Kids and nudity

It stops being appropriate when they or you feel uncomfortable with it.

Both the toddlers here were nude in the pool at 9am, couldn't stop them! Boy & Girl, were having fun playing in water, no issue with being naked.

I still shower with my 7yo, I don't shower with the 2yo cause he likes to poke your backside, he thinks it's hilarious, me not so much lol, still jump in the bath with them occasionally too.

AandCsmum wrote: It stops being appropriate when they or you feel uncomfortable with it.

I like that. Although I suppose there's a point where even if you're both comfortable with it it's not cool - to me showering with the 14-y-o probably falls in that one!!

And as for never being nude round your kids ever, I couldn't cope without being able to pop Jacob in his jolly jumper in the bathroom door while I have my shower! I figure it wasn't all THAT long ago he was getting up close and personal with everything in the process of being born, and he still has my boobies for lunch, it's GOT to be cool

I dont care if my kids want to run around naked they do it all the time. my oldest gets home from school and promptly throws his clothes off.

I also dont care about naked infront of them, if they decide they dont like it then ill wont.

as for the 14yr old girl, i dont know why she should still be needing to shower with an adult.

AandCsmum wrote: It stops being appropriate when they or you feel uncomfortable with it.

LIKE

Our daughter is only a baby and I'm frequently naked with her, either showering or getting dressed.

We're not nudists don't wander around the house naked - too close to the neighbours.

I noticed the different cultural perspectives on being nude when I lived in Korea - I visited public bath houses a lot, and everyone's just wandering around naked, no worries at all - adults & kids (gender segregated though!). When I first started going, a little girl was looking at me sneakily, but was just curious about why my body was different to the Korean women's bodies (big boobs, curves, that sorta thing!). They found it hard to understand why we westerners were uncomfortable at first - 'it's just a body!'.

We'll always try to be okay with bodies around here, my family really were not & it doesn't lead to healthy attitudes about nudity...I take baths with DS, we sleep nakey most of the time & don't get dressed before he comes barrelling in at 6am, and it's not an issue. Once he gets bigger we'll teach him that it's not okay to run round nakey all the time, but there's nothing wrong with it at the right times!

I remember seeing Kate Winslet on telly once talking about taking baths with her 8 year old daughter, and saying it was a great way for her to teach her little girl that all bodies are lovely, even ones with saggy mummy tummies & breasts

DH could not care less about walking around naked, unless he thinks the neighbours could see him, we have heaps of windows lol. He has baths with the boys now & then (when they spring him in it) although he can not get as many in the bath as he used too. They love it as he is a captive audience.

I think I am at that stage where I don't like being naked around them. DS1 has just turned 10yrs & I think he is curious, I have to keep telling him to knock before opening doors. DS2 who is 6yrs has always had a big mouth...why is your tummy so big, what that, & so on, does nothing for my self confidence & DS3 follows DS2 lead.

We are fine with them running around naked although we get DS1 to put togs on now before going in the pool, I think he is at that age where he should now. I have noticed DS3 likes his privacy when getting changed if other people are around. At kindy he went down the slide & it was wet so I had to change him & he wanted to go somewhere to hide & do it & same at home if people are over he goes "don't ook"

Funny how they all like the toilet door shut & always come pounding on it when I am in there...guess that does not count

Chickoin wrote: . I am curious as to what the story is behind the lady showing with her 14yo. Like is it just a daily thing they have always done? I also wonder how big the shower is. Mum and I would see each other nude when I was a teen, but showering together?

She said that she is so busy doing household things that sometimes it works out that they both shower at the same time. She helps her wash her hair etc. It didn't seem like a big deal, and it wasn't like a 'special' time for them. It was just practical.

I don't have any problem with nudity as long as everyone is comfortable with it. I have wondered when that will happen though. DS1 is turning 3 tomorrow and I am very regularly naked around him. And he sees my boobs all the time when I breastfeed DS2 too.
I am not, however, comfortable being naked around anyone besides DH and my kids. I mean, if I am getting changed to go swimming that is okay, but I wouldn't strip off in front of my friends or anything.

tishy wrote: [QUOTE=serendipity] I noticed the different cultural perspectives on being nude

This is the same for BIL in Japan. There they find it unusual that we don't see our parents nude.

do you mean that they are liberal in japan also???i dont think so....that is definately not true.

i dont make a habit of being naked in front of my kids..neither does DH...if they walk in to the bathroom..well that may be the only appropriate time but they are yelled to get out!!!! i do have a house of boys though that may be why. DH will shower in the bathroon while youngsters are in the bath no worries...but not me
modesty people!!!!

Aquarius wrote: tishy wrote: [QUOTE=serendipity] I noticed the different cultural perspectives on being nude This is the same for BIL in Japan. There they find it unusual that we don't see our parents nude. do you mean that they are liberal in japan also???i dont think so....that is definately not true.

It is definitely true that in japan it's 100% nude in public baths (onsen). Probably not so much around town though

I grew up in a home where nudity was definitely ok. We used to camp at mapua, near Nelson, which is still clothes-optional part of the year and only stopped going when I was about 8 or so because mum thought it might make me uncomfortable (seeing other ppl, I think). My parents slept nude and walked to the bathroom nude till I left home.. Not sure what they do now, I haven't asked!

We are pretty relaxed here too, slept in nothing or very little because of the heat and certainly don't cover up when Callum comes in to say good morning. He is around a lot when I'm feeding daniel which is perfectly normal!

Whoever said "it's just a body" - so true!!

I don't know why but from a young age I had an idea that 'Sex' was 'bad' and recall my mum spelling 'sex' on a game of scrabble and I got quite upset and told my grandma (her mum) about it.

Anyway, I agree with the - when either of you feels uncomfortable. My mum or grandparents used to bath me when I was little and I started to feel uncomfortable about age 7-8 (about when puberty hit and things started changing, hair started growing...). To this day my mum will walk in the bathroom while I'm showering or in the bath with Lily and I'm fine with that. I also walk into the bathroom whilst she is showering (to wash my hands or brush my teeth for example) and we're both fine with that. I wouldn't let my granddad walk in though...

I bath with DD about 99% of the time, I mainly bath her and DP has a shower at the same time...
I will probably wait until she tells me she's too big to be bathing with me, have me bathing her etc like I did.

For now she loves being nude and crawling around or sitting around nude after a bath so no issues there!

I am happy for her to see me naked and ask questions about why we're different, I don't recall doing this with my mum and often just went to my friends to ask but I'd rather she asked me - than friends!