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Plushie
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Topic: Parenting advice from Grandma Posted: 17 May 2011 at 4:22pm |
Just had a good chat with my Grandma, she had some absolute gems!
Firstly she's HORRIFIED that i'm not giving him rosehip syrup 2x daily (i dont even know wtf that is but apparently he should drink it).
Secondly, she's APPALLED he isnt on purees. When i pointed out we won't be starting for another few months her advice was to start with some sweet pudding (yes, pudding.)
Thirdly, she is confused that i havent put him onto the bottle yet.
Thrown into the mix is dismay that he doesnt wear gowns (??!), upset that he's in the backseat of the car (how ever do i comfort him while i'm driving?)
Her parting advice was that i should call plunket and have a chat as they obviously havent explained what babies need very well!
Anyone else got some genius parenting advice? Or is my nana just nuts?
(I ask in the spirit of laughing at the weird crap people have told you rather then asking for a diagnosis on my nana!)
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Posted: 17 May 2011 at 4:26pm |
my mil once told me to "prepare" my nipples for breastfeeding, i should scrub at them with a goldilocks. Yip. passed on that thanks
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Posted: 17 May 2011 at 4:31pm |
Bahahahahahahahaha Your Nana is Gold!
OMG Liz...shudders!
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Posted: 17 May 2011 at 4:36pm |
Don't let her babysit...hee hee
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Posted: 17 May 2011 at 4:40pm |
Lol thanks for sharing - that wee giggle definitely made my day!
Oh your poor sweet grandma though lol!
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Posted: 17 May 2011 at 4:40pm |
all sounds very silly now doesnt it?! but just imagine that in your grandmas generation those things were all quite normal! Good on her for suggesting you talk to plunket! LOL!
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Posted: 17 May 2011 at 5:07pm |
every time my aunt sees me BF she comments how hard it must be for DD to drink lying down...we just use the plain old tummy to mummy hold... She has even tried to position DD straddling my knee so she is sitting... she tried this first when DD was 3 weeks old!
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Posted: 17 May 2011 at 5:09pm |
That's so sweet, sadly my Nana's are long gone and I would have loved some silly advice from them.
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Posted: 17 May 2011 at 6:43pm |
lol that is gold! Fortunately for me neither my Mum or Nana give that sort of 'advice' haha. It's cute tho
As for 'preparing your nipples' lizzle.... I actually got told to to that by my friend who is 27 (albeit with a toothbrush, not a goldilocks lol). She got told to by her Mum when she was pregnant and she thought she was mad so didn't do it... she got really bad cracked nipples and huge amounts of pain so I thought I might give it a go when I got UTD. I gave mine a quick scrub with a soft toothbrush every time I had a shower and I never once got a cracked nipple. No pain, nothing. BFing was easy peasy for me and I pay full credit to that little toothbrush! lol
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Posted: 17 May 2011 at 6:49pm |
sandie wrote:
every time my aunt sees me BF she comments how hard it must be for DD to drink lying down...we just use the plain old tummy to mummy hold... She has even tried to position DD straddling my knee so she is sitting... she tried this first when DD was 3 weeks old!  |
Actually Plunket Nurse suggested this sort of 'hold' for me to help reduce wind as DS got really bad bouts of colic - it did help heaps!
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Posted: 17 May 2011 at 6:51pm |
Had to laugh about that post haha
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Posted: 17 May 2011 at 7:21pm |
Classic!!
My MIL suggested I should add salt (to sweeten it) to the potato/EBM puree I had prepared for my 6 month old twins after they rejected it when I offered it in their second week on solids.
I thought she was joking until she told me to add salt to something else to make it 'sweet' so they would eat it.
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Posted: 17 May 2011 at 7:30pm |
Awesome  Amazing your Mum / Dad made it in one piece!
Our lawyer told us that when he's teething to drink enoug alcohol so 'he gets a bit in your milk - just enough to calm him down'. And when I visited my Grandma in Australia, I popped in to see her (slightly batty) neighbour, who told me all about driving from Darwin to Perth with a five-month old: "It was easy, I just popped a bit of rum in his bottle of milk every time he woke up - not much, mind, just enough to keep him sleepy"
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Posted: 17 May 2011 at 7:31pm |
Oh I have a whole family full of gems.
As I am leaving for the hospital - "If they offer you a c- section take it"  BTW I had a no problem natural birth.
Dip the dummy in honey
She will have bandy legs if you let her stand up like that
Why have you got that child strapped to you again.
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Posted: 17 May 2011 at 7:40pm |
I had some classics...
