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kiwikid 
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Posted: 15 November 2007 at 5:42am |
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... to freak out a little bit when you first find out you are pregnant?? I've been ready for a baby for ages, or so I thought (currently 32yrs), I've been happily reading lots of bits and pieces, enjoying Oh Baby by Kathy Fray based on recommmendations from here, I even had started buying little all-in-one outfits in neutral colours recently.
But now that I actually have a BFP I dont feel as over the moon as I thought I would. All I can think about is how are we going to afford everything, will we really be able to adapt to a new little person, does DH really want to have kids or did he just say yes to make me happy.
I quit my well paying job back in August to work on a new business from home, it hasnt taken off like we thought it would and is costing lots but not bringing in much at all. DH has a very good salary but between living expenses and business expenses we have fast using up the savings accounts. How much do babies realistically cost to 'run' (hee hee)???
Deep Breath!
I guess it has a bit to do with the fact we only decided to not actively avoid getting pregnant last month so in the space of three weeks I now find I'm pregnant, surely that has got to take some getting used to.
I just hate that right now I'm much more freaked out than excited, am I completely weird, did anyone else feel a little bit like this and does it get better???????????
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cuppatea
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Posted: 15 November 2007 at 7:01am |
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Yes it is normal to freak out, I did exactly the same thing. We had tried for 6 months, then I changed jobs so we stopped trying, then we started trying again and it took 5 months and then I freaked out when it happened.
As for the money thing I suggest looking on babycity or babyfactory and they have a list of essential items and a list of stuff that you might want but don't neccessarily need. We wrote a huge list of everything and how much it cost and how much we would need to cover my maternity leave, it helped give us an idea of what we would need to pay out. As for running expense they are pretty cheap just account for formula (even if you intend to breastfeed, it doesn't always work out), and look into what nappies to use cloth or disposable, and as your due date will be in winter account for extra power for keeping bubs room warm extra washing, tumble drying etc.
Oh and once it sinks in you will get excited, especially once you have the first scan.
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Posted: 15 November 2007 at 7:19am |
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very normal and babies themselves dont take much to run, its not till they get older that they start to cost. and dont forget you have roughly 8 or so months to get used to it and get things in order...
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Posted: 15 November 2007 at 10:34am |
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When I found out (was planned) I had a little freak out too. But now I am so unbelievably excited!!! I think most woman feel the same. You are not alone!!!
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Posted: 15 November 2007 at 10:48am |
Yeah we'd been trying for 6 months and planning well before that and we still freaked out (and still do  )
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Posted: 15 November 2007 at 10:50am |
Firstly. Huge congrats! 
and lol yup! When I showed the BFP to DH he jumped around all excited while I went back in to do a second test ' just to make sure '
By the time the 12 week scan came and we saw 'double trouble' I was calm as. Then it was DHs time for a mini freak out.
Ours wasn't entirely planned as, we had gone on holidays to Europe and make a conscious decision not to bother with taking the pill, damn time difference and all that.
Plus it never happens in the first month, does it! 
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Posted: 15 November 2007 at 10:59am |
Completely normal to freak out! Quite justified too, when you think about the huge adjustment it all is. But it's all so worth it.
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Posted: 15 November 2007 at 11:57am |
Phew, that is very good to hear, thanks ladies 
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Posted: 15 November 2007 at 1:52pm |
Totaly normal to freak out! We had planned Gina too but I found myself wondering if it was what I really wanted in the first few weeks after we found out. Then I had bleeding at around the 10th week and cried my eyes out thinking I was losing her - that's when I realised how much I really loved her 
And no, babies don't have to cost the earth - you just need to avoid certain shops
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Posted: 15 November 2007 at 1:58pm |
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Posted: 15 November 2007 at 2:29pm |
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Posted: 15 November 2007 at 8:15pm |
I was like that too... every time LOL! I get over it in a month I guess and then get it again a couple of times in the pregnancy especially near the end! It's a huge adjustment but you get through it!
PS I 'allowed' us 2 years to get pg with Hannah and 6 weeks later.... 
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