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rorylex
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Topic: pregnancy bonding classes??? Posted: 09 July 2011 at 9:06pm |
I am a plunket volenteer in my area and I like to come up with things for mums to do with their children, I myself focus on the pregnancy and birth side of parenting, our plunket no longer run antenatal classes apparently people would rather pay for there class thinking only the single and the poor come to our free classes, which isnt true but thats pretty much why they stopped but someone else has taken over them, only now our new mum classes are dying too because mums arnt seeing plunket til 6wks+.
after some thinking I thought about having a group that is for pregnant mums (and dads too) to come and do things like belly painting and antenatal yoga etc, like a 6wks program like the antenatal but the aim isnt preparing for birth its just bonding with your unborn baby. I myself have never done anything like this while pregnant but would have done a program like it if there was one. have been googling and found quite a bit on the positives of such a program.
so if there was a group like this would you go to it?
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Posted: 10 July 2011 at 8:17am |
YES!!! I would have done it. Well, to be fair i probably wouldnt have done it because i'm single and antenatel courses were awkward enough esp the bit where you practice massaging your partner and i was alone! But in theory thats an awesome idea. I really wanted to do a belly painting but seemed a bit lame to just crack out the paint at home by myself. Prob be awesome for dads too since i hear from friends their partners arent interested in cuddling or talking to the bump.
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Posted: 10 July 2011 at 1:09pm |
I think its a great idea and also a chance for those that didn't "click" with their antenatal group to meet other ladies that are pregnant in the area. I would have loved to do something like that (and also now I have a bubs maybe something that you can go to with a toddler in tow? maybe ideas for settling in with new bubba and toddler as I haven't really found all that much information on it.)
Anyho, I think it sounds great.
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Posted: 10 July 2011 at 1:14pm |
Honestly, nope I wouldn't have - a bit cringeworthy for me really. I'd rather bond with my baby in the privacy of my home, rather than in a group of strangers. But that's just me
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Posted: 10 July 2011 at 2:47pm |
I would probably have been keen, but theres not much chance I could have got DH to anything like that!
Perhaps you could look at charging for antenatal classes, or asking for a certain "donation" - and that money could either go to plunket or go towards paying for some experts to come and talk, or goodie bags or something? (If you think that paying would attract people back to the classes).
I was one of "those" people who paid for antenatal classes.
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Posted: 10 July 2011 at 2:52pm |
Nope i wouldn't have.
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Posted: 10 July 2011 at 3:28pm |
I was another who paid for classes - to be honest it was my MW who recommended them because the fee meant we would be with a 'better' group of expectant parents. In our coffee group now we certainly do all have similar backgrounds so yep - maybe do start charging a (small) fee for classes and you may attract more people back to them?
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Posted: 10 July 2011 at 4:27pm |
A 'better' group of expectant parents?
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Posted: 10 July 2011 at 5:54pm |
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A 'better' group of expectant parents? |
yeah not sure what you mean by "better" either Isabella - I went to the free ones, and I think I'm a good person, soooo? lol Our group was just a group of normal new mums and dads!
I didn't want to pay for something that quite frankly I could have learnt myself anyways, so free was good for us.
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Posted: 10 July 2011 at 6:07pm |
I paid, but only because the instructor of the paid ones was recommended to me by five different people, so I figured she must be that good - and she really was, she still gives us Mums support now nearly a year on. I would have gone to free ones over charged ones any time if it wasn't for that. I'm sure Id be comfortable with the people at them
In answer to your actual question, though, no I wouldn't really be / have been interested. I'm not the touchy-feely type, and I think any kind of bonding type class is going to have to have a bit too much of that element for me. Also, I felt very 'bonded' with both my bumps, so I don's see any need to work on that further.
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Posted: 10 July 2011 at 7:46pm |
Haha - hmm yeah... I didnt think much of the MW saying that either (hence the '..' - not my words  ) Maybe just the region I am in there are a lot of people having babies, some good to be around, some not so good...
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Posted: 10 July 2011 at 7:48pm |
Oh and incidentally - I ended up answering more questions that the instructor did because she was USELESS!! So paid classes = no guarantee they will be any good!
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Posted: 10 July 2011 at 8:55pm |
lol yeah, I reckon I learnt more from my books and friends and MW than AN class. It was fun to go to and all that, but cant say I learnt a whole lot. I would have preferred to learn about how to care for a newborn etc, we only did one night on breastfeeding as well.
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Posted: 10 July 2011 at 9:13pm |
I paid for Mother Support Group that carried on from AN class, and found the group very skewed to being middle class white women - the class was in titirangi which could have had something to do with it.
I enjoyed the content of the group and having guest speakers coming to talk to us the naturopath and the osteopath really useful.
The group itself seemed competitive - with all their baby accessories - of and perfectly still sleeping babies. My daughter hardly ever stays still and she won't sleep when there's something going on.
I prefer my OB Mummy's group - there are Mum's from all walks of life and they're a lot more supportive.
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Posted: 10 July 2011 at 9:54pm |
I don't know about "better" but I definitely think the poeple in my Parent Centre classes (which my LMC recommended hence me doing them) were a bit older than the free hospital ones. There were 2 in their 20's but the rest if us (10 other couples) were all in our 30s, which I personally felt a little more comfortable with.
And in my experience the people I know who did the free hospital classes have not kept up their coffee groups or only clicked with one other person, and all the ones who did Parent Centre courses have loved their coffee groups. Our is still going strong over 4 yrs later and some of the people in the group are now our best friends!  I think that support to form the coffee group was one of the biggest benefits of the classes we paid for!
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Posted: 11 July 2011 at 6:49am |
I did the free course at plunket. I chose it cos it was only a weekend and I had been at a birth and lived with a newborn so (thought) I knew what I was in for.
I really liked it.
We had a small group of 5 couples + me. At the reunion only 3 couples + me showed up and we still meet up quite often. When our babies were little it was fortnightly but now 2mums are back at work so we meet all together once a month and occasionally just have random playdates with one of the kiddies.
I was the furterst along in my group cos I was late putting my name in and then a space popped up for me. So while most were 28-36 wks I was 39+5 lol but it made for good covo
If I could do it again I'd still chose the plunket one.
If there were things like preggy yoga as well, I prob would of gone but I don't think I would do belly painting cos my belly is hiddeous haha
But I think it's a good idea
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Posted: 11 July 2011 at 9:19am |
I would, and DH would. But only if there was something like this on the Shore.
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Posted: 11 July 2011 at 12:41pm |
I would have done, but you wouldn't get my DH going anywhere near anything "touchy feely"
Actually, to be honest, I'd prefer things like belly painting and pre natal yoga to be girls only .. and maybe you would get more women coming if there was no worry that they'd feel silly/out of place being the one without a support person?
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Posted: 11 July 2011 at 9:25pm |
I would have been keen to be involved in a group that had pregnancy yoga and talks by naturopaths etc. Not sure if I would have taken DH with me though!
I was also one of those people who went to paid Parents Centre AN classes on the recommendation of my midwife. She suggested if I wanted a coffee group that was the way to go, and I have an awesome group now. One of the girls in our group started at the free local ones and confirmed what my midwife had said about most of the people there being quite disinterested in why they were even there.
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Posted: 12 July 2011 at 7:58pm |
hey ladies thanks for all the comments and added ideas they have been so helpful and its given me a good picture of how to cater for a range of pregnant mothers.
this is just a taste of my ultimate goal, wether i do something like this soon with plunket or yrs down the track on my own it is something i would like to do.
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