Are you feeding him AGAIN???
Is he having another sleep? You only got him up an hour ago!
Put some brown sugar in water if he's thirsty
Just let him cry, eventually he will fall asleep
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Posted: 17 May 2011 at 8:24pm |
hehe, this gave me a laugh!
I wasn't given advice, but it amazed me throughout my pregnancy that my nana could remember all her pregnancies "Oh aunty such and such did that too" she had 9 children
The only thing she mentions is the fact that we aren't married, "why do young people insist on starting families and they aren't even married yet?"
Makes me wonder if our grandchildren will laugh at what we are doing now
* my Aunty gave me this advice - To stop baby from waking during the morning, start giving her water bottles, they won't bother waking for just water. When my girl was 5months old.
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Posted: 17 May 2011 at 8:25pm |
I've had the brown sugar/water one as well! What is that about!?
My nana is the eldest of 12, mother of 6 and a nurse (back in the day) and i'm sure this was all the standard approved method of parenting at the time but it certainly made me think! I wonder if DS will think i parented weird if/when he has kids!
My Dr when i confirmed my pregnancy adviced me to rub turps or meths on my nipples to toughen them while pregnant and to cover them in margerine while i was feeding...sounded weird to me so i never did.
She also told me when he was new if he was fed, burped and changed then to put him to bed and shut the door - no need to coddle him.
And the other week she asked if i'd let him have a kick on the floor yet (well...what did she think he was doing?)
My other nan advised me to rub rum on the gums when teething - no subtle milk method for us!
Ahh bless, all well meant advice!
ETA: every time we chat she asks about his dad, then follows up with "so...you're not getting married then? I suppose things are different these days..." in this disbelieving tone!
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Posted: 17 May 2011 at 8:58pm |
I was advised my then 3 month old should be on solids lol
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Posted: 17 May 2011 at 9:00pm |
What your nan told you sounds pretty accurate to what they used to do.
I have my dads plunket book he was born in 1930 and would have been 80 last year (my mum was 37 and he was 48 when I was born).
The 1930s advice is so crazy/funny now - absolutely no night feeds or snacking, a bowel motion MUST be secured everyday, a scraped chop bone to chomp on at 3 mths?
In the Plunket book circa 1930 BF seems to be encouraged initially but then at 3 months he was put on "formula" the plunket nurse wrote the recipe so much water, cream milk and something called karalac?? In one of the recipes there was more water than milk  a fortnight later the entry - Dan has been unsettled and fussy (and no weight gain). New "formula" recipe given which had way more milk and cream and a week later he was sleeping much better and had gained weight. I bet poor dad had been hungry
My mum is 70 soon and she never tells me to do things the old fashioned way so glad she has rolled with the times.
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Posted: 17 May 2011 at 9:27pm |
It's not just grandmothers, my mother's generation doesn't seem to be much better. Much of the OP advice is very similar to mine and DHs plunket books of the late 60s/early 70s. I think the rosehip was for vitamin C perhaps? Karilac is mentioned in mine, as is castor oil and something else I've forgotten that I know had alcohol in it. I thought the brown sugar/water was for constipation. I apparently suffered from constipation (mum knows different now and 2 more children later) so I was given prune juice from a very early age - I wasn't even on solids then. Weaning seemed to be encouraged much earlier, DH was fully weaned in a week (my breasts would have died if I'd tried it that quickly) at 22 weeks old. My parents couldn't understand why I continued to BF my son past 6 months, and they've constantly asked when am I going to wean him. They can't understand why we didn't put honey on his dummy, why he can't have peanut butter, why I refused to give him biscuits when we started him on solids, or even why I offer him fruit or veges rather than a biscuit (no wonder my sister and I have been overweight so much of our lives). They can't understand why I don't add sugar or salt to his food, and as for strapping him into a car seat, sympathise with him when he moans about going in there.
I used to be told all the time "he's old enough, he should be sleeping through the night by now". He was about 6 weeks old when that topic started. When I comment that's not what my brother did, I got told "he was different".
All three of us were apparently at least 3 weeks overdue, and considering she never had a scan, one pregnancy was while on the pill and another with an IUD, how could you tell? She also reckons she had pre-eclampsia, but none of what she says about it sounds anything like what I know of it.
Mum's usual advice to my friends (but not me strangely) is to have a brandy before feeding to help the baby sleep.
It often astounds me we made it through infancy.
Actually, have just remembered that my MIL was really concerned that DS was in a capsule in the backseat of the car. She told me to always make sure someone sat in the back with him to make sure he was okay. Well meaning, yes, practical, no way.
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