Decision Making in Your House?

After talking to a couple of friends this morning who both said things along the lines of "will talk to DH when they get home" or "am waiting for DH to get home so we can research it all" it got me thinking - who makes decisions in the house.

I make all decisions in regards to the kids purely cos I am home with them all day so have more idea whats going on with them etc. This is in regards to what DC, medications etc. I always talk to him about it later but he trusts my decisions.

I will always check with DH for outings as a couple or family.

I never check with DH if its an outing for just me.

House decisions in regards to repairs, gardening etc are all made by him.

What happens in you house?

Edited by Peanut

It's combined in our house. We generally run all our decisions past each other and come to a mutual agreement.

I make pretty much most of the decisions to do with the girls, ALL of the decisions to do with money and a lot of the decisions to do with the house renovations. For outings, if it's during the week when I'm with the girls, I just do it. For family outings, we check with each other.

We make decisions together. Although with DH now working away from home for 3 weeks every 6 weeks (iykwim) I am making more decisions without him.

Baby's not here yet, but guess it will be mostly me on a day to day basis as I'm the one that will be home - big things like child care etc will need to be made jointly.

We have seperate bank accounts for our own spending, so I don't have to discuss any of that with DH.
Bigger things have to be done jointly as we're both on the joint account.

Regarding going out etc, I usually tell him I'm going out same if he's off to RAM he tell's me he's going and he goes. The only thing I like to know is if he's going to be home and in need of food.. otherwise he goes hungry.

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Ditto.

During the day when it involves Jackson I make all the decisions, unless I need his medical opinion/advice on something. I pay all the bills so dont normally run that past DH unless its something odd or something I cant get my head around.

I manage all our finances mainly cos DH cant be assed and cos I like to know where our money is going and how much we are saving/spending. We always run big spends past each other.

DH manages the house things, inside and out. He manages all the technology stuff but will run it by me and then we make a mutual decision.

We generally go out as a family. But when I have girly meet ups I always talk to DH cos he needs to babysit Jackson.

Kate, you are one super mum

I’m not really sure… I think I make most of the minor financial decisions, and definitely all of the day-to-day running of the house stuff. Big things, we discuss – but often big things seem to be my idea, so it’s me putting it forward, and him either agreeing or trying to talk me out of it. Like re-doing the bathroom; I wanted to do it, he thought about it and wasn’t too fazed, so we are. Or the new deck – I wanted to do it, he was fairly persuasive that it wasn’t the greatest idea. So you could either say that he makes the decisions (because if he really doesn’t want to, I’ll usually drop the idea) or I do (because most of the time he seems pretty happy with my ideas, so most of them get done!)

The hard decisions we’ve had to make are all ones where I either haven’t had a strong opinion, or haven’t wanted to persuade him one way or another. Like doing his PhD – I felt that that was a decision he really had to make, because only he knew what he’d be happiest doing (and I would have hated him to feel like I pushed him one way or another).

It's about 50/50 for us... we tend to make our own decisions regarding social stuff - we run it by each other, but usually its informing, not asking! But I guess that will change when bubs is here.
We almost always go shopping together (whether its for clothes or stuff for the house) and any big expenditures (not that there's many of those these days) are (usually) discussed. DH used to be a bit of an impulse spender, but we had a bit more money back then so occasional surprises weren't too much of a drama.
DH does most of the maintenance work on the house, so he makes most of the decisions there.
And going back to uni was something I wanted to do, but I definitely discussed it with DH coz it was a big financial adjustment... so we both contributed on that decision. Having a baby was probably more my decision than his, coz he's wanted one since we got together pretty much, but I wanted to wait for the right time for me.
I guess I will be making most of the daily decisions with the baby when he is on the outside, coz I'm going to be the stay at home. At the same time I expect us to be on the same page and basically just communicate a lot about how we both want things done.

Pretty much all me here except if DH is home and its a big decision, we discuss it together. We don't usually have an option to do 50/50

we are pretty 50/50 too... though recently when E changed schools I made that decision by myself as I have to take him and I'm a teacher so he trusted me:) we talk through financial ones and any that involve each other....he's always happy to look after the kids if I need him to but i like to give him notice. but i do use the must ask Dh excuse too:)