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    Posted: 11 October 2007 at 4:57pm
... to have an episiotomy over tearing????

Saw the rerun of shorty st this am where maia said she would choose that and i wondered why you would choose to be cut instead of tearing naturally...

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I tore, but nearly tore front to back.... not too sure what i aould go for if there is a next time round...
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apparently tearing heals better (unless it's very bad) as the jagged edges heal together better than the straight cut - or so I've been told.

So I guess on that basis I'd choose to tear.

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I cant say that an episoiotomy would be on the top of my list! I had a small tear with my daughter which didnt cause me any pain during or after.
Apparently things are so numb down there that you dont feel the midwife doing the cut and some people say that its not until a day later and then it can be uncomfortable.

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They normally only cut if they think that you may tear too much and that a cut would be smaller.

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Being cut scares the hell out of me, but so does tearing. Im not sure what id choose....I guess I'll think about that more as the time coems nearer.


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I would be sh*te scared of someone down there with scissors or a knife while I was in the middle of contractions - so i'm going for the tear.

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am clenching while reading this. My midwife said that generally unless they needed to use forceps, she let them tear. i tore during   and didnt' feel a thing. yet the thought of it makes me feel ill.
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I had episiotomy with #2 and tore with #3. I could not get out baby #2 and had been pushing for some time and that's why the mw did it. Perhaps it was cause I had an epidural, who knows. But I would choose to not have an episiotomy in the hope that I wouldn't have to tear at all!
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My MW told me tearing was 'better' because there is a natural line in which you can tear and so you heal up better and quicker as opposed to a cut...


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Bearing in mind that I've given birth to a 9lber with a huge head and only ended up with a tiny graze I'd go for tear unless I was having forceps/ventouse coz that way you also get the chance of having no tear OR cut, but if it had to be one or the other I'd opt for the cut coz it's more controlled.
The big issue with cuts/tearing isn't the damage itself it's the way it's stitched, if it's stitched too tight it can cause problems later on.
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i tore with Bay and he was a vontouse bubs but i never even noticed the stitches at all and we were even back to special cuddles at 2 weeks but with Astin it was less of a tear but hurt like hell!!! so i think i would go for the tear just incase its no big deal anyway.
I also tore my wee hole!! with Astin cos i was pushing so hard that the catheta (SP?) came flying out!! now THAT! was painful!!!!
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Originally posted by Maya Maya wrote:

The big issue with cuts/tearing isn't the damage itself it's the way it's stitched, if it's stitched too tight it can cause problems later on.

This was the problem I had -- I had a second degree tear, which I didn't feel at all and didn't mind having stitched up (after giving birth with no pain relief I was like, "Sure, stick needles in my bits, I don't mind! Anything's better than childbirth!") But six months down the line my tear still wasn't totally healed -- and I'd started to grow extra scar tissue that was inflamed and painful. I actually had to have it cut away under local anaesthetic and it's still tender sometimes. Delightful!

That said, I think next time I would allow a tear to happen again. But I would be very careful about how it healed and would make sure it was healing properly.

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OK Amber you have me in pian with the cathetar

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You lot are putting my off trying VBAC with number 2 (which won't be for ages)

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I tore first time around, second degree, didn't feel a thing and stitches healed up fine, can't tell the difference now. Before that, I was happy to let a tear happen rather than be cut, and I'd go the same way again.
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I had a 2nd degree tear that healed quite fast - we were in hospital for 10 days and I felt fine before we left. If I have the choice next time, I'd choose a tear again in the hope it won't come to that - I did not enjoy the stitching up
    
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My mw wont do episiotomies, she uses hot flannels to try and avoid tearing, but she swears that tearing heals so much quicker. I would much rather tear than be cut.

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I had an episiotomy due to Madison getting stuck, she needed to get out and a little cut helped that. I only needed two stitches which healed very well. My mw didn't like doing them but in nher and my opinion it was the best option at the time. I think that if you can avoid them do, but if the tearing is going to be bad and a small cut will stop this then do it. All in all you have to trust your midwife to help you make the decision at the time.

And by the way it does hurt but only briefly

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I had a small tear with kylah, and when they were stitching me up an hour later she toldme it would be numb.. well it wasnt and it hurt more than labour!!!

Id prefer to tear cos i couldnt do a cut id freak out..
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