan, your chances of anything going wrong come right down to below 5%. And don't forget - because of pre-implantation testing, embryos who may not have been strong, or may have been defective and therefore likely to miscarry have been eliminated from the equation, so the one you are carrying is strong and likely healthy.

Hi Gracebaby welcome to Ohbaby and CONGRATULATIONS!

Its normal to feel the way you feel....as I felt the same way with both my pregnancy! I had bad bleeding with first and little with this one and like you I freaked out with every cramp, every niggle!! But I have a beautiful nearly 3 year old daughter and another one one the way that is happily kicking me away!! I never had a MC and never been thru IVF but Ginger is probably the best person to reassure you!!

Just relax and enjoy all the stuff that comes with being pregnant...no its going to be easy but always have positive thought and I will hope and pray that you have a beautiful bubba in 34 weeks!

Take care!

Edited by Roksana

just to add...This pregnancy I had really low results from bloods too...the nurses at my GP were concerned that I will MC but here I am at 23 weeks!!

I haven't gone through IVF but have had a 12 week miscarriage and I felt like you did till after he was born(and he had an score of 3 at birth so worried then too) so it is normal to feel that way sometimes...esp after all you have been through.. and I would listen to Ginger she gives good advice and has been there with IVF too:) (17 weeks )

Congratulations Gracebaby! Wishing you lots of sticky vibes!

I haven't had IVF myself, but like many others I was quite anxious about mc. I figured if I can only make it to week 12, and see my baby on the scan, then it will be real and I can stop worrying.

I saw the scan, baby was perfect (as far as they could see) and I'm almost 14 weeks now. But I still don't dare to buy anything to do with the baby. I'm now waiting till the 20-week scan.

Guess as someone mentioned before, once you find out you're pregnant you start worrying and will never stop again.

Take good care of yourself and all the best! Hopefully you'll see your baby soon on a scan.

Congrats gracebaby.

I hope everything goes well through the rest of your pregnancy.

Our first scan on Tuesday next week!  cant wait to see my little bean and a heart beat!