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Posted: 23 January 2011 at 9:09pm |
How did you know your child would benefit from going to daycare??
Today for the first time i have considered putting DD into daycare for either one day or maybe 2 half days.
I really dont like the idea of leaving her because its not often i do leave her but i kind of feel she needs to be around kids more now and i just feel like im not offering her enough. She is getting very naughty, always bored. Seems i can never keep her entertained.
We do go to playcentre but even lately she is always glued to me and wont do anything on her own.
I feel really bad even thinking about this because im not really pro daycare but just dont know what to do 
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Jaxnz1
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Posted: 23 January 2011 at 9:41pm |
I felt exactly the same when I decided to go back to work. DD had separation anxiety and wouldn't even go to her grandparents. I knew it would be good for her to gain some trust in other adults.
The first few weeks were horrible, and I felt like the worst Mum on earth!
A few months on and she absolutely LOVES it. As soon as we walk in the door she's all smiles and chatting away to everyone. I think it's been the best decision I ever made. I feel like she gets bored at home now when it's just me and her They do such a variety of activities and they keep a folder of everything she's been doing and they take photo's regularly.
DD goes two days a week, 12 hours a week in total and I think it's just the right amount of time for her.
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Posted: 23 January 2011 at 10:51pm |
 _SMS_ wrote:
She is getting very naughty, always bored. Seems i can never keep her entertained.
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This is exactly why I sent my wee dot. I was terrified she would end up sick and we would be back in hospital - but she loooves it!! only goes 2 days a week for 6 hours and is super excited on kindy days. Sometimes asks to go more, sometimes dosent want to come home!
It has been great for her imagination, she plays more alone, plays more outside, loooves playing with other kids, isnt shy to bowl on into a play ground and join in - Just says, Hi my name is Milla, and gets amongst it
I left work to care for her so was reluctant to give her to someone else to care for but Im soo glad I did - more for how much she needed it than I needed a break.
And now I get loads more cuddles!
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Posted: 23 January 2011 at 11:12pm |
Well i have always thought daycare is great in moderation, i have certinly never been against it. i beleive it gives Children great socializing skills, And gives them a place to learn and be creative . i started my daughter in preschool when she was just under a year ( as i had to go back to work ) It was a very slow transition as i had never left her with anyone before and she was a very difficult child ( colic, reflux , refused to take a bottle and would only take breast , she also cried ALOT ) It took 6 weeks of me going twice a week and staying there with her for an hr or two to get her settled before i could even leave her there . I am glad i decided to start 6 weeks before i went back to work as i know she would not have taken well to being dumped in there straight away ( as she was extremly attatched to me ) . it was very difficult leaving her at the start but i had to work so had no choice , after a few weeks she became really settled and i saw the BIGGEST chnage in her . She goes 3 days a week for 6 hrs at a time and she LOVES it . It was one of the best decisions i have made , she turned into a completly different child , she learnt to take a bottle quickly, she started to be happy around other people and her learning excelled straight away . Now at 18months she is a very social wee thing , always smiling and chatting ( in baby chatter ) to random people . i always get comments on how outgoing she is , and it keeps her entertained . She is such a energetic and full on child i simply dont think her or i would be very happy staying home all the time, she has lots of fun at preschool , they do all sorts of cool activities and she already has wee friends , Its very cute  . whenever i say "time for preschool " she gets biggest grin on her face and says "yay" .
Even if you just started your child on a trial basis and see how she went . see if she enjoys it. Do your research before you enrol her somewhere , have a look at a few and trust your gut good luck
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Posted: 24 January 2011 at 6:47am |
I guess the reason i feel guilty thinking about it is because i am a SAHM. Our kindy here doesnt start until 3 1/2yrs so still a while.
Its also not that im against daycare its just never been right for us, i have wanted to look after dd thats why im a sahm and i love taking her to play centre.
The other opition is taking her to playcentre more often, but she is still very attached to me there
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Posted: 24 January 2011 at 9:24am |
Thats one of the reasons I started Caden in daycare, the fact that he was getting bored, but my main reason was that, I got pregnant with Bella when Caden was 5 months old, and Ive had a rough time since then, and I needed the break and also some one on one time with Bella as she never got that time like Caden did.
So daycare was good for all of us! I was SO nervous and uneasy about leaving him, as I hadnt ever really left him, so it took me ages to enroll him, but once I finally did I felt good about it and Caden LOVES it, he never wants to leave lol!
