RANT SIL - NEED ADVICE PLZ?

ok this is all over the stresses of my SIL, she is a
sorry its so long, i really had to vent!!

20yo spoilt brat that has always got everything she wants and her way and never given me a break since me and mat met....

anyway latest issue is....

she was lurking on my lil brothers FB page and happened to read that we were going to stop by his new flat while we were in wellington next week for the P&C show as my parents are coming and they are taking their car and they too would like to see him....fair enough right...well she text dh last night that we should come and see her too as we hadnt seen her new flat (no sh*t we dont EVER go to wellington its over 3hours, nearly 4hrs driving there and back)...she also set the PIL onto us that morning suggesting we go see her especially.

anyway, DH text back and said that we wont be able to as we are going for the show and IF we have time we were going to stop by my bro coz its on the way home and my parents were the ones taking us in their car....then she sent a massive three angry texts saying that he doesnt even acknowledge her as a sister and that he spends more time with my family than his own etc...

OMG he hasnt seen my family since our 20weeks scan and before that at the 12weeks scan that i can remember and we LIVE on the same property and see his parents and lil bro EVERYDAY...she chose to move to wellington and comes up here at least once a month so its BULLsh*t that he has seen mine more than his!!!

She also complained that he doesnt hardly speak to her when she comes up...always comes on fri and sat and goes sun...all three days DH works!! hello hes not going to take time off and if you want to sleep in till late morning instead of hanging out with him before he leaves for work at 1:30pm then its your own fault!!

SHes also recently quit her uni degree AGAIN and is so naive and thinks shell walk into a new job after the holidays without trying that will allow her to stay on in welly since her flat was stupid enough to sign a 12month contract...ergh anyway thats a hole other story....

am i being unreasonable in thinking that shes just being a brat and that i dont need this stress from a naive lil cow...even if things go pear shaped like they might be and we end up in welly with our own car and alone i really dont want to go anywhere near her, everytime i see her or hear about her i end up stewing over her crap when i know i just should shrug it off but i cant, im not made that way...

im at a loss i really am, im sick of the extra stresses from his family and wish i could move back to mums for the next few weeks at least.

its bad enough that everytime i talk about preg or babies in general i get the 'oh your carrying so low, id be worried about pre term labour if i was you" crap from his mother no matter how many times i tell her that the growth is perfect and the mw if 100% happy with me and bubs...omg im just so over it!

advice?

lol fleur, your so awesome!

trouble is i cant avoid her crap all the time as his parents come over and bring her up occasionally and then theres her coming up every few weeks for the weekend...and coz dh is working im stuck here with her! ergh!

i do let him deal with her as he knows she pushes all my buttons and easily...he was going through this all last night while at work, another thing she doesnt appreciate and so when i got there he told me about it when we got talking about the P&C show...sigh...

I'm so glad my DH is an only child. No SIL's to deal with they sound like a pain in the arse!

If its your parents taking you, then surely you don't have much say in where you go? Its there car/driving after all.

she sounds deliiiightful !
and im inclined to agree with CJ , shes being a brat and as much as you can keep a distance, mentally as well as physically .

she doesnt sound worth stressing yourself out in your pregnant state .

...sooo glad I have 3 lovely BILs !

thanks kelly!!

unfortunately she wont compromise. she literally said she wouldnt as she now believes its up to us to make it up to HER! yeah right

i think im going to chat to dh when he gets home and tell him we arent going near her together while im down there and that i dont want to hear anything anymore AT LEAST until bubs is here...i think that will help anyway...

heck i just realized i suggested taking her to coffee the three of us when she was up here last time, she was the one that said no!!
Shes such a user, only does something if she gets something out of it...and even had the nerve to tell me when i have to have my baby right down to the day of the week so she can be present.....like i want you around me at that time!!



Edited by BAMN08

Just wanted to say I sympathise with you, my SIL can be a total PITA and is a total spoil brat (+ mother of the year etc.)and my IL's can be too! Its only recently that I have stopped caring what they think or do or say! But in saying that its still very hard work! HUGS!

Nic, hugs hunny! She sounds like an immature self centred little brat
Don't let her spoil your trip to Welly and sounds like it's best to just ignore her if you can, or at least let DH handle her as you don't want to be getting stressed out. Sending you hugs

trust me i bite my tongue everytime, i have been nothing but nice to her over the years and help her out with stuff all the time and never get a thank you...she even decided that my birthdays arent importnant anymore and even though she was up just came and said "oh yeah! happy birthday nic" on her way out to head home!!! we always make an effort for hers and she keeps reminding us that shes 21 next so we should be planning some wicked awesome present for her....haha NO

she got mat something nice, she got him a new chain for his necklace and a silver 21st photoframe...me i got a bar of soap and a lipbalm ...not that i wasnt grateful coz i was stoked to get anything and they did smell yummy ...i was like and you expect something highly expensive like concert tickets and stuff...ahhh no!

trouble is these guys, well not dh but the other two always get expensive presents from PIL, his lil 18yo brother got a laptop for his 18th and the year before a $600 electric guitar, year before that a PSP etc etc

SIL got a new $300 cellphone for her 20th and given her mums laptop which wasnt very old...and it continues...

she even came home on her mum (MIL) birthday and got her to take her shopping and came back with new jeans and boots on HER MUMS CARD! wtf, she comes home and plays the "mum im a poor student and i need card..."
You wouldnt be poor if you got a freaking better job and stopped spending your money on friends gifts when family should be more important and going to the movies and booze...another GROW UP MOMENT!

oh sweetie , you have to find something to do to relax and not have to think about her , get DH to give you a massage , or have a big vent to a friend who knows what your SIL is like .
She sounds like a silly little girl with a lot to learn about how to treat people , and she sounds like shes used guilt a lot to get her own way in life , so roll your eyes at her , at the lessons she will one day have to learn in life ....
and put your hand on your belly and think about the beautiful little girl you have growing inside and how exciting your life is going to be in a few months and let that bring a smile to your face