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MamaT 
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Posted: 08 February 2011 at 3:23pm |
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DS throws everything he can get his hands on. It was cute and funny to start with, but now it is starting to become frustrating.
He throws his toys off the change table when dressing him after his bath, often at my head.
He throws every morsel of food off his highchair repeatedly, to the point where he throws food more than eats it and I spend all dinner time picking pieces of food up from around the room.
Telling him "No, don't throw xyz" doesn't seem to deter him at all, and often just ends up upset at my "mean mummy voice".
Anyone else had this problem? How did you deal with it? Is it just a developmental thing that I have to ride out?
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Posted: 08 February 2011 at 5:58pm |
DS still loves to throw things and he's 3 now  . One of the rules in our house is only (soft) balls and ballons can be thrown inside. It took a long time to get him to obey that rule and in hindsight we probably should have had it as a rule right from the start  .
If I said to you "Don't think about icecream. Don't think about icecream." what happens? It's pretty hard to not think about icecream aye  . So instead of saying "don't do xyz", you could try telling him what you do want him to do, or distract him some other way.
A good activity to do with them while they're going through the throwing stage is to set up an empty box/bin/container and practise throwing things into it - start by sitting them close to the container then move them further back/change to a smaller container etc. He can develop his throwing skills and have fun with you at the same time, and you are in control of the objects you want him to throw.
With the food thing, you could just give him a few bits of food at a time maybe?
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Posted: 09 February 2011 at 9:17pm |
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It often can be a method of learning they work through (which can happen at any age!)
But id tend to say no to the big things (picking up big heavy object and throwing it ) and ignoring the small.
Setting up activities that promote it, like the pp mentioned (rolled up socks are easy!)
Doing thing like at mealtimes - once the food starts to be thrown taking it away. "Oh you must be finished!" Eventually a connection will probably be made - when i throw my food, it goes away.
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Posted: 09 February 2011 at 10:06pm |
 kakapo wrote:
DS still loves to throw things and he's 3 now . One of the rules in our house is only (soft) balls and ballons can be thrown inside. It took a long time to get him to obey that rule and in hindsight we probably should have had it as a rule right from the start .
If I said to you "Don't think about icecream. Don't think about icecream." what happens? It's pretty hard to not think about icecream aye . So instead of saying "don't do xyz", you could try telling him what you do want him to do, or distract him some other way.
A good activity to do with them while they're going through the throwing stage is to set up an empty box/bin/container and practise throwing things into it - start by sitting them close to the container then move them further back/change to a smaller container etc. He can develop his throwing skills and have fun with you at the same time, and you are in control of the objects you want him to throw.
With the food thing, you could just give him a few bits of food at a time maybe? |
Ooh now I want Icecream 
Ds does that too with everything I try very hard to show him what I do want him to do with the item, cars drive, blocks can be stacked, balls roll etc And like Kim said I take food away while saying ''you must be finished'' and repeat 1000000 times a day
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MamaT
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Posted: 10 February 2011 at 7:56am |
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OK thanks for the advice ladies. I'll see how that all goes.
I think the food throwing is when he's not really hungry and just playing as just now for breakfast he's hardly thrown anything and eaten most of what was in front of him.
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Posted: 10 February 2011 at 12:16pm |
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DD does this too...
Food throwing for us is 'I'm finished/had enough'
I've also noticed if she spots something interesting that she knows she's not allowed to touch (TV remote, tv, Xbox/Ps3 etc) she'll usually biff her toys in that direction until she's right next to it and 'pretend' to play with her toys but then starts touching the other things.
No real advice though, sorry!
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Posted: 10 February 2011 at 11:29pm |
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MamaT my DS throws things a lot too. It drives me mental!!! He throws his drink bottle off the highchair, he'll throw his food off it (usually that's when I know he's finished). He also throws toys a lot too. I just say no to the big things like if he has my phone and throws it or if he throws his milk sippy cup and a little bit spills. Otherwise Im pretty sure its a developmental stage. A frustrating phase! I thing we just have to say no when it really matters and ride it out.
ETA my DS is 20 months old.
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Posted: 11 February 2011 at 6:36pm |
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yep we've got a thrower here too - at 2 1/2 years!! We have a rule that anything that gets thrown that isn't supposed to be (ie if it isn't a ball) gets taken away for the rest of the day - I confiscate and put it where he can see it but not reach. Usually he gets warned a few times with the first item, but after that it's instant. He NEVER loses more than two things...
I like the game idea though - might have to try that one!
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Posted: 12 February 2011 at 7:06am |
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I'm putting ours down to boredom/finished something, DD also throws her toys out of the bath when she's bored or had enough.
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Posted: 13 February 2011 at 8:09pm |
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DS throws things all the time too. With the food thing I've been trying giving him a little at a time like kakapo says and that seems to work better. I think sometimes he starts throwing it while eating some of the rest so by not having so much to pick from he throws less. I also do the 'you must be finished' thing and he's never been upset when I take it away so I guess he is finished!
He's started recently throwing things at me which is a lot less funny so I have to do the stern voice which he doesn't like and then rushes in for a hug.
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Posted: 14 February 2011 at 11:31am |
Aiden plays with and throws his food when hes had enough too- when Im really not egtting the message he has a tantrum in the highchair and waves his hands frantically across the highchair table, lol.
He throws everything too, and likes to hit people with things too. Doesnt help that we laughed at the beginning,...now we just have to try and show him the correct behaviour,...and sometime he will get it!
Our "babies" and not babies any more ,...welcome to toddlerhood
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