Now Bella has started on a friday(had her first day this friday just gone) with Caden, so I have one day to myself which is great.
I was also one that said i would never put my kids in daycare/kindy before they were 4 but its been the best thing for all of us. he kids love it and I love the break 
But, if anything, daycare has made Caden more naughty lol as he picks stuff up off the kids there, but the pros for sure out weigh the cons! 
ETA - Caden goes Tuesdays 9-3.30 and they both go Fridays 9-3.30. - and Caden started in Sept last year so he was just over 2.
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Posted: 24 January 2011 at 9:32am |
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DS started off 2 days a week, and has just gone up to 4 and he LOVES it!! As soon as we walk in he starts kicking around and when we get to his room he is off, crawling all over the place and has an absolute ball. He is very friendly and sociable, and the staff there are amazing.
I was also a bit worried about putting him into daycare - it is at work about a 1 minute walk from my office so I can pop in and see him whenever. I am better now, but when he first started I was there 3+ times a day and they didnt mind at all. I looked into both daycare and home based care ,and this was the option that suited us the best.
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Posted: 24 January 2011 at 1:09pm |
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My situation is a bit different coz DD goes to daycare coz she has to (I work) but she loves it. She has lots of little friends and they get to do stuff that I wouldn't even consider doing at home. I'm not especially arty or creative and I do try at home with activities but I find she tends to enjoy them more at daycare anyway coz she sees how the other kids play with the paint, or the goo , or the playdoh etc and she finds new ways to try stuff. She seems better at taking turns than lots of other kids her age and while that might not be directly a daycare thing I can't help feeling that if she had not been exposed to other kids on a daily basis at daycare then she might not be as good.
I think my DD likes the company of other children and the stimulation of daycare. She likes being at home too but during the holidays she had 2.5 weeks off and she was telling me she missed daycare after the first week so they must be doing something right!
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Posted: 24 January 2011 at 1:14pm |
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I think it is also REALLY important for mum to get some time out. I know we feel guilty about it but we cant be perfect parents 24/7 and I know that myself and the boys get on each others nerves after a while. The break over Xmas was long enough. They really enjoy their daycare and just get to do so many more things than we do at home. I'm not very arty so at home they wouldnt get to paint and all that stuff.
Its hard to do it at first but I think you would be impressed by how much she enjoys it.
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Posted: 24 January 2011 at 1:26pm |
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Daycare is fantastic!
We put Daniel in for 9hrs starting when he was 2yrs 3m I think. 9hrs cause that was their minimum. So he went for 3 sessions of 3hrs. He loved it. They do so many cool activities and he made lots of good little friends. he still goes to the same daycare now though for 18hrs but hes moved to the 3/4yr old section.
Hes learnt so much from daycare and his portfolio is filled with all his adventures, the cool things hes doing and learnt and special activities they have done.
It was one of the best things I did for him. We enjoy each other more because we have time out from each other.
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Posted: 24 January 2011 at 4:45pm |
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Haven't read the replies, but was thinking maybe you are feeling like this now as it has been six weeks since playcentre etc finished for the holidays so you haven't had as many activities etc to go to with your DD? I know I am going a bit loopy at home with DD when we don't have playgroup or playcentre or story time at the library to go to - we are really looking forward to the school holidays ending!!
I would just say go to playcentre more, but if you don't think she is enjoying it as much as she would enjoy daycare then you can only try it out and see how it goes! (Though if she is clinging to you at playcentre, maybe that is a sign she is not ready to be left at a daycare? Plus daycare is expensive!!)
From my understanding, you can start leaving your child at playcentre from the age of 2.5, which your DD is not far off. If daycare doesn't feel right for you and your family, then I would say don't do it, see how your DD goes at playcentre this year (maybe she will be more confident now she is a little older and has had a bit of a break), and then when she is 2.5 and is able to be left on session you will be able to see if she is ready to be left on her own. In the interim, maybe you could try a different session at playcentre with different children?
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Posted: 24 January 2011 at 7:38pm |
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You are so right Soy Based Mama. I didnt even consider that until today. I forgot about it being school holidays and i think thats the main reason i do feel like this.
One week to go until things start back up so im looking forward to that. And ill see how we go then.
I think this horrid weather and being stuck inside has just sent me loopy. So hopefully tomorrow is going to be a better day
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