Bedtime sux in our house!

This last week Lauren has not been happy with going to bed in the evening.

She screams and screams and screams!! I just get to the door way of her room for bedtime and she starts. Towards the end of last week I started to rock her to sleep, I was desperate to get her to sleep in under 2 hours.

Last night I started doing the CC technique as hard as it is for me. While I type on here she is screaming her head off. I have been in once, now just waiting out 5 mins to go back in and pat her and shhhh to her.

What happened to my perfect baby that used to drop off to sleep the minute her head hit the pillow?

CC sux but I do not want a baby that requires being rocked to sleep every night.

What else can I do other than CC, I am not one to let her CIO out as such?   She also does not take a dummy, we weaned that over a month ago.

I always swore I would never do CC or CIO, but also don't want a baby/child that is dependant on being rocked to sleep, so am stuck between a rock and a hard place.

This sux.

I dont know Peachy....have no suggestions, but hopefully someone will!! Have you checked all the obvious things, like temperature etc?

Hang in there, am sure its just a phase!

 

um...is she teething? Ella normally goes to bed fine in the evening, but last time she was teething she cried and cried when she got put down. We ended up giving her a dose of pamol and then I lay down on the floor beside her and then she went to sleep Luckily it only lasted the week and then she was back to normal. 

Hopefully she goes back to normal soon, I know how frustrating it can be when you don't know whats wrong.

Well I reached for the Pamol and it worked, she's just gone to sleep now, sigh.....and she's sobbing in her sleep, don't I feel like a great mother - NOT!!

Who knows what to do, where is the "manual" thats meant to come with them when they are born

She did have a cold last week and her nose is still running a bit, maybe she's still feeling a bit louzy.

Big hugs Peachy! The gremlins aren't the best sleepers either, and I ended up doing CC as a last resort. It worked, but I hated every minute of it.
If they do wake, I tend to give them Pamol "just in case", that way I am reassured that they're not crying from pain, then I let them get on with it.

As a baby Michaela was fed/rocked to sleep her whole life but by 10mo it was taking me hours to put her to bed and she'd wake several times a night to resettle. I'd tried CC & CIO and neither worked for me so I did my own variation.

What I did was establish a proper nightime routine (we'd had a routine before but this one became strict with no deviations and I shortened it - no more that 15 mins, and no going back into the family/living area after bath time). She got a story, prayer and cuddles in my nursing chair then I'd put her in the cot. Once she was put down in her cot I'd sit on the floor next to it with my back to her so she couldn't see my face but with my arm flung through the cot bars across her belly so I felt like I was offering some comfort (it also prevented her from standing in her cot). The first night it took me over an hour before she fell asleep, the second night it was 45 mins, the next night took even less and within a week I was putting her in bed awake and leaving the room straight away and she would quietly self settle.

Jack is still rocked to sleep which personally I don't mind. What happened when she had a cold last week? How did she fall asleep during that time? Was it in your arms? Maybe she has formed a new sleep association due to what happened last week. This is how Jack formed his feeding to sleep sleep association which we have now weaned him from. When I feel ready we will wean him from rocking to sleep.
IMO I would wean her slowly from rocking/cuddling to sleep if this is what is happening. Maybe rock her to sleep for a few nights, then rock her till she is drowsy and then out in the cot with shhh/pat if necessary, then slowly less rocking. Anyway that is my suggestion.
Good luck with whatever you choose to do.

jett was like this a few weeks ago he seems back to his normal self now tho

so hang in there

I was having problems with Kylah doing the same, after i got "another ear infection' ruled out, i tried this method. Put her in bed, stand by the cot for a minute, and dont give her eye contact or talk. Every 45sec to 1min take a step back, and keep going slowly untill you get to the door. May take 10 or so minutes but it worked for me. As long as she wasnt crying when it starts.. Might help :)

Thanks again for the comments and help. I am hoping its just a phase as she is such a great sleeper when she is asleep! This morning she woke at 5:45, then went straight back to bed after a feed till 8:30 as normal and is happy as usual!

I did offer Pamol most nights last week as a last resort because of her cold.

With the rocking her, I rocked her till she was relaxed and drowsy and then put her in her cot, I never actually waited until she was fast asleep and then put her to bed.

I will try a few of the different things you girls have suggested over the next few nights and see what works!

Thanks again, you keep my sane!

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