21sts- alcohol

How would you feel if you were invited to a 21st where alcohol wasn't paid for, but was available at the bar for pub prices?

We are doing it ourselves so can't afford a lot.... Just hire + food + non alcoholic drinks will be stretching the budget a bit.... It would be stated on the invites that alcoholic drinks are available at the bar (or something to that effect)

i would rather go to a BYO than pay pub prices.

we had mine at the Glengary pub in invers.
I got free room hire as long as I put some money on the bar but i dont know if they had a limit on the 'some'

But as for attending and buying drinks, ive been to 3 like that this year and it was fine.
cant expect everyone to pay for drinks, not given the fact that prices for everything are going up

i think its fine - most of the 21st we go to are buy at the bar - quite common i think

My father was going to put money on the bar for my 21st as part of my gift, and that is what I told everyone cause they were all going to pay a set price for the meal which everyone was happy with and then my Dad changed his mind and said it would be better for everyone to pay $2 per drink so the bar tab lasted longer and then the bar tender started charging full price. I was so annoyed and embarrassed cause I knew there were people there who couldn't afford it and were told they wouldn't have to pay.

LOL now its bugging me again

I think just as long as you state what it is going to be its not an issue. I know people were happy to pay a set price at my party cause they had plenty of notice.

I think its becoming more and more common nowadays however I think if it is a buy your own drink situation then you should also put on the invite that you don't expect a gift...

Perfectly fine. Although like someone else said would be better if it was BYO venue!

bowie wrote: Totally normal, who can afford free drinks anyway!? My 21st i didnt even hire a venue we did a 'around the world' pub crawl (irish,mexican,kareoke bar, sake bar, russian, german & NZ bars) so drinks had nothing to do with me at all

this sounds like fun!

I went to 21st most weekends over 3 years (Dps friends then my friends!) and not once did any of them have 'free drinks!' - most at bars did discounted drinks either beer or wine or a mix of drinks. Most 21st ive attended at houses has been byo or some drinks supply and then byo?
I had mine at a Bar/Pub and did Discount drinks so a certain amount was put on tab and people paid 3dollars (about half price) for drinks until it run out (tho my parents did top it up think they ended up paying $1800) we had bar vodka, bourdons, wine and 3 type of bottled beer. There was no hire charge either just a min of $500 pn a bartab and could be spend how we wanted. ooo and we also did free non alcaholic (which i made the most of since i was 13weeks preg!)

I guess it goes along way with discounted drinks if thats an opition my tab also included 21 shoots my dp did for me! and also i had about 100 people there.

That sounds fine. Most parties at bars you pay for drinks yourself, and if there is a bar tab its gone so quickly anyway!